Avoided emotional tampon situation or being an jerk?

[Nn877]

So my gf had court today for with her daughters father over legal matters and visitation. She called me last night seemed very not in mood to talk and I asked her about tmw she said she didn't want to talk about it.

I know she was bothered by this court matter but I wasn't going to press. So today she had court in the am she texted me after sayin it got pushed back. And she's annoyed.

Then few hours later she calls me and is mad that I didn't call her today. Saying she's got calls but not from her bf and I'm suppose to be supportive etc. I didn't apologize and told her you said you didn't want to talk about it and didn't want to bother you about it. Said I was busy earlier and was waiting for her to call me. I didn't say sorry or started to act all apologetic on her. Now she said she's mad? Thoughts?

 

[_sideways_]

She's just having a bad day....don't even think about it...go for a jog. If she keeps up this act then u know u have a big baby on ur team because u didn't do anything wrong.

 

[Nn877]

I know how she is, so saying sorry is kinda pointless now and I didn't do anything wrong. She didn't want to talk abt it last night texted me earlier she's so annoyed and then expects me to call her?

 

[abe0]

If have ever gone through a divorce and custody you would understand how stressful this is. Cut her some slack and try to be understanding. She is acting like a typical emotional female and do not figure out why she said she didn't want to talk about it and then why you didn't call....do not try to reason that one out...you will loose. Just ignore the emotional bs and tell her you are there for her now.....Good Luck. Abe

 

[Nn877]

Abe, yeah maybe I didn't realize the importance of it to her. Would you suggest a text or call later today? Or let her cool off first? She can be pretty stubborn sometimes and I'm sure she'll be not to welcome to me trying to back peddle.

 

[GotED?]

You are in a relationship - and that takes certain amount of investment, dependent on how deeply connected you feel with your GF.

Not every relationship is the same, they are all unique in depth/shallowness as well as the underlying motive of the woman. Unfortunately, more than often a woman's motive for being with a man can be everything other than true heart-felt love or affection. More so she finds something in you useful such as financial, status, or using you for her own selfish needs (rebound, waiting for something better to come along, etc).

If you feel that you have a woman who really wants to be with you without any ulterior motives or agenda and she gives you all she's got in the relationship, then there is absolutely no need to play the silly games a lot of players tells it like it is the Bible here.

Sure you still need to retain your frame and etc - but you also need to be a true human being with your GF to the extent that life is a roller coaster, and one day you will need her to be true and real with you as well when you are in a sh!t hole.

Here's reality of the situation: A woman looks for a man to be with who she can RELY UPON, STRONGER THAN HER EMOTIONALLY, AND IS DECISIVE AND HAS LEADERSHIP SKILLS.

When you start doing away with these traits in time of critical needs for her, you will find yourself posting back on here why you lost your GF and whether you should go NC to get her back.

So do away with your paranoia and ego - if she's worth it, then give her your best.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[Nn877]

Thanks for the response, yeah I texted her earlier that I should of called. Not sure if I should call her when she's off in an hour and reason with her, she might be in mindset like "now you call me" not sure how to handle it.

 

[Nn877]

Wasn't a divorce, just legal battle of visitation of her daughter.

 

[Nn877]

So I shouldn't call? I was thinking she will still be upset/mad and maybe should wait until tmw. Scarce a good tactic for this? Seems like that would make her resent me more for not following thru


This was reply to my text earlier today:

"Well honestly it just bothered me that my other friends reached out to me and my own bf didnt...like i was the one to txt u today and at the minimum i just thought u should have called to see if i was ok so i was just disappointed "

"U are like the most supportive person to me so maybe thats why i expected that of u on a hard day like today"

 

[Bokanovsky]

More reason to avoid single moms/divorced chicks (as if you really needed another reason...)

 

[Tiguere]

More reason to avoid single moms/divorced chicks (as if you really needed another reason...)

JACKPOT!!!!

hey OP how old are both of you?

 

[Nn877]

Good point, I'm 28 and she's 27

 

[Nn877]

I didn't call or text after text reply prob like 4 hours, she called me when she got off and was over it. I still didn't say sorry and kept my frame as more misunderstanding. Might even been a **** test she stumbled on by accident.

Not sure but she doesn't seem too bothered now. I played it cool.

 

[backbreaker]

look guys people have ****ty days. i have ****ty days. there are days where i am just on one and my wife will look at me and be like okay it's one of those days lol, and just laugh and just stay out o my way until i've calmed down. there are days my wife is just really pissy and i'm like o...k... i'm about to go out lol. i don't hold it against her i just know she's not in a good mood.


your girl is having one of those days and understandably so. it's stressful. not everyone deals with stress great. just stay out of her way, she will realize how bad she ****ed up and soon she will understand just how kick ass you were for not esculating it.


look guys, and this goes for everyone. masuer i am sure will agree with this as well but believe it or not. everything is not about you. dont' make it about you. don't let yourself get lumped in with "**** that's ****ing up my day". stay out the way. this is when it pays to have hobbies and ****. go to the gym. read a book. give her a day or 2. let her cool down then reconnect.