Backbreakers DJ Apptitude Test

[backbreaker]

4 questions, multiple choice 1 essay question. Must be at least 1 paragraph

1. you are dating a woman for 2 years. It's your birthday, she buys you stuff all the time. She suprises you with a pair of new dress shoes you had been looking at. The only problem is, they are 2 sizes too big. when confronted she says Oh i'm sorry i forgot what size shoe you wear, i'll take them back. Note, she has bought you at least 3 pairs of shoes over the last 2 years and you presume, knows what size shoe you wear. Do you:

A. Think nothing of it
B. Think that's kinda funny she should know what size shoe I wear, I wonder did she get me mixed up wtih someone else
C. know that she must have gotten you mixed up withs omeoen else and now you are keeping tabs on her
D. Break up with her


2. You met this girl 3 weeks ago, you have went on 2 or 3 dates by now, you've had sex. Good sex. She like you, you know this. But she got out of a very long relationship and wants to move slow. YOu go to a night club on a saturday, by yourself, and you see a girl that looks alot like your girl you are seeing somewhat, ni the corner hugged up with another guy. you double check it is her. She spots you, and comes up to you to try to explain the "situation". Do you

A. Tell her to leave you alone / don't talk to you anymore
B. Tell the dude to "come at me brah"
C. Ask her why she is doing this to you, you thought she really liked you
D. Be nice, tell her it's no big deal, speak to her, and go about your night, go hit the dance floor


3. You have a very very important meeting with a business person the next day. You are dating a woman, or ****ing, doesn't matter at this point, and she asks can she come see you that night/spend the nght. You tell her you'd love to but seriously you need to get to bed early to be ready for tomorrow. At about 8:30pm, while at home watching whatever it is you watch at 8:30, you get a knock on the door, it's her. She has decided to come over anyway, even though you told her not to. Do you

A. Let her in/let her spend the night
B. Tell her to go home
C. Confront her for stalking you (she might think that you are seeing someone else which is why you don't want to see her)
D. Let her come in for a while but tell her she has to go home later

4. you talk to this girl, you've been talking now for a month. Things seem really good. It's a saturday night, you are a church boy, so you dont' go out on saturday so you can be in church early in the morning. She says she is going to call you back in a minute and never does. You don't think much of it, but say in a polite matter of fact way hey babe i wish you would have called me back, I like talking to you, and she gives you a response saying that you need to grow up, and dont' be mad becuase she has a life, you can't tell her what to do. Do you

A. Block/delete/ignore/no contact
B. Ask her why she is acting the way she is
C. pretend nothing happened
D. decide not to call her back for a week and make her contact you


5. Explain in at least paragraph or more why it is or is not okay for a man to live with a woman before marriage

 

[SoldMySoul]

Beside the number are my answers, but I give an explanation to what I may be thinking as well.

1-C may think of B---- But I am always cautious and look for answers.
2-D Wish I had more choices. Take it slow, huh and hugged up?
3-D Choice A would be okay at this time, long drought and B depending on my mood.
4-A This is my soild choice for this b1tch

Damn, BB, you are asking quite a lot!! Living with a woman you are not married to would ruin your chance at any single hood you would have left. Furthermore, it would complicate your situation more because you would be pressured into marrying her after awhile even if you didn't want to. Cohabitation with a woman is meant for married people that want to share a life together and if I decide to live with another one, she will have to be just about perfect before I would. Spending the night with someone other than your wife once in a while is acceptable, as long as you do not use it EVERY NIGHT. Finally, it will mean you lose yourself to her and what she ultimately wanted. I have seen many times with friends that were lured into this trap of living together. They eventually broke down and married.

 

[Warrior74]

1. D. Break up with her (gotta keep them hoes on they toes son)


2. B. Tell the dude to "come at me brah" (I rep my sh1t brah)

3. C. Confront her for stalking you (she might think that you are seeing someone else which is why you don't want to see her) B1tches gotta learn their place brah.

4.B. Ask her why she is acting the way she is (brah! I do that, but in my case I say "why youse being such a fvcking cvnt?)



