Bad situation!

[roscoe davis]

Ex ended our 2 year relationship and has still been sleeping with me. I have asked to see where it’s going to go and don’t get a serious positive answer. I recently had went out and met this lovely older women! I was really drunk and mentioned my ex and gave her Instagram info of my ex. The older lady seems cool and says she just would want to stay really good friends. I just get mixed signals from my ex even though ge relationship just ended;

 

[Billtx49]

Ex ended our 2 year relationship and has still been sleeping with me. I have asked to see where it’s going to go and don’t get a serious positive answer. I recently had went out and met this lovely older women! I was really drunk and mentioned my ex and gave her Instagram info of my ex. The older lady seems cool and says she just would want to stay really good friends. I just get mixed signals from my ex even though ge relationship just ended;

You’ve been downgraded to her safety net until she finds someone better…
If she wanted to end it, then end it completely. She’s most likely currently only using you for emotional support and sex.

 

[resilient]

Agree with billtx, she's staling until she has a firm replacement lined up. Don't be someone's option if you don't have a steady rotation of plates. Two years is a long time to keep around an ex as a f buddy and not still feel attached.

Also, why do you want to stay "just friends" with an older woman? Waste of time if you ask me...

 

[roscoe davis]

I wish things could go back to the way they where with my ex; but one minute she’s like we are friends only then she’s like i would be hurt if I found out you where cheating on me!

 

[Glassguy]

I wish things could go back to the way they where with my ex; but one minute she’s like we are friends only then she’s like i would be hurt if I found out you where cheating on me!

Cheating? How would you be cheating if she ended it? Thats what I would tell her.

"You decided to not take care of my needs anymore, therefore I am in search of the next person that can. We are not together and you should move out asap so I can move forward with someone new".

Mind fvck her, then kick her to the curb. Fvck her. Get on OLD, go out and start meeting new women and start having some fun.

 

[R.U.G.]

Next the b!tch. She's using you as a safety until she has something better. Never be a woman's safety.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Next the b!tch. She's using you as a safety until she has something better. Never be a woman's safety.

Can she get some play if she makes an effort?

 

[R.U.G.]

Can she get some play if she makes an effort?

Really depends on the bro. If he's strong enough to handle her when she does drop him like a hat, than sure, they can act like jack-rabbits. However, if it is an LTR, he prob. still has feelings for her. Thus, continuing to have sex with her will only hurt him, not help him. Unless, he doesn't give a fvck and is just using her for pleasure. Only the OP knows that answer.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Really depends on the bro. If he's strong enough to handle her when she does drop him like a hat, than sure, they can act like jack-rabbits. However, if it is an LTR, he prob. still has feelings for her. Thus, continuing to have sex with her will only hurt him, not help him. Unless, he doesn't give a fvck and is just using her for pleasure. Only the OP knows that answer.

So the only resolution after is to use her straight sex, she can't desire him after the fact and want to do right?

 

[R.U.G.]

So the only resolution after is to use her straight sex, she can't desire him after the fact and want to do right?

Sadly, when a woman is done with a man and breaks it off; it's done. Consequently, when a man breaks it off with a woman and wants to get back, then there is a good chance that could happen. As you know, men and women like or "love" the opposite sex in completely different ways. It could hadn't been anything that he did. It's just she wants something different or more out of life. Most women do not know what they want until after it has left the building.

 

[lizardking82]

See, the problem here is not that you're getting sex with the ex. The problem is your position in this and your position is not that of a cool ex who is banging his ex cause she left him, but she just can't keep her hands away from him cause there is something about him...

In this case, as @billtx49 greatly put it, YOU have been downgraded LOL. Never let any woman do that. Swipe the rug under that b1tche's feet and leave altogether. This is where most men are weak, they like the sex and keep going...don't be a weakling. Toughen up and leave her and her vagina wondering how they were not able to keep your as a temporary feeder. Men who value themselves never accept temporary roles unless they have abundance and don't mind being replaced anytime. You are not that type of man, so abort mission and move onto to better things.

 

[Igetit!]

Cheating? How would you be cheating if she ended it? Thats what I would tell her.

That's exactly what I thought.

Mind fvck her, then kick her to the curb. Fvck her. Get on OLD, go out and start meeting new women and start having some fun.

I agree......but something tells me he doesn't have the strength to do this. That line he said here.......

I have asked to see where it’s going to go and don’t get a serious positive answer.

speaks VOLUMES.....about both him,AND her.

About him,cause him asking her that tells that he's still into her......and I don't mean just sex....he seems to want to rekindle the relationship.
And about her,because she's obviously just playing games because she knows she can do this with him......and GET AWAY WITH IT.

He's getting what he's accepting from her. If he required more AND had a willingness to walk away.....even if it meant walking away from sex,she'd get lost,he'd move on,or she'd straighten up and show REAL interest instead of toying with him.

 

[greatsnake]

Start spinning plates and bring it to your ex’s attention. She’ll get the message.

 

[skinnyguy]

Sleeping with your ex after she dumped you = severe oneitis

 

[roscoe davis]

THe thing is things have been getting a little better with us since the recent break up ; if I pursue the recently met female she has my ex’s info and I run a risk !

 

[Billtx49]

THe thing is things have been getting a little better with us since the recent break up ; if I pursue the recently met female she has my ex’s info and I run a risk !

Yep, she’s keeping you hooked on hope until she’s finally ready to move on, then you’ll be under the bus.
Btw, Never give a girl another girls info, it’s not an intelligent move…

 

[greatsnake]

THe thing is things have been getting a little better with us since the recent break up ; if I pursue the recently met female she has my ex’s info and I run a risk !

Who cares about the ex. Spin plates

 

[R.U.G.]