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[BxPrince24]

I've basically given up for a while, not being an AFC, just not caring about getting with anyone and being myself, my more confident self. Though I have a minor problem. Sometimes when I'm on the train there'll be girls staring at me. So doing what I've been taught I look them in the eyes, but when I do that, I get a weird feeling and I can't get myself to smile at the girl. Most of the time it's girls that I wouldn't ask out in the first place.

Then again, who am I to pick and choose? I've never had a gf nor have I ever had a real kiss. I turn 18 in may and I think it's lame how I haven't done any of that yet. Do you guys think I should just settle for what seems to be being offered to me and do my thing with them? My friends tell me that my standards are too high... I don't think they are, but what guy does? One of the reasons why I haven't bothered trying to hook up with anyone is because I'm tired of putting myself out there, tired of putting in work, and getting rejected and now I don't want to go through the whole game some girls play. Right now, I'm feeling like it's either you play by my rules or you don't play at all. What do you think?

 

[Dukester]

you're only 18 bud, you gotta take risks.

hell, i didnt have a real relationship till i was 18!

things will get better, trust me. once you graduate high school and get into the college atmosphere things, will get better.


i thought my life was sh it until i graduated, then things got sooo much better for me.


trust me buddy, i was AFC, all of us here were at some point. We have to find the strength and confidence within ourselves to overcome the adversities and ridicule of daily life.

but keep reading the posts on this website, and read the bible, and gain your confidence, and you will do just fine.

one more thing... dont let your friends tell you what/what not your standards are- they are YOURS

 

[spider_007]

what ever you do "don't lower your standards" its part of the game

just be glad your not 21, in the same position

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by BxPrince24
I've basically given up for a while, not being an AFC, just not caring about getting with anyone and being myself, my more confident self. Though I have a minor problem. Sometimes when I'm on the train there'll be girls staring at me. So doing what I've been taught I look them in the eyes, but when I do that, I get a weird feeling and I can't get myself to smile at the girl. Most of the time it's girls that I wouldn't ask out in the first place.

Then again, who am I to pick and choose? I've never had a gf nor have I ever had a real kiss. I turn 18 in may and I think it's lame how I haven't done any of that yet. Do you guys think I should just settle for what seems to be being offered to me and do my thing with them? My friends tell me that my standards are too high... I don't think they are, but what guy does? One of the reasons why I haven't bothered trying to hook up with anyone is because I'm tired of putting myself out there, tired of putting in work, and getting rejected and now I don't want to go through the whole game some girls play. Right now, I'm feeling like it's either you play by my rules or you don't play at all. What do you think?

That's a good attitude to have...but don't be surprised if people take the "don't play at all" option if your rules aren't liked.

You can't pick up women when it feels like a chore and you're "tired" of it. But make sure that's what it is...that you truly ARE burned out and not that you're just scared of failure. Many times in my life I've given up on things, saying I'm "tired" and "don't want to put in the effort" when really I'm just scared of putting in the effort and failing.

No, don't lower your standards. People who pursue women they're not attracted to just to get laid when they arent' even enjoying it are fools, sheep desperate to look like "scoring machines" in front of their friends. But when a woman actually causes you to feel ATTRACTION, standards or no standards, don't make excuses.

 

[BxPrince24]

It is... sometimes i just ask girls out for the hell of it knowing they're gonna say no but I don't care... I don't feel like going through all the work and not have it work out anyway, today I asked a girl out that flirts with me alot, she didn't say anything, I didn't have the time to stick around so I went where I had to go. last week I asked another hottie out, I had free tickets to the movies, she said no, her loss. It didn't bother me one bit, I was expecting the no, we don't know much about each other.

My whole thing is that, yea, it does feel like a chore.. I'm sure that my mood on that may change, but right now, I just feel like I need time to relax, and I can't put up with games or wasting my time to get rejected, when I can be spending that time doing what I wanna do, relax.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

I feel that way sometimes, then other days I have the energy to really put forth an effort. I feel ya, I tried a new thing today with a ho who was on the phone and got soft rejected, didnt bother me one bit, I was hungry and headed to lunch, my damn sub sandwich was more important than the ho. Rejection ain't ****. Now if I could fully take my own advice and spit game at this girl I've been semi-crushing on.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Originally posted by BxPrince24

Do you guys think I should just settle for what seems to be being offered to me and do my thing with them? My friends tell me that my standards are too high... I don't think they are, but what guy does? One of the reasons why I haven't bothered trying to hook up with anyone is because I'm tired of putting myself out there, tired of putting in work, and getting rejected and now I don't want to go through the whole game some girls play. Right now, I'm feeling like it's either you play by my rules or you don't play at all. What do you think?

I think you take whatever god throws in your lap right now.Just to get your experiecne up.

You'll find out soon enough that even that ones that choose you,end up playing games.

 

[BxPrince24]

I just might do that... but still I don't see why I've ever had a problem getting a girl, i'm not a bad looking guy.

Here's a few pix of me:
http://www.paxed.com/community/profile.asp?u=Bx_Prince_Balla


Also here's a pic of the girl who's played me quite a lot in the past, i recently stop giving a **** about her. To me she's not important anymore, I don't know why I ever made her important to me. But she's done for. She's the one always glancing over at me now instead of the other way around. anyways, to be nice I noticed she stopped by my page on the internet today so i checked hers out and said that was a nice pic, what was the occasion. She didn't reply, now I know not to waste my time 2 be nice at all... too bad.

http://www.localhookupz.com/memberpage/JuElZ_WiFey

 

[Mintyfresh]

must be harder on a black man that has trouble with women as opposed to a white dude

I mean how often do you see a black guy thats not a confident ****y smooth motherfvcker? Almost seems like they're raised that way lol.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by BxPrince24


Then again, who am I to pick and choose? I've never had a gf nor have I ever had a real kiss. I turn 18 in may and I think it's lame how I haven't done any of that yet. Do you guys think I should just settle for what seems to be being offered to me and do my thing with them? My friends tell me that my standards are too high... I don't think they are, but what guy does?

Dude, listen to me. you're turning 18, go for *****.

Listen to my words of wisdom...hopefully you'll change your mindset.

i have 2 friends that have never had a gf nor a kiss from a girl before, yet those guys are hte pickiest mofos i know. whenever we're in teh street or somewhere they'll be pointing out the model looks and 9's 10's. one of them is 21 and the other is turning 21 soon, so they are much worse off than you.

It's none of my business really to stick my nose into their dating life. But just seeing how they are really disappoints me.

There is such a thing as having unrealistic standards. if you're looking for perfection you'll be searching forever.

If you really meet a girl that has good looks and has a nice personality, work with it. no one says you have to marry her one day. just enjoy the dating scene while you can and while you're still young.

 

[BxPrince24]

Originally posted by Mintyfresh
must be harder on a black man that has trouble with women as opposed to a white dude

I mean how often do you see a black guy thats not a confident ****y smooth motherfvcker? Almost seems like they're raised that way lol.

Well I was raised with my mother... guess that explains it. My dad & mom split when I was like 7...