Attractive Women Seem Cold for a Reason

[DJDamage]

I finally understand attractive women alot more after what has happened to me at work recently.

Prior to being on sosuave I was the type of guy who was shy and never spoke much. At work I used to pay alot more attention to people who made me feel good about myself because they were bringing something to the table (either hot chicks or some cool dudes).

Now I am the type of guy that uses his charm to make all people from all walks of life at work feel good, I throw some jokes around and naturally people like me. This helped me with being more at ease with women, because I am more comfortable talking to people on a general basis then thinking I have to impress them.

However there are some drawbacks which relates to my story. There is this warpig (a 5'6 250 LBS) at my work who has the hots for me. I guess the reason is that I might be one of the few (or only one) guy's at work that actually payed any attention to her. I am already used to women at my work liking me but this one is starting to take a serious interest in me. I frequently bump into her at work because I suspect she follows me around, she tried to invite me to her birthday but I smiled and said I already had a prior engagement to attend (in which she replied that I owe her a drink because of it) and now she has told some female coworker friends (who told another male coworker who told me, not before laughing his ass off) that she has a huge crush me. I might have to nip this in the bud before it escalates farther because one thing I know about warpigs is that they got nothing to lose so they tend to go for it.

Its now dawned on me that women are much more harsher in the game of dating for a reason. Attractive women have developed b1tchy or cold attitude towards majority of the male population not only because they feel entitled, but to ward off any unwanted AFC suitors. Lets face it, if attractive women are nice to men, we automatically assume they like us and try to hit that. The more attractive the woman is, the more she has to put up with a larger pool of the male population she isn't attracted too.

Now the question is this? should I develop a complex and not be so nice to everyone and be selective? or should I continue to be nice to everyone and expects that sh1t like this would occur from time to time? (it has happened before). Either way it seems to me that I will be inadvertently upseting people in a work environment by either acting like an pompous ass, or end up rejecting ugly chicks left and right.

Any thoughts?

 

[st_99]

I used to not be able to figure out why talking to a fat or avg chick was so
easy, fluid, and effortless while getting a conversation going with a hot chick
was painfully difficult. I thought it was just me being shy or intimidated which
was true to an extent.


I now know that hot chicks don't converse well, don't have much to day, and don't have any sense of humor. It has very little to do with me and everything to do with them.

You really do need to talk differently to hot chicks.

 

[slaog]

Continue being your charming self. If women read the signals wrong and get their hopes up then thats not your problem. You didn't lead anybody on.

 

[Mr.Positive]

Now the question is this? should I develop a complex and not be so nice to everyone and be selective? or should I continue to be nice to everyone and expects that sh1t like this would occur from time to time? (it has happened before). Either way it seems to me that I will be inadvertently upseting people in a work environment by either acting like an pompous ass, or end up rejecting ugly chicks left and right.

Any thoughts?

DJDamage, this happens a lot...and trust me if one gal has a crush on you, even if she is a 'warpig', there probably many more that are datable.

Having forward unattractive women is just a minor inconvenience to being a charming great guy.

Here's what you do:

Either casually in person mention to her, or tell this to the coworker so it gets back to her. Say that you think she's a wonderful gal, but you think of her like a sister.

When you say "like a sister.." women know exactly what the means. It's like dropping a get out of jail free card in Monopoly. You are playing your "get out of dating a warpig" free card.

It works everytime, and I've found makes these situations go for the better.

No woman, is ever, going to try and put the moves on a guy who thinks she's like a sister. That would mentally creep her out, and..to top it off, it gives her a nice warm compliment. She so special...she's "like a sister"

Try it, it will work.

 

[Luveno]

DJDamage, this happens a lot...and trust me if one gal has a crush on you, even if she is a 'warpig', there probably many more that are datable.

Having forward unattractive women is just a minor inconvenience to being a charming great guy.

Here's what you do:

Either casually in person mention to her, or tell this to the coworker so it gets back to her. Say that you think she's a wonderful gal, but you think of her like a sister.

When you say "like a sister.." women know exactly what the means. It's like dropping a get out of jail free card in Monopoly. You are playing your "get out of dating a warpig" free card.

It works everytime, and I've found makes these situations go for the better.

No woman, is ever, going to try and put the moves on a guy who thinks she's like a sister. That would mentally creep her out, and..to top it off, it gives her a nice warm compliment. She so special...she's "like a sister"

Try it, it will work.

"you're like a sister" is the male equivalent to LJBF. Heck, we should give it an acronym!

YLAS!

 

[betterthandead]

uh maybe it has to do with their personality not mixing well with a lot of men? keep in mind while one girl will manipulate or have mental probs with one guy she will worship the next guy.

 

[edger]

I used to not be able to figure out why talking to a fat or avg chick was so easy, fluid, and effortless while getting a conversation going with a hot chick was painfully difficult. I thought it was just me being shy or intimidated which was true to an extent.

This is where the "intimidation" of a hot chick stems from. It stems from the fact that with most of them, it's painfully difficult to get a conversation going. It also has to do with their demeanor(b*tchy facial expressions and body language).

 

[ketostix]

"you're like a sister" is the male equivalent to LJBF. Heck, we should give it an acronym!

YLAS!

How about LJBS "Let's just be siblings" lol.

 

[decades]

you are kind of avoiding a simple solution. next time you are with this chick you don't want to hang with, get in a convo and INdirectly start talking about how you simply aren't interested in dating anyone from work or even tell her this, "look I like you a lot but only as a friend. I would never want to jeopardize our great friendship". How can she hate you for that? I think you have a little of the nice guy thing going where you don't want to "hurt" this chick by rejecting her, but how can you if you are just being honest? So don't change what you are doing. But DO be more direct when that is called for and don't be afraid of your own honesty.

 

[Desert Fox]

Who cares if she hates you or not?

Warpigs have no discipline and it shows. They do not deserve my respect and sympathy for simply approaching. That's like saying some AFC fatass deserves a hot chick because he approached her. NO. He is still a loser fatass who has no discipline or drive in life and it odesn't change in one day or one week simply because he approached a hot girl.

I'd give her the LJBF and then forget about this. If she keeps coming on to you, I'd file a complaint to your boss if it starts interfering with your work/life/sex life because some women might back off if they see the warpig trying ot get with you. Bad for you.

 

[SharpGame]

Be super nice to her. Get her talking you up to all the women in the place - telling them how hot you are. Then drop the "you're like a sister" line on her or kill two birds with one stone by asking her if she can help you hook up with a coworker you're interested in.

 

[slaog]

Be super nice to her. Get her talking you up to all the women in the place - telling them how hot you are. Then drop the "you're like a sister" line on her or kill two birds with one stone by asking her if she can help you hook up with a coworker you're interested in.

:crackup:
Thats being cruel!

 

[SoCalMike]

Avoid her like the plague. When she talks to you give her short one word answers and make sure there are long pauses of silence.

You don't want a fat chick thinking you like her. She'll start getting all emotional and attached. Bad.

I don't agree with the "let's just be friends/sisters". Trying to let her down easy won't work, she'll just resent you for it. A chick knows when she's been rejected no matter how you do it and she'll be PO'd either way.

Besides, like Desert Fox said, fat people have no discipline, they have shown that they have no willpower or respect for themselves by allowing themselves to become fat asses. This kind of person does not deserve sympathy. It would be different if she was just butt ugly because of genetics, but being fat... no.