5. Explain in at least paragraph or more why it is or is not okay for a man to live with a woman before marriage

Cause then those *****s wanna get married to ya brah! They already living there, they try to get ya baby and stay for ever! Yo, brah! Don't do it son! Don't jump on that grenade!

(read all of my replies in a jersey shore voice for extra awesomeness)

So did I get em all wrong? LOL.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Well if Warrior isn't going to take the test seriously than neither will I...

 

[Warrior74]

Well if Warrior isn't going to take the test seriously than neither will I...

It's not that I don't take it so seriously, (so serioulsy brah), its just that for most of us here, we know what the right answer is, we've studied for the test. But after graduation some of us still fail the real world application. You know what I mean.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

1: C - Always good to be on guard
2: D - Won't be spinning just one plate so enjoy the night
3: B - If you go against your word, she'll know she can break you anytime
4: D - If she calls she calls, I'm spinning a few plates anyway

It is not okay for a man to live with a woman before marriage because you need your personal space. You'll be living with the woman you marry for the rest of your life so why put yourself in that situation now. Whatever you choose to do in your place/her place/or if you share a place will have to go through her for approval, else you will be questioned. You may have authority but may face unnecessary consequences.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Bam Bam,
"for a minor reward of little more sex."Are you for real?The one thing that kills sex life is marriage.

 

[Kailex]

1. - C. know that she must have gotten you mixed up withs omeoen else and now you are keeping tabs on her



2. - D. Be nice, tell her it's no big deal, speak to her, and go about your night, go hit the dance floor


3. - D. Let her come in for a while but tell her she has to go home later

4. None of the Above, I would never tell a girl: Why didn't you call me, I like talking to you. Lame, I would have avoided the whole situation by itself.


5. Explain in at least paragraph or more why it is or is not okay for a man to live with a woman before marriage

See my thread about Point to Having Kids.

Backbreaker, I know what you are trying to do here, but I'd have to agree with Warrior... the real life application is much different than just sitting here and trying to objectively answer this questionairre.

I tried to answer as subjectively as I could given a realistic set of standards. I'm not happy with answer for question 1 because I don't know that I'd get in a relationship for a woman for 2 years and she mess up my shoe size, but hey, it could happen, right? Ya never know

 

[SoldMySoul]

It's not that I don't take it so seriously, (so serioulsy brah), its just that for most of us here, we know what the right answer is, we've studied for the test. But after graduation some of us still fail the real world application. You know what I mean.

Yeah, to a certain point, but this test was sort of fun, it is not taking into account real life dynamics. You are only provided a snap shot of what is really going on and to answer 100% honestly, you would need more to go on.

If your girl missed your shoes size by 2 sizes after buying for a couple of years you would be thinking wtf???? That is fairly clear cut and it would have me on guard.

Girl that comes over after you clearly told her not to could be viewed as disrespectful in real life application. Was this girl trying to catch another plate at your crib? Was she trying to surprise you with sexy underwear, being extremely horny? What was really on her mind? It would be very hard to send a girl packing that you liked a lot that showed up. Depending on my mood, I might like her doing it as well as liking surprises.


Just like the one in the club you have been sexing. You see her hugged up with some dude. If she is just one of your many plates, you really would have no right being concerned about wtf she is doing..... unless you are going to hit it again and her sexual habits are dangerous to you. If you and her had a thing more than fvck buddies, it would bother most to a certain degree. It would pi$$ you off!!!

Finally, the disrespectful t w a t that goes off on you about being needy. I am funny about someone's word. If you say you will do something, your word is golden to me and her being disrespectful about it is complete garbage!!!!!!!!!

Too many variables to get exactly right. If you are getting things 100 percent right, then congrats as you are not human, you are a machine. In real life just damn dynamic to nail.

