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[machdown]

Hello Gentlemen,

A brief introduction about me. I was engaged to a girl I was dating for about 3.5 years until I broke it off in February 2014. Was supposed to get married in March but thankfully that didn't happen. Dodged a real bullet.

Now I'm back in the game and got a couple potential girls that I would like to date and possibly marry. I'll just stick to the first girl right now who is smoking hot. A true 10. She was somewhat friends with my ex but I think their friendship has been slowly dwindling so I feel like its okay to move in. We were friends on facebook until one day I noticed that we weren't. She probably de-friended me because of the break up. Anyways I went to a popular local restaurant today for a quick business meeting and saw her havin dinner with her father. She had her back to me and decided to take the table right behind her and sit right behind her. I didn't interrupt her when I got there to say hi because I suspected she didn't like me. However when she got up to leave we had the following quick conversation

Her: Hi
Me: Hi. I wasn't gonna say hi because I thought you hated me. (In a playful way with a smile)
Her: Noooo. Why would you say something like that.
Me: Well I see you de-friended me on facebook and so... (shrugging my shoulder looking for an answer)

That was it. She left with her father and now I got the idea that maybe something more can happen between us.

I should let you know that I'm 32. She's 25.

The question now is how would you guys approach this. I'm thinking the first step is to add her on facebook and starting running the game on her.

Any ideas or suggestions on what I should say?

 

[Tiguere]

Your first step is to read the g0d d@mn dj bible. Re-read your post. You haven't learned anything. I cant believe you registered in 2007 and sound like a doofus.

 

[Fireballs]

Is this a troll 7 years in the making?

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Sounds like troll to me, either that or this guy got confused and should have posted his tactics in the high school forum because that's exactly where it belongs.

 

[machdown]

Wow you guys are cruel. Ask for some help and get negative responses.

I'll take your advice and read the Bible.

I signed up in 2007 to read the bible. After banging a few chicks I settled down with one with plans to marry her. I ended breaking it off cause I saw her true side. I've gotten so used to regular ***** that I forget the way to pick up chicks. Just wanted some quick advice.

Who you calling troll. Bad judgment guys.

I'll find another forum to ask for help.

 

[Outlaw_]

Wow you guys are cruel. Ask for some help and get negative responses.

I'll take your advice and read the Bible.

I signed up in 2007 to read the bible. After banging a few chicks I settled down with one with plans to marry her. I ended breaking it off cause I saw her true side. I've gotten so used to regular ***** that I forget the way to pick up chicks. Just wanted some quick advice.

Who you calling troll. Bad judgment guys.

I'll find another forum to ask for help.

Hey bro. I thought they were a little harsh as well. You're welcome to find another forum if you'd like, but here are my ideas.

Me: Well I see you de-friended me on facebook and so... (shrugging my shoulder looking for an answer)

That was it. She left with her father and now I got the idea that maybe something more can happen between us.

This is a game over. #1 you didn't ask her a question. #2 any real man wouldn't mention that, because it reeks of neediness (in her mind...this is what her subconscious says). #3 If you go & try to re-friend her, this is coming of as more neediness.

It's tough to get a friend of an ex, since most people men & women have a rule about not fvcking around with firends ex's.

My verdict is move on. And work on your neediness...AKA, don't give a fvck. This will have women coming after you...it's weird but works.

 

[machdown]

Well I got some good news for you. Went to a friend's house Friday night for dinner and she was there. It my friend his wife, another couple and her. Long story short. I ended up spending the night and we made out and cuddled on the couch together. Now i gotta take it the next level. She's kind of seeing someone now so she was hesitant to round the bases. Reading the bible while listening to Bobby Rio to improve my game and eventually **** this chick.

 

[sodbuster]

Are you sure you WANT to marry? You've mentioned her LOOKS, I didn't hear much about her personality or MORALS. But YOU are thinking MARRIAGE? Jeeze, take it from a man who is DIVORCED, you need to screen a bit better than just looks.... Divorce costs you HALF of everything YOU earned and saved {don't THINK she's going to save that much}

 

[machdown]

Yes the ultimate goal is to get married but I think you'll agree and correct me if I'm wrong, but it starts with building attraction, sexual rapport, sex and then a relationship. Once we've accomplished that we can cut all the bull**** of being a pick up artist, start being ourselves and then decide if were gonna take it to the next level or dump the girl.

Thanks outlaw for your constructive criticism. That's what I was looking for. I posted my story knowing that I was ****ing up. I didn't see myself as needy but now I do.

I think my two biggest problems are that and transitioning from attraction to making a move. I can build attraction in no time. It's just the transition that a got problems with. I don't think I'm gonna read the entire bible as it's a little repetitive. Can you suggest some good reads for transitioning from attraction to sex. Maybe some good kissing routines.

 

[sodbuster]

Kiss her when you feel like it.... there's your transition. Either she kisses back or she doesn't. There are a whole bunch of signs that are "supposedly" supposed to tell you when. But, are you a man or a mind reader? I don't want the mind reader gig personally.....

 

[Kailex]

Yes the ultimate goal is to get married

Okay. Why?

 

[machdown]

To build a family, have kids and make sure that my family name lives on forever and ever.

 

[Outlaw_]

Are you sure you WANT to marry? You've mentioned her LOOKS, I didn't hear much about her personality or MORALS. But YOU are thinking MARRIAGE? Jeeze, take it from a man who is DIVORCED, you need to screen a bit better than just looks.... Divorce costs you HALF of everything YOU earned and saved {don't THINK she's going to save that much}

This straight wisdom OP. Heed his words. I have friends that have been financially ruined by a woman of look, who turned out to be a bad person.