Bad Habits

[Legendat24]

Your mind working in such a way that it gears up for repetitive action. If you are always in a negative state, you will automatically revert into a negative state.

Simply put, your brain wires itself for whatever you are doing. Right now I am trying to un-wire years of not approaching and taking action for exactly what I want.

Whatever it is, whether it be watching TV instead of working out or reading a book, your brain automatically goes into a mode to conserve energy and do what you've always done.

Repeating the same old actions and thoughts over and over again.

This is how we function... and the first step to breaking the cycle is realizing this. I am going to talk in a future article about instilling good habits.

Let's delve into pick-up related terms focusing on approaching and self improvement. This probably the biggest step the most puas need to get over (myself included). I mean fully get over. We have been in a trend of not doing it for so long that it becomes habit to just watch the girl walk by. Then there are the times we are in "game mode" when we are out with a mission of approaching so then finally we do. Then along comes the one super hot girl of the night and we don't approach because we are not used to it.

Even though these are steps to break out of the bad habits partially they are a step in the right direction are still part of a bad habit. Every choice that you make instills itself into your brain as the type of action that you expect of yourself. Changing this is a large task, but it is certainly possible. Let's slowly break those bad habits and take right action moving toward our goals starting now.

The same will always get you the same,

even if its just what you think about.

I am talking about fully breaking bad habits because just going out and talking to girls on the week days is fine but I want to do it immediately everyday all the time. Don't you want it for yourself too? Motivation is the key lets figure this out together.

Legend

 

[Enyce]

What are you really talking about here?

I guess its a good intro. for an article but its not very useful on its own as there are no steps for action. Such a step would read something like:

Imagine how things would be best for you. See how the people see you, how the interaction goes, etc. Then put all those positive things into affirmations and know that because of the law of attraction those things will start to come to you, so look for them even as soon as tomorrow. And you will notice a change in how you feel when you read these to yourself. If you do not notice this change, then it is a more mild form of you not being happy with your affirmations. The key is keep changing them and changing them to be more of what you want to be like until you can feel that kind of person and be him!

Sorry to tell you OP but this subject has been rehashed again and again and if you're gonna sit here and try and rehash it again well you're just wasting your time, come up with something new. Again sorry to beat down on you but for your audio debriefs to be "real-time" you'd have to be sitting there performing them on demand. Unless you use "real-time" as a catch-all marketing phrase whose meaning you plan to dispute to rationalize validity in which case Lol.

 

[ready123]

he's talking about homeostasis. you do something for a long time, it gets internalized as a habit

but it's EASY to break as long as you can take the correct action at a given time. too many people, though, rationalize they need to be in state before they act. then they never move out of that intertia

here's my trick to beating this and acting. I make myself forget the end goal for a bit, and just take a small step in the right direction - just focusing on that small step. as an example, I go to the gym at night, after class and work when I'm tired as hell. my mind is thinking about how tired I am, how much energy I'm gonna be exerting, how much pain I'm gonna be in, how I haven't eaten, how I haven't slept enough lately, and trying to shut me down. so I shift my mind to the immediate future - just driving the gym. I don't think about exercise. I just think, I'm gonna drive to the gym and whatever happens happens. then I'm there and focus on something else small - I'm gonna do one set of this. then gradually I get through my whole workout

same thing with pickup. guys that focus on sex, makeouts, etc, and don't have the reference experience to believe they can pull it off just paralyze themselves. best thing you can do is literally just focus on a small step in front of you with the attitude, after that, whatever happens happens. just focus on saying hi, or somethign small

even your brain knows saying hi won't kill you. slowly and painlessly you stretch your comfort zone, break inertia and fall into the desired state.

 

[Aragon034]

and here i was thinking you were going to yell at me for belching obsenely loudly at inappropriate times. Seriously, i can replace an air raid siren with it

On a serious note, i actually do agree with most of what OP is saying. Homeostasis is a big obstacle for alot of people, it's a big job unraveling all those wires and reorganizing them. It's also quite uncomfortable so that turns a great many off right away.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

good advice from ready123 - go follow.

 

[Legendat24]

here's my trick to beating this and acting. I make myself forget the end goal for a bit, and just take a small step in the right direction - just focusing on that small step. as an example, I go to the gym at night, after class and work when I'm tired as hell. my mind is thinking about how tired I am, how much energy I'm gonna be exerting, how much pain I'm gonna be in, how I haven't eaten, how I haven't slept enough lately, and trying to shut me down. so I shift my mind to the immediate future - just driving the gym. I don't think about exercise. I just think, I'm gonna drive to the gym and whatever happens happens. then I'm there and focus on something else small - I'm gonna do one set of this. then gradually I get through my whole workout

same thing with pickup. guys that focus on sex, makeouts, etc, and don't have the reference experience to believe they can pull it off just paralyze themselves. best thing you can do is literally just focus on a small step in front of you with the attitude, after that, whatever happens happens. just focus on saying hi, or somethign small

even your brain knows saying hi won't kill you. slowly and painlessly you stretch your comfort zone, break inertia and fall into the desired state.

Yes that is great advice the whole small steps thing is key. I know sometimes I fall into having a problem of focusing on the end game when really I should focus on the first step and just walking up and saying Hi.