awesome girl...how do i play it?

[DXX]

so i met this awesome girl at a gig at my uni (she goes to a diff uni). Me and my mate agreed that she's easily a 9 in looks but it doesn't end there. She's got an awesome smile, seems like a lot of fun, she's smart, and she likes rock music! hahahahaha. ****ing jackpot! she's got some class about her too. I guess she's a girl you'd consider marrying (far from my mind atm though)

anyway, we haven't been out since then. We were going to try to meet up on saturday night after the gig she was at ended. She was gonna message me if she wanted to meet up after. But she ended up going to a vip party with her friends and i hung out with my mates at a nightclub.

she messaged me the next day saying sorry that we didn't meet up and told me about where she went etc...

anyway, she's coming to my uni again tomorrow night for another gig and i'm gonna drive to uni rather than take the bus/train so i can drive her home .

in the meantime she's been sending me "nothing" messages just talking about random stuff, how crazy the weather's been, how she brought no warm clothes to sydney, asking me what bands i like etc...you know the kind

i got a message this arvo which went "blah-blah...have a great night and sweetdreams for whenever you decide to go to sleep. Love _____"

I didn't reply until about 9:30pm with "sweet dreams " - thought about not replying but decided to go for the sorta smartass "sweet dreams"...if you get my drift. I didn't wanna leave her hanging after sending a message like that - or maybe i should've?

so yeah, how should i play this? we haven't really got to know each other yet. I'd say that the attraction so far is mainly physical. And as you can probably gather, i don't wanna **** this up, but based on her actions so far i'd say her interest is probably as high as mine

also, i haven't really been on any mid-week dates. What are some good idea's for a 19 and 20 year old? should i go with dinner, movie or both?

so yeah. You guys with a bit more experience, a few pointers would be great

 

[Chemistry]

LOL... an awesome girl you know basically nothing about!!! It's funny how when we get some kinda IL from a girl we find physically attractive then we start to construct her a personality that matches those looks...

You're actually past the first stage of things you shouldn't do because you're already thinking about this girl in this way... you'll meet up with her next time and you won't really be yourself because you've lumped this pressure onto yourself to perform in this situation... but, it's all to play for still anyway... just show her why spending time with you is much better than anything else she could do... show her your world and how cool it is... it's so cool that she would be stupid not to want to be a part of it...

You're asking what you should do for a date... what kind of things do you do? A lot of guys will do something they'd never normally do because they've got a girl with them and that fvcks it up... I love healthy sh!t and I love a good smoothie, so I'll take girls to a place which is representative of that, which enables me to demonstrate authority because I'm doing something totally natural to me... so many dudes are nervous about dates because they are throwing themselves into the unknown in their attempts to please a girl, when all the girl wants is a chance to see what they're about... if you want some more examples, then if you play a sport like golf or tennis why not try to bring her into your world, and certain sports offer a great potential for physical contact... maaaan, the list of things you can do on your first date are endless but only you know

Finally... a tip for what not to do is something which makes it difficult to talk, i.e. movie at a movie theater... and ideally you want something where you can inadvertantly have that physical contact, but that's not essential because you can always create opportunities for that yourself... oh yea, please, don't drive this chick home, lol... if you really must show her your car offer to drop her at the bus stop / train station if it's a little walk from where you're at...

 

[Blusher]

also, i haven't really been on any mid-week dates. What are some good idea's for a 19 and 20 year old? should i go with dinner, movie or both?

How about neither? Restaurant on a first date are a bore and counterproductive too and movie don't give you a chance to interract with her for most of the date and that's what you should be doing.

I'd say go have a drink somewhere and find out if you still wanna marry or her or just bone her.

 

[djbr]

so i met this awesome girl at a gig at my uni (she goes to a diff uni). Me and my mate agreed that she's easily a 9 in looks but it doesn't end there. She's got an awesome smile, seems like a lot of fun, she's smart, and she likes rock music! hahahahaha. ****ing jackpot! she's got some class about her too. I guess she's a girl you'd consider marrying (far from my mind atm though)

You just met her and you already gave her your max points? Bad move.

anyway, we haven't been out since then. We were going to try to meet up on saturday night after the gig she was at ended. She was gonna message me if she wanted to meet up after. But she ended up going to a vip party with her friends and i hung out with my mates at a nightclub.

Cut the text messages. Live action is your main goal, unless there is an IMPERATIVE reason not to.

in the meantime she's been sending me "nothing" messages just talking about random stuff, how crazy the weather's been, how she brought no warm clothes to sydney, asking me what bands i like etc...you know the kind

Free attention is not your friend. Cut it. Let her perform the way you like first, then you start giving her more thought.

I didn't wanna leave her hanging after sending a message like that - or maybe i should've?

As I said, you should have cut the text messaging to a minimum. Free attention diminishes your value.

so yeah, how should i play this? we haven't really got to know each other yet. I'd say that the attraction so far is mainly physical.

As it should be.

And as you can probably gather, i don't wanna **** this up, but based on her actions so far i'd say her interest is probably as high as mine

This is your main problem. Where is da competition? Trust me, if you put this kind of pressure on this one girl you will screw up by default. As soon as she senses this kind of mindset, she will lose interest FAST.

also, i haven't really been on any mid-week dates. What are some good idea's for a 19 and 20 year old? should i go with dinner, movie or both?

None of these. I nailed a girl after taking her with me to do some shopping at the local supermarket. You get the idea.

If you really want something more old school, take her to a coffee bar and keep it cheap. You're testing her for interest. Sell yourself short and you're dead meat.

 

[kyphan]

There are great threads on date ideas. Do a search.

How do you handle this one in particular? The same way you should handle them all, because you never know what you'll find. DJ Bible, especially Anti-Dump's Machine, for more info.

 

[DXX]

i didn't constuct anything about her. I can gather a lot about a person in 5 mins. I don't have any details, but i don't need them yet. I know she's smart (she got 92 i got 95 - so she's in the top 8% i'm top 5%), i saw her smile, i know what music she's into, i could sense she had class from the way she spoke, and i saw that she had a sense of humour....

and i'm not gonna put any pressure on myself to "perform" with this girl coz i'm always of the midset that the girl is chasing after me. And when this is the case AND you truly believe it, the whole game becomes so much easier.

And why wouldn't i drive her home? I'm not 100% sure where she lives, but it's not exactly out of my way (coming back from uni). Instead of going in a straight line its more of a curve.

anyway, i'm positive that i wont give out any bad vibes when i see her. I'm a pretty cool guy and i know how to handle myself.

and why wouldn't i message her back? that's just showing an obvious lack of interest and disrespect. Some of the ideals on here are badly flawed

i have a lot of girls show interest in me every day. I'm not a ****y prick, but its the truth. I'm not putting this girl on a pedestal just coz she's the first one to show any interest in me for the past 6 months....