I for some reason, I took the test serious enough.... BB, if you are going through this, do tell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[squirrels]

4 questions, multiple choice 1 essay question. Must be at least 1 paragraph

1. you are dating a woman for 2 years. It's your birthday, she buys you stuff all the time. She suprises you with a pair of new dress shoes you had been looking at. The only problem is, they are 2 sizes too big. when confronted she says Oh i'm sorry i forgot what size shoe you wear, i'll take them back. Note, she has bought you at least 3 pairs of shoes over the last 2 years and you presume, knows what size shoe you wear. Do you:

A. Think nothing of it
B. Think that's kinda funny she should know what size shoe I wear, I wonder did she get me mixed up wtih someone else
C. know that she must have gotten you mixed up withs omeoen else and now you are keeping tabs on her
D. Break up with her

I've never dated a woman for two years. That's way too damned long. And women don't forget my shoe size...so "A" is not appropriate.

Anyway...enough jokes. In the absence of any other signs, "B"...people do dipsh*t things sometimes. It gets filed away in the evidence locker, though.

In the presence of any other sign...I'd say "C" initially, but then, if I have to "keep tabs" on my girl, she's not really "my" girl. But then "D" is too abrupt...so let's go with "E"...keep "dating" her, but start to open other options. Branch-swinging works for them, why not for us?

2. You met this girl 3 weeks ago, you have went on 2 or 3 dates by now, you've had sex. Good sex. She like you, you know this. But she got out of a very long relationship and wants to move slow. YOu go to a night club on a saturday, by yourself, and you see a girl that looks alot like your girl you are seeing somewhat, ni the corner hugged up with another guy. you double check it is her. She spots you, and comes up to you to try to explain the "situation". Do you

A. Tell her to leave you alone / don't talk to you anymore
B. Tell the dude to "come at me brah"
C. Ask her why she is doing this to you, you thought she really liked you
D. Be nice, tell her it's no big deal, speak to her, and go about your night, go hit the dance floor

Only 3 weeks, 2-3 dates, and a previous "bad relationship"...I'd EXPECT her to be dating around. She doesn't owe me an explanation.

A is petty and bitter
B is posturing and trying to save face
C is whiney and clingy

So probably "D" if I'm having a good night. If I'm having a bad night, I don't necessarily want her to take note, so I'd head to another nightclub. Either way, I'd probably laugh at her/the situation. A "DJ" knows when a girl wants to "go slow", it means she's still playing the field and probably isn't as "into him" as he thinks she is. If she WAS head-over-heels for him, she wouldn't be ABLE to move slow.

I certainly wouldn't be putting any "priority" on her for anything "serious"...she likely would be on the back burner for a couple weeks unless she started blowing up my phone...then it's time to invite her up for "movie night"...and we all know what that means.

3. You have a very very important meeting with a business person the next day. You are dating a woman, or ****ing, doesn't matter at this point, and she asks can she come see you that night/spend the nght. You tell her you'd love to but seriously you need to get to bed early to be ready for tomorrow. At about 8:30pm, while at home watching whatever it is you watch at 8:30, you get a knock on the door, it's her. She has decided to come over anyway, even though you told her not to. Do you

A. Let her in/let her spend the night
B. Tell her to go home
C. Confront her for stalking you (she might think that you are seeing someone else which is why you don't want to see her)
D. Let her come in for a while but tell her she has to go home later

A is out...I think a woman has only "spent the night" at my place once, and that's because she was too drunk for me to kick her out.

If she's "crazy" about it, B would be the best choice. But if you're going "B", then you may as well write her off. You shouldn't be messing with a girl that crazy anyway.

If she doesn't seem crazy about it, probably C and D. She could come in for a little while, but she would get a BIG rash of sh!t over it...she would know that it was NOT OK to show up unannounced without a damned good reason.

If it's already been established that what she did was a major no-no, back to "B" and it would be grounds for immediate dismissal.

Maybe I'm too tolerant...but it's possible I did not emphasize sufficiently how serious it was that she not come up that night. When I used to take martial arts, the instructor used to punish us by making us do push-ups on our knuckles, but he would do them along-side us, under the idea that it was partly his fault for not properly teaching the technique/maintaining discipline.

Second offenses are not tolerated.

