Bad timing or just low interest?

[Leopold]

Ok I'm going to make it short. I know this girl in one of my classes. Definitively laughs at all my stupid jokes and very high interest signs.

Texted her 2 weeks ago about coming with me to a festival. She said she had plans to go to a convention out of town with some of her friends. I told her to skip it and attend to the one next year. She replied that she already bought her ticket and all.

I just left it as that and went no contact and reduced any kind of primary attention to her while seeing her on class.

Today I ask her again to join and hang out with me tomorrow on the park. She again replies by saying she has an activity she must attend on her college club (this is no BS she is the staff in one of those fraternity community clubs).

I told her: Ditch it for one day, it wont do any harm. I'm more important.

She replied: No LoL uhm. I promised to attend (some BS excuse)

Leo: C'mon. Tell them some lame excuse like taking your dog to the animal psychologist.

She replied again. They already paid for me blah blah. I'm not going to make myself look bad. (some other BS excuse)

So I'm leaving it at that....


Now, This is where I need some input. Two strikes already... is she out?

I feel I must punish her with further NC at all.

So what's the verdict here? Am I planning the dates on the wrong time (both Saturdays) or she's just BSing me?

She's the kind of girl I want to loose my V card with and not a stupid slvt (at this point that's the least I care since beggars cant be chooser). So far I have played ALL my cards right with her.

She's receptive so far and she has responded all my texts (the few I have sent) in a rapid manner and always LOLing and all that high interest crap.

My AFC side is telling me something about her that she's willing to commit which makes her a bit better on my book. Also she loves to play Zelda games (read somewhere here those are keepers).

So what would be the most proper way to deal with this? Should I cut her off? (that's what my DJ side says). Should I give her one last chance? Further NC and retry again ( that's what my AFC side is saying)

Please dont tell me to spin plates... I know that's what I should be doing. Believe me, I'M TRYING VERY HARD!! I just dont have any other right now. That's why I'll be going out and focusing in the field this month.

 

[Bumsniff]

Ok I'm going to make it short. I know this girl in one of my classes. Definitively laughs at all my stupid jokes and very high interest signs.

Texted her 2 weeks ago about coming with me to a festival. She said she had plans to go to a convention out of town with some of her friends. I told her to skip it and attend to the one next year. She replied that she already bought her ticket and all.

I just left it as that and went no contact and reduced any kind of primary attention to her while seeing her on class.

Today I ask her again to join and hang out with me tomorrow on the park. She again replies by saying she has an activity she must attend on her college club (this is no BS she is the staff in one of those fraternity community clubs).

I told her: Ditch it for one day, it wont do any harm. I'm more important.

She replied: No LoL uhm. I promised to attend (some BS excuse)

Leo: C'mon. Tell them some lame excuse like taking your dog to the animal psychologist.

She replied again. They already paid for me blah blah. I'm not going to make myself look bad. (some other BS excuse)

So I'm leaving it at that....


Now, This is where I need some input. Two strikes already... is she out?

I feel I must punish her with further NC at all.

So what's the verdict here? Am I planning the dates on the wrong time (both Saturdays) or she's just BSing me?

She's the kind of girl I want to loose my V card with. So far I have played ALL my cards right with her.

She's receptive so far and she has responded all my texts (the few I have sent) in a rapid manner and always LOLing and all that high interest crap.

My AFC side is telling me something about her that she's willing to commit which makes her a bit better on my book. Also she loves to play Zelda games (read somewhere here those are keepers).

So what would be the most proper way to deal with this? Should I cut her off? (that's what my DJ side says). Should I give her one last chance? Further NC and retry again ( that's what my AFC side is saying)

Please dont tell me to spin plates... I know that's what I should be doing. Believe me, I'M TRYING VERY HARD!! I just dont have any other right now. That's why I'll be going out and focusing in the field this month.

Keep her around as a possible future option. Don't treat it as any big deal nor ask her out again. If she offers something for the two of you to attend fine. If not friend zone her. If a girl plays retarded games, lies, cheats or is causing you to not go after other chicks due to developing oneitis while giving nothing in return then you can go ghost.

You have to play it cool. Don't ask her anymore and see if she offers something to do in the future. In the meantime meet and talk to more girls.

