hey, just wanted to pop in here, seeing as I have (or perhaps
had is more accurate now) asperger's syndrome and have done more than my fair share of research as well as plenty of my own observations
the event described in the first post is quite distinctly not seen by someone with asperger's. as someone said above, a person with asperger's syndrome would not recognize that anythign went wrong there. thats just how I was for the longest time.
I wont go through an entire list of charactreristics, but the easiest to notice of them tend to be the terrible handwriting, social impariment and an extreme skill in one or two fields of interest.
while, alas, is is impossible (right now) to 'cure' autism (or, consequentially, asperger's sydrome) it can be worked around, given enough determination. however, noone else can really help make this change in the guy with asperger's syndrome: he has to seek it himself
for example, when I began to manage asperger's syndrome and try to actualy enter the social field, I found myself with no real socal skills whatsoever (big suprise, I hadent ever tried, so of course I had no skills). since I cant really use someone's facial expressions or tone of voice or any other body language to tell mood implicitally, I had to study (yes, study) facial expressions, and practice with myself determining what each person I walked by was feeling. Knowing what (and when) to say something is constantally a problem, as well as knowing if a joke is any good, or if it just plain old sucks. things like that as well as any unique social situation are not things that I just 'know'... I have to make myself a speerate 'rule' for what is and isn't appropriate for that case. I try my best to use my friends's (alot of them being some of the best playas at our school) stratgies and humor, etc as much as often, and I constantally ask them for advice.
so yes, if you are determined, and you are willing to pay the price (that is, spending inoridaniate ammouns of me studying and practicignd trying even when you know you are going to fail... and Im not talking about 10 hour's time, I am talking 2-3 hours a day,
every single day for 4 months or so, to bring me from 0 social life, to slightly below average social life (as a senior at high school). I intend to spend the majority of the rest of my summer before georgia tech gaining more... usefiul skills, such as knowing how to flirt (which, naturally, comes as diffuclt, or even more so, than a regular social life and conversation... ) in fact, right now I only know the very basics (still on the flirtig topic)-- it
seems like its basically just a normal conversation, asking open questions, smiling and eye contact...but IDK how that makes a girl like you...see, I stil have alot to learn before being up to par with everyone else...
oh on that topic, could anyone please comment on if I have the right idea on that? (points to section of last paragraph on my beliefs on what flirting is)
thanks
now the ironic thing is, that even though I wrote all this, someone with apserger's (and not having recognized/began to try to ammend it) isnt even going to be the kind of person to try to read this post. in fact, you can be assured that your average person who has asperger's syndrome would never even visit a site like this---they would just look at it and think "wow, why do people even care about girls and dating?? its just a waste of time and money"
erm...well...uh..... Im basically just rambling, so Ill quit talking while im behind