4. you talk to this girl, you've been talking now for a month. Things seem really good. It's a saturday night, you are a church boy, so you dont' go out on saturday so you can be in church early in the morning. She says she is going to call you back in a minute and never does. You don't think much of it, but say in a polite matter of fact way hey babe i wish you would have called me back, I like talking to you, and she gives you a response saying that you need to grow up, and dont' be mad becuase she has a life, you can't tell her what to do. Do you

A. Block/delete/ignore/no contact
B. Ask her why she is acting the way she is
C. pretend nothing happened
D. decide not to call her back for a week and make her contact you

Just "talking"?

First of all, I wouldn't whine to a girl about not calling me back.

Second, if she flipped on me like that, she'd probably get a "soft next", which would be option "D", but not just a week. I would just shrug her off indefinitely unless she contacted me back. It's not worth the trouble.

5. Explain in at least paragraph or more why it is or is not okay for a man to live with a woman before marriage

Once he lives with her, he may as well BE married. If he's dependent on her for his living arrangement, if she turns on him, the situation can turn bad in a hurry. SHE can always find some sap to take her in. HE will be out on his arse, unless it's HIS place and HE pays for ALL of the rent/utilities/etc. If he's dependent on her for ANY kind of financial backing, it becomes a living hell.

Even when the man owns the place and pays all of the bills for it, there's the issue of "joint property", i.e. things that "we" bought. For example, televisions, furniture, etc...there will be debates until the end of time on how to split that crap up. Forget if they have any pets together...that's the big catch I've seen in a lot of shack-up relationships. Once they buy a dog together, they're practically married anyway.

The other big problem with it is that a couple will fall into that "lazy" married mentality way too early. If they WERE getting married, they'd be more careful to screen each other before they decided on a real commitment. When they're living together, there's the idea of, "well, we're not married, so I don't have to be as careful". But once they're moved in together, especially if it happens early, they start to fall into that, "oh well we already live together" mentality, so they start doing things that married couples would do while ignoring the danger-signs, the "red flags" that pop up in a relationship.

Then suddenly, the girl is pregnant, you're the daddy, and then when the drama gets too thick, you have a responsibility to someone else. You can't just "split".

Short answer...it makes you too complacent, a more lazy judge of character in your significant other, and it generates commitments that can be as binding, if not more binding in some cases, than an "actual marriage".

So if you're gonna move in together, you ought to be looking at rings. If you're not ready to do that, you're not ready to move in with a girl.

 

[lifeislearning]

1.A
So I'm supposed to be worried she's banging another dude and buying him shoes? I would laugh my ass off were this true. I forget this kind of crap all the time. The first sign of a failing relationship is massive loss in interest, not shoes .

2. E
"Is this your brother? Is he gay? No? Peace!" No worries here, life happens.

3. D
Done it before and if the girl has the slightest bit of self respect she would never tolerate A. I couldn't respect a girl who would. I hope any of you would next a woman who told you to go home at the door as I would. Treating a woman like a woman and treating a woman like a trained dog are very (ok, a little ) different.

4. B
As in sternly remind her that I deserve her respect and if she ever plans to talk to me like that again she better save herself the time and leave NOW! I don't care why she had a brain aneurysm and thought I could be treated like a child as long as it never happens again. Everybody gets ONE chance, but a woman who will repeatedly disrespect you does not deserve my company.

Living together before marriage is an incredible risk to, as well as a great opportunity for personal development. Make sure this woman is worthy of the privilege, and a potential mate before you even contemplate it! Not for the faint of heart (meaning most men on these forums) or people who answer C or D for #1. You will never be so tested in your sanity and it will take every ounce of will power to let the little things go and take a stand where you need to. Takes more than a AFC, player, or ladies man can handle and should only be attempted by a TRUE MAN. Or just don't do it. :crazy:

 

[1 Bad Dude]

Number 4 is a trick question. A DJ dates girls. He doesn't spend a month talking on the phone building rapport and comfort. Except high schoolers. Thats what they do.

5. I'd never move in with any girl I wasn't married to. My options will always be open as long as I'm not committed on that level.

