LuckyStrike88
Don Juan
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Lately i have been noticing something in a few threads. Some men asking about what to do in a certain situation where they feel they should have done something to prevent being perceived as beta. I recognize this because i have done the same.
What i found out is that if you are trying to prevent coming across as beta by somewhat overcompensating it actually makes you more beta than you actually truly are. And i think if you just let go of trying to prevent from being perceived as beta your authentic strong side will come out on it's own. It is basically very counter productive because it is an increasing weight on your shoulders and most women get wind of it and will test and find out the real you over time anyway.
On one occasion i was actually having a bad day and felt off my game and a girl that i was really into invited me over. At first i was like damn it if i go over there now i might destroy my chances, but as i drove over there i decided to not hide that i was off my game at all. I got over to her place and we started talking, i complained about a few things that bothered me and i was kind of in a bad vibe while doing so. She listened and actually showed respect for it. Shortly after that it was like my jar of weakness was was completely empty and all i could do was feeling happy and strong. Started teasing her and whatnot and ended up having a great night.
What i learned from that is to not hide who you truly are even if you think woman won't like the taste of it. And improve yourself so that the thing that works comes out naturally without having to over think or stress about it.
What i found out is that if you are trying to prevent coming across as beta by somewhat overcompensating it actually makes you more beta than you actually truly are. And i think if you just let go of trying to prevent from being perceived as beta your authentic strong side will come out on it's own. It is basically very counter productive because it is an increasing weight on your shoulders and most women get wind of it and will test and find out the real you over time anyway.
On one occasion i was actually having a bad day and felt off my game and a girl that i was really into invited me over. At first i was like damn it if i go over there now i might destroy my chances, but as i drove over there i decided to not hide that i was off my game at all. I got over to her place and we started talking, i complained about a few things that bothered me and i was kind of in a bad vibe while doing so. She listened and actually showed respect for it. Shortly after that it was like my jar of weakness was was completely empty and all i could do was feeling happy and strong. Started teasing her and whatnot and ended up having a great night.
What i learned from that is to not hide who you truly are even if you think woman won't like the taste of it. And improve yourself so that the thing that works comes out naturally without having to over think or stress about it.