Avoiding Napoleon Complex

[TubularBells28]

Some basic starting facts here.

I look good, and have been called cute and hot many times by members of the opposite sex. I work out and have a good body. I also have a good face, and look good in glasses "I wear really slim frames that match my facial features."

Here is the problem; I am short, towering at around 5'5" normally with an additional inch gained when I wear my boots.

I am a confident person, but I can be arrogant at times. I have also heard a lot about this "napoleon complex" and I know what it is. My dillemma is that I want to be a confident as possible without being viewed as someone with a "napoleon complex"

For instance, it is kinda irritating when a tall person does something confident that he is considered a leader, and when a short person does the same thing he is considered someone with a complex. Please give me some advice on how I can be confident yet not let anyone think I am trying to compensate for height.

 

[The Juan and only]

I don't think its got anything to do with height.

You might not agree with this and feel free to say so...however:

People probably don't respond how you'd like because your confidence doesn't seem real/fully developed - (i.e someone constantly worrying about their height isn't that confident)

"when a tall person does something confident.....he is considered a leader" - that's because he comes across more convincingly because he has real confidence and doesn't think too much about issues like height.

What I'm saying is that the very tone of your post demonstrates that you aren't fully confident and comfortable with yourself. but keep working on it dude, you will get there

don;t worry about your height. short guys can get girls just like everyone else.


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[TubularBells28]

I see your point, but I don't think its my mentality about my height. I even once said that I would never take a magic pill to make me grow a few inches. I love my height, and would never change it. It's just I don't want people to feel that I am trying to compensate for something. I am one of the top distance runners in the state of Nevada, graduated with high honors and am one of the few people to be enrolled in a selective leadership program. I do not want people to think I am trying to make up for something just because I am short, because that is not a motivation of mine.

I also don't like it when women say they don't feel protected when with me, even though I can bench 235 at a weight of 140.

Oh well.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

I noticed that there are some guys who are shorter than the average american male height (5'8") such as 5'5" as above tend to mention their shortness and then mention of their successes in life as if it were a crutch.

Yes it's true. It is more rare to see a taller woman dating a shorter man. And even short women who are shorter than 5'5" will pass up a guy who is 5'5" to be with a man who is 6'0". Double standard HUH?

So what can you do about it? Nothing, just be yourself. I mean, would you go around saying "I got a great six figure salary, masters in whatever bullcrap degree, a lamborghini, and i am extremely buff -- oh btw I have a 3 inch penis." guess what part of that phrase that woman will think of you the most.

Yes height does matter, it's been discussed over and over by the more insecure of the DJ crowd. This is how STRAIGHT people see each other physically (in order):

Men:

1. Face
2. Boobs/Ass
3. Height

Women:

1. Height
2. Face
3. Muscularity/Body Size

 

[aftershock]

You've got a complex about it already!

 

[n00bPimp]

I don't see how your complex can possibly relate to Napoleon Dynamite.

 

[seanchai]

Originally posted by TubularBells28
I love my height, and would never change it. It's just I don't want people to feel that I am trying to compensate for something. I am one of the top distance runners in the state of Nevada, graduated with high honors and am one of the few people to be enrolled in a selective leadership program. I do not want people to think I am trying to make up for something just because I am short, because that is not a motivation of mine.

I also don't like it when women say they don't feel protected when with me, even though I can bench 235 at a weight of 140.

Oh well.

What you're doing here is called "qualifying". If you don't want people to think you're making up for being short, don't tell them you love being short. It sounds like you're an otherwise cool guy who has a lot going for him who is unfortunately preoccupied with something he can't change. So just keep doing what you're doing and don't worry about whether people will question your motivation.

 

[Maverick001]

TubularBells28,

Like anything, height, weight, hair, no hair, ethnicity, etc. are only issues if you make them issues. Don`t make them issues. Don`t let anything stop you.

I`m 5`7" and the last girl I dated was 5`11". If I can do it so can you. Granted, most women will have a problem with dating men that are shorter than them. How to fix this problem? Make it her problem. Bring it up first and tell her, "Hey, HB9, there`s a height difference here. I`m over it, are you over it yet?"

In fact, bust on her for being so tall. Tell her to stand closer to you because you want some shade. Tell her to reach for things. Tell her that it must be hard to shop for clothes and shoes because she`s such a freak of nature being so tall, etc. Do this is a teasing way of course.

Have fun with it guy. The only thing stopping you is you.

Just my 2 cents.

Cheers,
Mav

 

[napoleon]

Why are you mentioning me? I dont have any complexes!

 

[heater528]

Originally posted by napoleon
Why are you mentioning me? I dont have any complexes!

LOL !

 

[heater528]

I just think as a shorter guy you have to be on your game alittle more. Its not that big a deal. Im 6ft3 and very laid back, i have to work alot less harder to get girls than my best friend that is 5ft4. However people say he has a complex because its rare that he smiles. Alot of times he attempts to put people down by bad mouthing them. It seems he has his best sucess when he relaxes has a good time, doesnt worry about his height and shows girls that hes a fun guy to be around.

 

[frivolousz21]

Yes height does matter, it's been discussed over and over by the more insecure of the DJ crowd. This is how STRAIGHT people see each other physically (in order):

listen Tuberla Ball sack:

I am 5 6..and I cant see being short as more then a 2 percent disatvantage.

for starters a women will take a shorter cuter guy over a taller less cute guy.

she will take a shorter man with confidence over a taller man with less confidence.

forget that your not tall......

If Danny Devito walked into a room..everyone would take notice..he is like 5 foot.