If you can handle keeping her sidelined as a friend till she steps up and offers to do something with you while you talk to other girls, fine. If you can't. Then it's best to go ghost and meet new girls anyway.

 

[Iceberg]

Now, This is where I need some input. Two strikes already... is she out?

Two strikes. No counter-offer from her. Yeah, she's out.

She's the kind of girl I want to loose my V card with. So far I have played ALL my cards right with her.

AND you have her up on some pedestal? Ouch.

She's receptive so far and she has responded all my texts (the few I have sent) in a rapid manner and always LOLing and all that high interest crap.

They'll always respond. They want to keep the attention coming in. Whether the girl wants you or not, she'll take the attention.

My AFC side is telling me something about her tell me she's willing to commit which makes her a bit better on my book. Also she loves to play Zelda games (read somewhere here those are keepers).

More pedestal. And your Zelda comment is one of dumbest f**king things I've ever heard. Nothing personal.

So what would be the most proper way to deal with this? Should I cut her off? (that's what my DJ side says). Should I give her one last chance? Further NC and retry again ( that's what my AFC side is saying)

One last chance? She has your number AND she's aware that you want to hang out with her. You made your move. Time to let her go.

 

[f283000]

Ok I'm going to make it short. I know this girl in one of my classes. Definitively laughs at all my stupid jokes and very high interest signs.

If "very high interest" means denying you back to back i don't know what world you live in brother.

What you thought was "very high interest" could have been just another girl being friendly, maybe a bit flirty, absorbing the energy you were giving her (getting an ego boost from your attention). Just remember that next time don't judge their words judge their actions.

You know a very high interest sign? A girl agreeing to go out with you. All the stuff before that doesn't matter anymore girls even give out their phone #s as ego boosts like it's nothing now a days.

btw since when has LOLing been a sign of high interest??? Girls do LOLing about every 15 seconds when chatting on texts that's no sign of high interest.

Texted her 2 weeks ago about coming with me to a festival. She said she had plans to go to a convention out of town with some of her friends. I told her to skip it and attend to the one next year. She replied that she already bought her ticket and all.

This kind of made you look like a guy in a weak position. Basically beggin her to ditch her friends who she had already had plans to be going out of town with to be with you... doing what exactly? What could you possibly offer her that is going to make her ditch her friends?

Unless you got her trust already/are already in a relationship/you already got her mind won then it if you pit yourself against her friends you are going to lose and make yourself look even worse after the process. Don't pit yourself against her friends that's like a no win situation you voluntarily put yourself in why did you do that??

I appreciate you putting in the effort and you already asked a girl out twice. Even though you were denied you gave it your best shot (with some basic mistakes of course but you'll learn from it).

I personally would get rid of the number. I know you will probably not do that so if you don't take that advice I hope you lay down all the cards on the table. Be sexual when with her, show her sexual intention (tell her how sexy you think she is), touch her a lot (kino), STOP TEXTING HER SO DAMN MUCH, and ask her out 1 more time.

I only say the above cause i know you won't take my advice to follow the 2 strikes rule so if you ain't gonna follow the rule you might as well go all out so you don't end up getting your time wasted by this girl too much longer. If you go all out and use all all your arsenal to conquer her and you still get denied time to delete the digits from your phone.

 

[Mike32ct]

See my reply to the following thread...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=192446

I absolutely give you credit for trying. It took b*lls. But two strikes with no counter-offer, it's time to move on.

 

[Leopold]

Thanks for the wake up call guys. I really needed that.

Yes I do agree with that lame Zelda thing. I really dont know where it came from but I heard it somewhere here... just felt like mentioning it.

I guess I took the wrong signs in the first place, but to tell you the truth.. I'm not really VERY invested on her.
I never really texted her much. I have only texted twice with 2 more text of reply.

As for the number and all... I already deleted it shortly after I posted the thread. I'm not going to bother with this girl in reality since I will follow my DJ side with the two strikes rule.

She didn't meet my expectations... I'm not going to play by her rules. Simple.

Better go out find a social circle to improve my game in the field and approach.

 

[JoelyBoy]

I feel I must punish her with further NC at all.

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Dude I'm a mere newb and certainly no player but, seriously, do you really feel like she will be feeling 'punished' by no contact? she'll probably not even notice because there will be other guys also trying to get her on board

Just my 2 cents worth - girls are fickle