"Bad" date

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So, I just went on a date with a girl I matched on Tinder. Now, there I only saw face pics só I knew there was a danger of the rest not being as appealing, which happen to be the case. I didnt feel attracted to her when I met her, but since it was only a coffee date close to my place and only spent 2 euros on it Im not too worried about it, but i do have a question for you guys , If you find yourselves In the same situation do you still game the girl as practice for the next one or you just bail out after 15 mins?
 

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With me it depends on how bad the false advertising was. If it's a little or moderately across my attraction threshold I will hang with her anyway for a little while. But if its an all out sham, like the girl who once had a pic when she weighted 140 lbs and in real life she was 400 easily, I won't waste my time on that. adios' gorda'.
 

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Tell her that if she wants to chill again she's going to have to buy you a shawarma and run you a sloppy blowj0b, otherwise you got sh1t to do.
 

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IMO if you find yourself on a first date with a liar, tell her you dont appreciate being lied to, how she lied, and leave. Many times these chicks will accuse you of being shallow but fvck that! Honesty is the backbone of relationships and if she cant be honest about who she is and find someone who in into HER, she doesnt understand what a realt relationship is.

I know I sound harsh but I give you permission to do this. When you dont you encourage the lies to continue. My completely self serving motivation is that I pay for these lies. I represent myself on dating apps as exactly who I am, face, body, all. I get men who think i'm lying or gaming or something because of these other women. They also wait for my crazy to show. i dont have any crazy, but, sine the other women do, i get lumped into that. Very frustrating. I have to prove that I am NOT something.

Please consider telling her you are not interested in meeting a liar, and leave.
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IMO if you find yourself on a first date with a liar, tell her you dont appreciate being lied to, how she lied, and leave. Many times these chicks will accuse you of being shallow but fvck that! Honesty is the backbone of relationships and if she cant be honest about who she is and find someone who in into HER, she doesnt understand what a realt relationship is.

I know I sound harsh but I give you permission to do this. When you dont you encourage the lies to continue. My completely self serving motivation is that I pay for these lies. I represent myself on dating apps as exactly who I am, face, body, all. I get men who think i'm lying or gaming or something because of these other women. They also wait for my crazy to show. i dont have any crazy, but, sine the other women do, i get lumped into that. Very frustrating. I have to prove that I am NOT something.

Please consider telling her you are not interested in meeting a liar, and leave.
Thanks
This girl didnt lie, it was more of a gamble from my side since she only posted face pics (which looked nice) but not body pics.
 

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This girl didnt lie, it was more of a gamble from my side since she only posted face pics (which looked nice) but not body pics.
True, very true. Then what I said has no relevance to this post, but please consider it next time something like this happens
 

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This is what I don't like about blind and on-line dating. I would never ask anyone out that I wasn't attracted to. Frankly, I would not know how to behave on a 'date' who I had no idea about. Men really can't do this properly because we are visual, we know IMMEDIATELY if we are interested. My guess is you would know as soon as you saw her if you wanted her.... at least that is how it works for me. Her attitude, personality and sense of humor will keep me around longer, but I will know right away if anything is going to happen.

So to answer your question, no. I would be polite and friendly, and see if maybe there might be some business opportunity or something else, but I wouldn't pretend to pursue anything romantic if nothing was there.
 

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You have to be rounded. This should be your goal.

Which means when you find yourself in situations that are not pleasing, you still manage the situation.

In this case, you carry the date like you would with any other girl.
Brush up on your convo skills. Brush up on your pretense skills. Brush up on your pedestal mentality. Brush up on your seduction skills without fulfilling the girl's desire.
Brush up on other part of your game that needs work. Kiss close (always kiss close) and never respond back.

There's nothing holding you back, you can really afford to blow the date, dare things you wouldn't necessary do when you have shaky hands, out with a dime.
If you struggle to kiss close half way through the date, here's you chance.
If you struggle to sexualize convo 5minutes into the date, well here's your chance.
You already have nothing to lose.

She's human too. Not that her emotions should matter to you, but when you're in these situations you don't just run, you bring out your manly leadership skills and learn a thing or two from her.

Every date shouldn't lead to a lay but each date should improve you.

Every interaction with a woman is an opportunity to improve you.
 

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That girl might not have exactly lied, but she was deceptive/misleading on purpose. That's how women roll, they know exactly what they are doing when it comes to stuff like this.

Better screening up front is the correct way to handle this. When in doubt ask for a body shot. You'll never have to ask a hot girl with a nice body for a body shot pic, she'll always have a few on her profile!
 

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You have to be rounded. This should be your goal.

Which means when you find yourself in situations that are not pleasing, you still manage the situation.

In this case, you carry the date like you would with any other girl.
Brush up on your convo skills. Brush up on your pretense skills. Brush up on your pedestal mentality. Brush up on your seduction skills without fulfilling the girl's desire.
Brush up on other part of your game that needs work. Kiss close (always kiss close) and never respond back.

There's nothing holding you back, you can really afford to blow the date, dare things you wouldn't necessary do when you have shaky hands, out with a dime.
If you struggle to kiss close half way through the date, here's you chance.
If you struggle to sexualize convo 5minutes into the date, well here's your chance.
You already have nothing to lose.

She's human too. Not that her emotions should matter to you, but when you're in these situations you don't just run, you bring out your manly leadership skills and learn a thing or two from her.

Every date shouldn't lead to a lay but each date should improve you.

Every interaction with a woman is an opportunity to improve you.
Good advices Stevo, thanks.
 
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