 

[Colossus]

It's not that I don't take it so seriously, (so serioulsy brah), its just that for most of us here, we know what the right answer is, we've studied for the test. But after graduation some of us still fail the real world application. You know what I mean.

BURN!!!

 

[squirrels]

I want to see BB's answers.

 

[st_99]

1) B. without any other info, not sure accusations have any merit just yet

2) D. you have no other option, its only been a couple dates she owes you
nothing, you shouldn't be emotionally invested this early

3) D. if its a pattern of annoying behavior then thats not good. first time, i'd
just let her in and then send her home later.

4. B. why not, as long your not being whiny.


I think it's ok to live with a woman before marriage under
a couple circumstances. The key is how long? Has it been years? A few factors would come into play like if you're both atheists or do not believe in the institution of marriage etc. Otherwise, I think you should probably be
at least engaged to each other with a set date.

Also, if neither one of you want children then that would
also be a situation imo where cohabitation would be ok.

 

[RMM]

1. A.
2. D.

Explanation for both is simple: I go through all this with the "not caring much" attitude. I wrap my wiener tight and safe always, and other than banging the broads I'd have little interest in them otherwise. So if they're out macking someone else I personally really don't care. I'm not looking for a commited exclusive LTR, and if they feel they have to go somewhere else, then "so long and thanks for all the fish," there's no need to make a scene.

Or to put it another way, telling the second one that it's fine she's out with another dude is not because I'm a "nice guy," but rather that I don't care enough about her AND that if I feel like it or have the chance, I'll do the same thing too.

3. B - Go home girl.

Iron rule of RMM (one of the few I have): Coming to my house uninvited is a privilege reserved only for close family. If you are not, then you either need a really good excuse ("an ax murderer is chasing me!" kind of good) or I will kick you out, even if you are the Queen of England. Or more precisely, never let you set foot in my home.

4 - D.

With a twist. I don't set a deadline, it could be never contact again or it could be one week, depends on whether she decides she should contact me again. If she never does, then well, that's that.

As far as the essay, the operative word here is "marriage." Since that's a trap I don't think any man should touch in the modern world, the rest is irrelevant. Heck, soon just any relationship will be punishable by alimony, heh.

 

[sharkbeat]

1. C
2. D
3. D
4. D

The explanation to my answers are this - Never get upset to a woman. No matter how bad a woman treats you, do your best not to get upset. Instead, talk to her politely, and move on. Confronting a woman, getting upset, only elicit more drama from them, which is bad. Don't criticize her actions whether they are moral or immoral or smart or dumb or whatever. Calmly reject her if she crosses your line.


5 - Depends on the women. If the woman has totally committed to you (you should be able to see it from her behaviors towards you), then it is a good thing. If there is any drama involved in the first month of your relationship with her (even before you started living together), then it's not a good thing. The woman has to totally accept the way you are, and all of your activities no matter how embarrassing they can be to her. Only then it's a good thing. Since women are usually disgusted by how we live, the rule of thumb is don't.

 

[romangod]

I've got some time to spare so I'll take the test.

1. you are dating a woman for 2 years. It's your birthday, she buys you stuff all the time. She suprises you with a pair of new dress shoes you had been looking at. The only problem is, they are 2 sizes too big. when confronted she says Oh i'm sorry i forgot what size shoe you wear, i'll take them back. Note, she has bought you at least 3 pairs of shoes over the last 2 years and you presume, knows what size shoe you wear. Do you:

A. Think nothing of it
B. Think that's kinda funny she should know what size shoe I wear, I wonder did she get me mixed up wtih someone else
C. know that she must have gotten you mixed up withs omeoen else and now you are keeping tabs on her
D. Break up with her

My answer is A. If I've been with her for 2 years already there's something in her character that has held me. She probably innocently erred in my shoe size and used the schlong to foot-size comparison to try and get it right.

