bad phone call...

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Ok... this is one of the worst phone calls ever.
I called a girl and she was with a guyfriend and her bf... she had told her bf about me and he talked to me for like a few seconds... and I didn't really say much to her because they were doing stuff to her or something.. so one point that I'll make is her bf said "are you messing around with my girlfriend?" I said "maybe" then there was silence... then she went to talk to me, but she said a couple words, then hung up... but I think her phone died because she was telling me it was almost out of batteries...

I told her to call me back but she was like "I can't" and I was about to ask her why, but it went dead.

So this leaves some mystery, and the problem of if I should call her or wait for her to call me back... she also referred to me as "my friend"... so I should use some push and pull and iso on her to get the friend name out of her head... um she also referred to the people she was with as friends, even though one was her boyfriend, but I doubt this means anything.

very weird experience, but I don't feel like nexting or anything yet.

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Hey man. There are many points why you should let this girl go and I'll name a few to let you know why:

1. She has a boyfriend and it's not you (if she wanted to be with you, she would break up with her boyfriend for you, but won't do that). She has a bf and a girl with a boyfriend is tough to handle, especially if you are not experienced. Plus, how would you feel if someone took a gf away from you. It's not cool. Since she has a boyfriend, all I can say is NEXT.
2. She lives 3 hours away. Once again, a girl who you can barely have physical contact with is tough to handle. Why would you want a girl who you can only see maybe once every few months, maybe once a half a year. Not worth it. In order to attract her, Kino and the push pull method with escalation (by being NEAR and WITH her) is impossible for you.
3. She referred to you as a friend. Well you are her friend, cuz if she has a boyfriend, any other guy not named her boyfriend is a "friend." You are her friend, and that will be it. Once a girl makes up her mind about you, it is very, very tough to change it. First impressions do mean a lot and its not impossible to change them, but it is very tough.

I give you a lot of credit on calling her. I am impressed you did and did a great job in calling her. For the reasons above, honestly whether you want to hear it or not, you gotta move on! Sorry!

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I'm not moving on her until she breaks up with her bf, so she's nexted until then, and I might forget about her along the way.
I can still create attraction with her but I'll be doing it on my own, and from the friend point of view, which won't be as affective.

How do I go about communicating with her next?
I'm mad because somebody hung up on me... but should I wait for her to call me back? (I think she probably won't.)
So how long should I wait to call her?

I wanan stay away from putting her on a pedestal, I don't know if I should wait awhile and call her saying I was mad so I didn't call back.. or what...

Or.. should I stop overanalyzing?

 

[Chicks Just Dig Me]

Put it this way. You told her to call you back. You got two options here: either she calls you back or doesn't. If she is interested in you at all (friend, potential mate) she will call you and stay in contact with you, but if she does not call back, she does not care and you are worth nothing to her. Wait a couple of weeks and if you do not hear from her, move on. Simple as that.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

She said she can't call me back lol... her parents probably don't let her call long distance, she lost my number, or another reason.
I'm only calling one more time, and I'll wait a week before I do so.

===Topic Closed===

I solved it myself

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

um topic reopened because she just called me back and left a message... (telling me to call her back).

so am I really at like a friend/potential mate?
if yes.. should I read something about long distance attraction and actually apply it?

this is like the first girl I'm actually gaming.. so you can tell me I've done absolutely nothing now.

however I do admit I am still a major AFC, but I want to become an rAFC so I'm willing to find other girls to game also, in addition to this one.

And can someone besides mike post here please > _< lol

Edit: btw when I called and told her to call me back, her boyfriend was like "no shes not a wh0re, you have to call her back."
so in his face

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I called her and we talked but she was like "this is kind of awkward because I'm with all of my friends"...
-But I continued to talk with her and we had an ok conversation, and she did laugh at one point...

She said "I'm talking to my friend from camp"
-I'm still a friend, but I bet I can move up over time.

Later her bf was like "hey whats up jesus" (she told him that people at camp called me jesus) and then she said "I think I have to go"...
-This time I asked her if she would call me back, and she said yes, so I said good... this might have been a little risky... um anyway...

Her phone died again or something and I got hung up on, like last time...

Part good part bad, I did manage to talk alot more than I normally do, but she seemed like she didn't really want to talk.

.. the call was 4 minutes long and I think I'm not doing that well... but:

I called her and we talked but she was like "this is kind of awkward because I'm with all of my friends"...
-But I continued to talk with her and we had an ok conversation, and she did laugh at one point...

She said "I'm talking to my friend from camp"
-I'm still a friend, but I bet I can move up over time.

Later her bf was like "hey whats up jesus" and then she said "I think I have to go"...
-This time I asked her if she would call me back, and she said yes, so I said good... this might have been a little risky... um anyway...

Her phone died again or something and I got hung up on, like last time...

Part good part bad, I did manage to talk alot more than I normally do, but she seemed like she didn't really want to talk.

How do you think I'm doing? (anybody)

 

[Rejected123]

I like wat Chicks Just Dig Me said. If she still has a bf she isnt worth ur time unless she breaks up with him really soon.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

you're ridiculous.

read what you wrote and you'll know your answer.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

I'll read some stuff on attraction in the bible and I'll just post what happens here...
Some people start off as friends, things change... if I cut contact with her things won't change, they'll just stop - and thats stupid even if it's the right thing to do.

 

[Grand Wizzard Alamar]

Lmao...
so she called back and was like "I'm sorry that my boyfriend was yelling at you the other day. He doesn't like you and he's just overprotective."

2 minute convo and I told her to call back later lol...

 

[smooth guy]

Lmao that is hilarious.

Find another chick and cut the crap.