Awkward situation at the movies last night.

[WillieSacks]

Do I pay or do we go dutch.

I went to the movies on a first date with this chick I met at ASU on Tuesday. Anyway, when I go on a date, I usually just pay. It's become second nature where I just pay w/o asking any ???'s.

Anyway we get to the movie theater and are trying to decide which movie to watch and when it's our turn we go to the booth and I just go "2 for Radio." She goes "are you sure???, you don't mind" So I'm like "I don't mind, it's whatever, I don't care" (Tickets were just 5 bucks.) anyway since people were behind us and we were holding the line back, I go "2 for Radio", then she goes, " how 'bout we do this, 1 for radio", so she pays for herself, then I pay for myself. It was awkward but I was actually happy that she paid for herself. We ended up having a great date. Usually I just pay but she actually brought money to pay for herself.

The only other time a girl paid for herself at the movies was 6 months ago where the girl went up to the line first and paid first b4 any questions were asked.

Also at a bar in Scottsdale, this chick bought her own drink w/o asking any questions.

Thinking about it, the girls that paid for themselves (except this one) were 24 & 30, and the girl that paid for herself was 18 but was very mature and we ended up having a great date b/c we were so much alike.

The other chicks that allowed me to pay for them were all either in H/S or fresh out of HS and not as mature.

But what do I say when I get to the line at the theater. Do I just say "do you want me to get you?" or what do you say or do.

 

[Big Pappy]

If you invite, you pay. Else, dutch or let her pay.
No need to say anything. You did right; she was just letting you know that you're going to have to work for the tail.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

I always pay on dates, unless a girl asks me out. If it's my idea, then I pay. Their idea, they pay. I don't go out very often though - maybe 1x month max.

 

[Ice Cold]

I am not greedy nor cheap. I sometimes pay for the chick, if she demonstrated enough IL by that time.

Making a fuss over that isn't worth 7.50 +tax if it's gonna ruin the mood. On the other hand if there's no mood in the first place, the girl will have to pay for herself.

And BTW: I don't go to movies on the first date. It's more like 3-4 date, when you there knowing she likes you.

Cheers

 

[WillieSacks]

So I'm saying though. For her to pay for herself, do you just let her go up to the line first and see if she pays or do you just go up and pay for yourself. Actually I think I've got it all figured out. The girls that paid for themselves had jobs, had their own place and seemed more independent while the girls that I paid for lived with their parents, were in HS or just graduated. I'll just play it by the situation but Chewy, Big pappy, you're right, if you ask out, you pay so that's what I did.

Ice cold, going to the movies isn't as bad an idea as it seems, why do you say it's a bad idea, b/c you can't talk. I mean we were going to go eat but it was late and we just decided to kick back at the theater, then afterwards we talked at her place for about an hour. I think the movies are a good place to go if you both want to see something while spending some time together.

Also how do you make her pay for herself Ice, do you just let her go up and pay first or do you just pay for yourself assuming she has money b/c I've gone on dates with chicks that had no cash on them (and they just happen to be the young chicks)

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

The whole, "the one that asks should pay" is a load of crap. If that's the case there should be a saying that goes "the one that doesn't pay should entertain the one that does by what ever means!"

For the movie example, while you are in line say to her "I'll get the tix if you get the snacks," simple as that. The two of you are there to enjoy one another's company so why is it fair for only one person to take care of everything?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

I've never payed for a girl ever, except friends... But I've been bought drinks and **** several times, even by boys

 

[chlywly]

I like the chics to pay for a change, or split it, not that I Mind paying but im sick of spending money, it gets you no where.

 

[Tkman]

What about if a chicks pays for everything ?

 

[Ice Cold]

Originally posted by WillieSacks
Ice cold, going to the movies isn't as bad an idea as it seems

Agreed

why do you say it's a bad idea, b/c you can't talk.

Yep, basically.

Plus you don't control situation as much. If she's a flake, it's harder to get up in the middle of the movie and go

Also it's not as casual as I like it to be. "How about you and me going out to see a movie?"

This triggers the dating mode in the girl and I don't like that.

I mean we were going to go eat but it was late and we just decided to kick back at the theater, then afterwards we talked at her place for about an hour. I think the movies are a good place to go if you both want to see something while spending some time together.

Totally man. It's just that I didn't have that much success with the movies, so I do different stuff.

In other words:

If I do X and lay her in 20 mins, doesn't mean you can't do Y and lay her in 10 mins.

Also how do you make her pay for herself Ice, do you just let her go up and pay first or do you just pay for yourself assuming she has money b/c I've gone on dates with chicks that had no cash on them (and they just happen to be the young chicks)

Most of the time I do the gentleman's thing and let the join the line first. That way she's the first one to talk to the cashier

But if she's hesitating, I usually pay, because by that time I kissed her already.

Cheers