BAD situation

[level006]

I'm an emotional mess right now.

I asked a girl out for the first time three weeks ago. FORTUNATELY (and I will tell you why it IS fortunate later on) I asked her completely wrong. She took it as hanging out and said yes, but then we met up on MSN later on that day and she said she couldn't. Her boyfriend would be curious about us hanging out. Hardly anyone knew that she had a boyfriend too, only her close close friends. So I'm thankful that I asked her the wrong way and learned about her present-day status without affecting our friendship.

There's another girl, who is a grade younger than me, who is an HB-8 and really wants me. The way she talks, she's begging me to ask her out. The thing is, I can't stop thinking about the other girl. I know this might be oneitis and is greatly affecting my possible summer fling with this little hottie but I have sleepless nights over this girl. She's also dating a guy in Gr. 9 who I can tell doesn't love her as much as she loves him. It really hurts.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by level006
. She's also dating a guy in Gr. 9 who I can tell doesn't love her as much as she loves him.

which chick is doing the dating ?

 

[gravstar]

You have to try and get over this girl, but still stay friends with her. To do this just keep picking out all her faults and things that you don't like about her and keep running them through your head.

You should go out with the other girl too, have a good fling with her.

 

[level006]

The girl doing the dating is the girl I asked out. The Gr. 9 is single (but reallllly doesn't want to be).

What if, in the near future, something happened between her and this guy? That's the thing; I don't want to ask the Gr. 9 out if I have a future chance with the girl I really really like.

 

[familyguyfan]

Originally posted by level006
The girl doing the dating is the girl I asked out. The Gr. 9 is single (but reallllly doesn't want to be).

What if, in the near future, something happened between her and this guy? That's the thing; I don't want to ask the Gr. 9 out if I have a future chance with the girl I really really like.

Well, you don't know that that will happen. If it does, you can deal with it later. She is with another guy right now and you have another girl that likes you, so go for the girl that you can get while you still can.

 

[penkitten]

look the one you really want has a bf.

theres another available chick, go on and ask her out . have some fun!!!

we dont get everything we want in life.

 

[level006]

Thanks for the help, guys. It's actually the same thing I keep hearing from my friends. I just needed to hear it from someone else

 

[level006]

But is there a way to keep this girl's attention WHILE she is with this other guy? Just in case something happens? If I hook up with the grade 9, that's cool 'n all, but I might lose any possible chance with the girl I like in the event of SOMETHING going wrong in their relationship. Should I just keep talking to her as friends?

 

[gravstar]

Originally posted by level006
Should I just keep talking to her as friends?

You should do this, keep her as a close friend and go out with the grade 9 chick. So when both relationships end (lets face it HS relationships never last) you could have a crack.

 

[upcomingDJ]

it's only natural you have stronger feelings for one girl than the other... but one thing i do is keep my sh*t checked.. i treat 'em all the same, no special treatment...

 

[level006]

***UPDATE***
Scariest s*** happened last night.

So the girl I like is online. We're talking for 10-20 minutes or so when she asks if I have a girlfriend. I say no. After a few minutes of weird "relationships" discussion she finally says "if you like me you should tell me." Not knowing what to do in this situation, I said that I do. She was flattered too, except she is seeing someone so she couldn't. I was relieved though, because I could talk to her honestly now that she had figured me out. It was actually a great convo. It's as if the relationship we had has been strengthened.

Yet I couldn't sleep at all last night. It's really bugging me because this changes everything, making it awkward to talk to her probably in the near future. I have no idea what to do now.

 

[Peace_Out]

Find something that will take your mind off the girl. Whenever a Girl gave me sh*t i went and worked on my car. Whenever I was completely confused, and infatuated with a girl I go work on my car. It helped me incredibly because I forgot about her and my car is running much better. I win on both counts.

~Peace Out

 

[JayUK]

ENgland baby!

Hye man, same sort of thing happened to me, but i forgot about this gurl I really liked, and went after the gurl that liked me, and ended up liking her more than i ever liked the first gurl!
You could always go out wit the year below gurl, so the gurl u reaaaally like gets jeallous maybe?
It would not be classed as using the gurl who hanst got a boyfriend, because shelikes u, so ud both be gettin sumthin out of it.
Or if u wanted to be risky, you could try a pacey/joey moment in Dawsons creek, where he jus kisses her, an shes like whoa!
Then they end up together!
Good luck from England man an remmeber them convos u hav wher u click wit a gurl, ther awesome man!

 

[level006]

Because it's summer, I won't really be seeing her that much. We talk on MSN regularly...but now it's going to be awkward. I'm just wondering, when her and I are online at the same time, what should I do? She starts convos with me most of the time, but should I say something about last night?

Thanks guys

 

[level006]

...Any help would be great, she's bound to log on soon...