I can use help on this one.
At a party this past weekend I ran into the wife of one of my associates at work. I've worked with him for a couple of years and we have a good relationship.
I've known her about as long, but superficially. I must admit that when I first laid eyes on her my blood pressures and other vital signs escalated. She's hot.
She was at the party alone and I was glad to have the opportunity to get to know her better. Little did I know.
Talking to her was enjoyable and I was pleased to have her full attention. At a certain point in the convo I thought what a great opportunity to get insights on women from her, or at least worth a try.
So the convo escalated from small talk to more sexual stuff- strip clubs,
bisexuality, adult conventions, etc.- all good fun for me to chat about.
Then she lets me have it- she does not believe in monogamy and in fact recently gave the husband her blessing to hook up with someone while he was traveling.
Guys, I am not the type to pursue a married woman and this was absolutely the last thing on my mind (other than in fantasy) but fifteen minutes later I was sitting at the top of a staircase making out with her. Wow.
I could not isolate her further and she eventually became concerned that people would notice even though we made some effort to be discreet.
She said she was not worried about her husband finding out, just that people don't understand, etc. Makes sense to me.
At this point I was tipsy (so was she), incredibly horny, and just riding the wave of lust. I told her I wanted more and she said something to the effect that "something could be worked out". She's hot but she has an exterior cool cucumber (in control) demeanor, which I actually find attractive.
So the night ended at a high point. True, the animal in me would have loved to close the deal right then but I must admit that getting that much attention
and juicy kissing, all a big surprise- all in all a great night!
OK: practicalities. I just have her word for her marriage arrangement.
I don't want it to get messy with the husband, who will be around for another six months before he probably moves on to another gig. Because it was such a free-form experience somewhat fueled by alcohol, no blueprint was laid out on how to proceed from here.
I did get an email from her today, terse, pleasant, went as far as saying it was great talking with me Saturday, but no obvious doors opening.
Now what? Do I ask her out for coffee to test the waters under sober bright light conditions to see if the chemistry is still there (yes, that's my job I know). If so, do I then have coffee with him (!) to verify his blessings?
Should I invite both of them over for dinner to get a perspective?
I've got other plates going and I'm not minimizing potential red flags here, but I have to be honest- I was stunned when I first saw this woman and to have her potentially dropped in my lap is an unexpected fantasy scenario I'm not ready to casually dismiss. I could be happy with whatever I got- ONS
or better but I want her if I can get her.
I'm contemplating proceeding basically as I would with any other initial encounter- asking to meet for coffee, etc. and somehow working in the
additional "items of interest", gulp, dealing with a married couple.
Am I nuts? Am I blinded by my lust? Do you see red flags I don't?
Do I have your blessing to proceed? I want her but you can tell I do have
some trepidation about launching into potentially choppy waters.
At a party this past weekend I ran into the wife of one of my associates at work. I've worked with him for a couple of years and we have a good relationship.
I've known her about as long, but superficially. I must admit that when I first laid eyes on her my blood pressures and other vital signs escalated. She's hot.
She was at the party alone and I was glad to have the opportunity to get to know her better. Little did I know.
Talking to her was enjoyable and I was pleased to have her full attention. At a certain point in the convo I thought what a great opportunity to get insights on women from her, or at least worth a try.
So the convo escalated from small talk to more sexual stuff- strip clubs,
bisexuality, adult conventions, etc.- all good fun for me to chat about.
Then she lets me have it- she does not believe in monogamy and in fact recently gave the husband her blessing to hook up with someone while he was traveling.
Guys, I am not the type to pursue a married woman and this was absolutely the last thing on my mind (other than in fantasy) but fifteen minutes later I was sitting at the top of a staircase making out with her. Wow.
I could not isolate her further and she eventually became concerned that people would notice even though we made some effort to be discreet.
She said she was not worried about her husband finding out, just that people don't understand, etc. Makes sense to me.
At this point I was tipsy (so was she), incredibly horny, and just riding the wave of lust. I told her I wanted more and she said something to the effect that "something could be worked out". She's hot but she has an exterior cool cucumber (in control) demeanor, which I actually find attractive.
So the night ended at a high point. True, the animal in me would have loved to close the deal right then but I must admit that getting that much attention
and juicy kissing, all a big surprise- all in all a great night!
OK: practicalities. I just have her word for her marriage arrangement.
I don't want it to get messy with the husband, who will be around for another six months before he probably moves on to another gig. Because it was such a free-form experience somewhat fueled by alcohol, no blueprint was laid out on how to proceed from here.
I did get an email from her today, terse, pleasant, went as far as saying it was great talking with me Saturday, but no obvious doors opening.
Now what? Do I ask her out for coffee to test the waters under sober bright light conditions to see if the chemistry is still there (yes, that's my job I know). If so, do I then have coffee with him (!) to verify his blessings?
Should I invite both of them over for dinner to get a perspective?
I've got other plates going and I'm not minimizing potential red flags here, but I have to be honest- I was stunned when I first saw this woman and to have her potentially dropped in my lap is an unexpected fantasy scenario I'm not ready to casually dismiss. I could be happy with whatever I got- ONS
or better but I want her if I can get her.
I'm contemplating proceeding basically as I would with any other initial encounter- asking to meet for coffee, etc. and somehow working in the
additional "items of interest", gulp, dealing with a married couple.
Am I nuts? Am I blinded by my lust? Do you see red flags I don't?
Do I have your blessing to proceed? I want her but you can tell I do have
some trepidation about launching into potentially choppy waters.