2. You met this girl 3 weeks ago, you have went on 2 or 3 dates by now, you've had sex. Good sex. She like you, you know this. But she got out of a very long relationship and wants to move slow. YOu go to a night club on a saturday, by yourself, and you see a girl that looks alot like your girl you are seeing somewhat, ni the corner hugged up with another guy. you double check it is her. She spots you, and comes up to you to try to explain the "situation". Do you

A. Tell her to leave you alone / don't talk to you anymore
B. Tell the dude to "come at me brah"
C. Ask her why she is doing this to you, you thought she really liked you
D. Be nice, tell her it's no big deal, speak to her, and go about your night, go hit the dance floor

My answer is D. I'd be nice to her then forget about her. She failed my "character" parameters.

3. You have a very very important meeting with a business person the next day. You are dating a woman, or ****ing, doesn't matter at this point, and she asks can she come see you that night/spend the nght. You tell her you'd love to but seriously you need to get to bed early to be ready for tomorrow. At about 8:30pm, while at home watching whatever it is you watch at 8:30, you get a knock on the door, it's her. She has decided to come over anyway, even though you told her not to. Do you

A. Let her in/let her spend the night
B. Tell her to go home
C. Confront her for stalking you (she might think that you are seeing someone else which is why you don't want to see her)
D. Let her come in for a while but tell her she has to go home later

My answer is D. It's still early and a roll in the hay would ease some of the stress of the next day's meeting

4. you talk to this girl, you've been talking now for a month. Things seem really good. It's a saturday night, you are a church boy, so you dont' go out on saturday so you can be in church early in the morning. She says she is going to call you back in a minute and never does. You don't think much of it, but say in a polite matter of fact way hey babe i wish you would have called me back, I like talking to you, and she gives you a response saying that you need to grow up, and dont' be mad becuase she has a life, you can't tell her what to do. Do you

A. Block/delete/ignore/no contact
B. Ask her why she is acting the way she is
C. pretend nothing happened
D. decide not to call her back for a week and make her contact you

My answer is A. The fact that she didn't call back is not the problem. Her attitude is the problem. Next!

5. Explain in at least paragraph or more why it is or is not okay for a man to live with a woman before marriage

It is not okay to live with a woman before marriage because there's no reason to punish yourself when you don't have to.



Cheers!

 

[Jitterbug]

1. A - I don't notice these things, plus my shoe sizes can vary as much as 1.5 sizes, depending on what they're for and the style.

2. D, but define "nice". I'll be polite, but that's it. Not "nice" & smiling & sh1t.

3. D - sex is good stress relief.

4. A - the hell? b1tch be crazy!

5. Rollo T said it's a bad idea.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

5. Iron Rule of Tomassi #4

NEVER under any circumstance live with a woman you aren't married to or are not planning to marry in within 6 months.

You are utterly powerless in this situation. NEVER buy a home with a girlfriend, NEVER sign a rental lease with a girlfriend. NEVER agree to move into her home and absolutely NEVER move a woman into your own established living arrangement. I'm adamantly opposed to the "shacking up" dynamic, it is a trap that far too many men allow themselves to fall into. My fervor agianst this isn't based on some moral issue, it it simple pragmatism. If you live with a woman you may as well be married because upon doing so every liability and accountability of marriage is then in effect. You not only lose any freedom of anonymity, you commit to legally being responsible for the continuation of your living arrangements regardless of how your relationship decays.

I should also emphasize the point that when you commit (and it is a financial committment) to cohabiting with a GF you will notice a marked decrease in her sexual availability and desire, trust me on this. All of that competitive anxiety and it's resulting sexual tension that made your single sex life so great is removed from her shoulders and she can comfortably relax in the knowledge that she is your ONLY source of sexual intimacy. Putting your name on that lease with her (even if it's just your name) is akin to signing an insurance polcy for her - "I the undersigned promise not to fukk any woman but this girl for a one year term." She thinks, "if he wasn't serious about me, he wouldn't have signed the lease." Now all of that impetus and energy that made having marathon sex with you an outright necessity is relaxed. She controls the frame and she's got it in writing that it is for at least a year.

Just don't do it. Relationships last best when you spin more plates or at the very least keep each other at arm's distance.