Awkward Silence During Dates

[kingxxxman]

I always see this at restaurants. The guy and the girl are just sitting there looking in random places and not talking. I am one of those guys that just runs out of stuff to say? How do i get better at this? any books?

 

[Fela Kuti]

I'm still learning myself but one saying that I always remember is, it's only awkward when you think it is. Maybe you could try what Uma Thurman said in Pulp Fiction. "Don't you hate that? Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bull**** in order to be comfortable?" Haha.

 

[backseatjuan]

I had one date where chic wouldn't shut up. I had to say absolutely nothing. That date led to sex on the back seat of my car after she got exhausted talking.

You can talk about anything and you have to have zero expectation of her responses. Talk to her like with a friend, drop the slightest thought of sex out of your head. Always lead the conversation.

Personally I take legal drugs, 3 300mg of Lyrica. But honestly that don't guarantee anything. Really have to come out of your shell and speak from your heart.

 

[Powerofmindset]

If there is any sort of silence...i'll let it be for a little bit to see how she reacts to it. Usually if my gut is saying that she feels nervous about the silence i'll ask questions that I'm interested in. Example: I love music...so I'll ask her about music, such as "what genre of music are you into?" to follow up (if she didn't already answer) "which is your favorite band?" to follow up again, "What about that bands music do you find interesting?" There will always be awkward silence...whether it be right now when you are first dating or in the car when you are already in a LTR with a girl for a year. Don't let it phase you. Hold your frame. The idea of you even thinking that any silence = awkward silence is you believing you have to hold yourself or the date to a standard of hers. If you play that game, you've already lost.

 

[Desdinova]

I let her worry about filling in those awkward silences. I just look around at stuff when I've got nothing to say. If she's worried that she's losing my interest, that's a good thing.

 

[st_99]

I let her worry about filling in those awkward silences. I just look around at stuff when I've got nothing to say. If she's worried that she's losing my interest, that's a good thing.

yeah, its not really anything to worry about. if you're nervous, it will show. if you're relaxed and confident, that will show also. And neither one really has anything to do with how much you talk or how many seconds of silence there is on the date. all that matters is that you are mentally in charge.

 

[iwanttofight]

Let her worry about the awkward silences. Have a "I dont give a f*ck attitude" and she will be relaxed and not feel weird around your vibe

 

[Bible_Belt]

Before the date, you need to research the things going on in the world that are really important ...to women: http://www.people.com/

 

[Holden Caulfield]

Make yourself a more rounded individual. You will never run out of things to say, if conversation is needed. Read diverse genres of books. Keep up to date on current events, take a few trips somewhere... and most importantly: Look for commonalities in what a woman talks about and dive "in". Easy to associate with others if you listen to what they talk about. Part of being social is the ability to find common interests with others.

HC

 

[Aaron B]

its because sitting around talking is fvcking boring