Awful Experience advice from real casanovas needed

[Lawrence.V.]

Advice needed can some1 help me out!!!!!

I need some advice on how to handle this situation please.
My friend called me on saturday night inviting me to go to his house with his girlfriend and a couple of her friends, when I got there I was quite drunk but the instant I walked through the sitting room this 2 girls come on to me in quite a strong way,with both being really pretty i was overwelmed but i kept my cool and didnt look too intrested,when we started talking i found myself more attracted to 1 of them because she was a lot more mature than the other one, after about an hour she told me that she really wanted to screw me and complimented me about my looks,subsequencialy she and her friends went upstairs after about half an hour i went up to see what was going on and there was her 2 friends doing her hair and make up, ovviously i thought for the purpose to impress me,i walked into the room the 2 girls walked out and there she was looking absolutely stunning in her gstring and bra i didnt waste much time, i chucked her on the bed took her bra and gstring off i was really up for it because I hadnt had sex for a wile.I started by kissing her and licking my way down to her ***** this carried on for about 20min she was obviously enjoyng it by then i though it was time to **** her I took my boxer shorts off realising that I wasnt able to get an erection she didnt help matters by saying how horny she was and how much she wanted me, by this stage I was mortified this had never happened before to me,I carried on giving oral sex to her for a wile then we just layed in bed naked talking for the next 4 hours, by this time i found out that she is 17 and she has only slept with 1 guy and only twice during her 6 months relationship and she split up with him 4 months ago.
We later went downstairs with the others acted as if everything was normal and cuddled on the sofa until very late, we decided to stay the night there but she told me that she wasnt up for anything that night ,I agreed.During the night I could feel her getting closer and closer to me but I didnt give inn and I didnt jump at the chance.When I woke up in the morning I could see my penis had finally come to his senses and woke up!!!! I realised that she was waking up and pretended to be asleep she started to kiss me on the neck and chest by this time i couldnt take it any longer I got up and told her that this time there was nothing wrong with me and that I was very eager I ripped her gsring off gave her oral sex then go for penetration I could see she was wet ,I inserted my penis with struggle into her she was extremely tight like I never experienced before, She seemed to enjoyed it for the first few minutes but as it went on I started to **** her harder and harder when I removed my penis from inside her to change position my penis wasnt penetrating into her anymore I tried a few times and it just wasnt going in!!! by then she looked nervous and told me she wasnt in the mood anymore,so i said ok and we just kissed and cuddled until we got up.Later on we were supposed to meet in a bar with the rest of our friends but she didnt turn up and also told my friends girlfriend not to give me her number.Im quite upset because I got to really like this girl and by the way she was with me she appeared to like me a lot, I dont know how to handle the situation I have asked a few friends for advice but what the **** do they Know!! At one point I thought to go to her college in my Royal Navy uniform and give her a red rose what do you think? Why do you think she reacted this way towards me?Have u got some advice on how to get her back? Any help would be greately appreciated.Thanks

 

[TizZle]

Hung up over a girl in one night ? I'd get over that type of feeling quick, you don't want to look desparate. As for the rose thing... well that has AFC written all over it to me. But if that kind of thing usually works for you what the hell.

 

[dig it]

Great post man - even if you are a total AFC.


I dont care if you have a naval uniform, or roses....they wont help you.

Let me give you some facts that will help you see this whole thing in perspective.

She doesnt like you enough anymore. Simple as that.

DONT take flowers to her. DONT DRESS UP FOR HER.

This will do nothing.

She got nervous because she saw you didnt know what you were doing.

Ok. Let me have a man to man speak with you from an angle you've never heard before, one that you can aspire to....

So you know as well as i do that sex is a simple thing, us guys were born to root, and chicks were born to be rooted. It just got complicated for the both of you....one...given a perfect set of circumstances, you would have banged her right and proper...there was plenty she could have done to enable you to have her, and there is plenty you could of done....yet you didnt know and neither did she....sex is simple, and if you were a pre-historic male it would be no problem (i would have spread her legs wide and just ramed it home until it went in and i would never have had a problem with my errection or anything or worried about her cries, she would never have seen me again and i would not have card, who cares being a pre-historic male....who cares if she cried, as long as she got pregnant... sex is the be all and end all of our existance back then, it HAD to happen.....)....but these days, you go do something like that and not only will she not come back, but her father and the cops will be at your door...

see these days we have culture and years of bad-teaching to wade through before we can acheive that level of body-to-body harmony (broken down that prehistoric example is a perfet way to our goal) yet these days we have heaps of probs cos of the complex society we live in.

Now back to modern day and your reality....man....she was not ready to screwed. You didnt turn her on enough. She got nervous for a reason.
And she no longer wanted sex.

It was because you didnt know what you were doing that she got nervous.

Man, i've actually had girls beg me for sex....i've had them say please, i've had them wet before i ever got my pants off, i've had them jump back on me for a second helping (and not care what i thought about it they just had to have more of me!)....i've stayed in girls for half and hour or more-up to 1 hour with a hard co!ck, and they have loved it)

And i've had girls react average to me as well a few years back.....now compare my situation with yours.

Sorry, and one day you too can have the sorts of experiences that i am having....point is, i just didnt wake up and do all of this...i had to learn it, and i had to practice sex a lot. Great lovers arent born they are made.

So whats my overall point....well, its many faceted....i will give you some answers. At the end i will list them. I wont tell you step by step how i would do it....how you will do it is up to you, thats your job to find out, but i will put you on the path, and you should learn and gain more experience...


But first.....this girl.....FORGET ABOUT HER.

I mean it....i REALLY REALLY mean it.

Dont worry about her.

She didn't show up to that bar later on because she was probably too tired from the night before....alchohol or late night, whatever...who cares, but she was tired. The fact that you were there meant little because the sex was not great. Even if it was she might have stayed away.....point is dont worry about it, it is NOT useful to you.

1. Dont go and see her especially just to make-up or make out with her.

2. Dont buy her flowers and dont dress up too much like in your naval suit.

3. Buy a good sex book off amazon.com or at the bookstore.

4. In the meantime, check out the dj bible for some great sex advice, and for general advice....

5. Dont worry.

6. Continue life as normal. This kind of thing happens, and its no ones fault.

7. If you chase after her, you will lose.



To wrap it up, you are coming basically from a bad position. This girl may not want to be with you....just wait until you run into her again. Dont be afraid of her, but also dont be so caught up in your remorse to seek her out specifically with the agenda of "i will make it up to you"

That is wimpy. Next time dont drink so much, and in the meantime, learn the dj principles. There are plenty more fish in the sea, and guess what, many will be better than her....and thats what makes life great in this area.

 

[DeathDealer]

this is why i never attempt to have sex with a girl i just met. dumb stuff happens.

 

[Trance]

Loose girls love to pretend they are the inocent kind. She didnt sleep with only 1 or 2 guys. She isn't tight, you were just inexperient.

She just wanted a ONS, its obvious.


Why was it an awfull experience? You were in bed with a good looking girl!! You should have enjoyed, specially since you weren't getting any for a while like you said. Dont get enfatuated this easily, and again... Hope you enjoyed getting some

 

[NewMan]

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after about an hour she told me that she really wanted to screw me and complimented me about my looks,subsequencialy she and her friends went upstairs after about half an hour i went up to see what was going on and there was her 2 friends doing her hair and make up, ovviously i thought for the purpose to impress me,i walked into the room the 2 girls walked out and there she was looking absolutely stunning in her gstring and bra i didnt waste much time
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Yeah she really sounds young and innocent.

No girl who runs around almost naked and tells you she wants to fvck you - has only had sex 2 times in her life.


You lost it.

Learn from it and move on.

Don't try to go to her place - no flowers or sh#t like that.

It will not work.

Just prepare yourself for next time. And don't worry - sh#t happens to the best of us.