Some ideas I have about attraction, the 'tension' it causes, and how this relates to Game-playing by women and chasing by men.
Base Concepts: SMV, Attraction, Romantic FEELINGS
The above are the driving force of relationships ie Attraction and Game.
With good looks a guy has the 'potential' to be good in the Game, just like an athletic and fit guy has the potential to be good at soccer, but he has to learn the Game.
So Game-level is what really affects SMV, but SMV is a weird concept in that it is more of a social construct. You can have SMV vs Attraction/Game. Say, for example you have a culture that tells women X guy has value, like he has money, or fame or even other women rate him. So these are non-emotional factors that cause that guy to be elevated in the womans eyes. This is SMV. On the other hand you have Game. When a guy runs Game on women, it increases her FEELINGS inc things like Dopamine etc. This results in feelins and attractions.
So you can have situations where a guy has higher SMV, lets say Leo Dicaprio, or some pop star, or some young tall good looking Chad who women think other women are ****ing and society tells her these are the best guys. But then another guy is unknown but his behaviour exhibitis high game, and he also may be good looking. When this guys behaviour has high Game she is gonna be attracted to and have feelings for this guy. It will cancel out the high SMV of the other guy which is based not on behaviours but money, status, culture etc.
So this is where SMV and Game differ. SMV is just what people think who havent experienced Game or only at a lower level. SMV is an older concept since when Game didnt exist. These two are in conflict and Game will wiin out cos that is the real thing, and SMV is just a socially agreed upon value which changes according to trends and culture. At the end, SMV will be equal to Game but atm there is not enough Game out there hence SMV deviates and it tends to deviate around money, job, race, height etc ie superficial things women care about who havent experienced real Game. Its like in Football, imagine caring about players height, race etc but not about football ability, that can happen when the game is new and you havent seen real good players and what they can do.
SMV is a static socially agreed upon value placed on a guy. Game is dynamic and based on behaviours not static attributes. Hence, Game is more associated with FEELINGS and EMOTIONS, whereas SMV is mostly a practical concept.
If a woman is a romantic idealist, will go for a guy with Game, while a shrewd woman who cares about others opinions will go for a guy with money and status ie SMV.
Tension: This mostly exists within the emotional space and is more associated with Game than SMV guys. Tension exists when high-level Game can elevate the experience of the interaction. This results in Attraction. Attraction results in Tension. Why? When a woman gets lots of good feelings ie Attraction, then because most women havent experienced that, or are uncertain how things are gonna work out, or has insecurities and fears it creates Tension.
Attraction + Inexperience/Uncertainty = Tension
But what happens is Tension is easier to identify than Attraction alone. Because Attraction can be emotional, physical, romantic etc it is quite complicated, it can be more difficult to measure. Hence, Tension becomes the measure of Attraction. So women will gravitate towards Tension because it means there is Attraction.
What women dont understand is that the Tension is what causes them to play games and cause drama. But the tension only exists because there is uncertainty in the situation. If the woman was 100% confident and experienced in Game, there would be no tension, and hence she would play less games and cause fewer problems.
The Tension, its like imagine you never made money and never ran a successful business but only experienced failures. Now, lets say you started a business and it pretty soon starts to make money and do well. There is gonna be this Tension because you are uncertain if you are gonna lose it, if it is gonna **** up, you are always doubting yourself, and you have no idea how this is gonna change your life. You are not used to making money and therefore there is this tension which is just fear that you will do something wrong, something bad will happen, what happens next etc.
The problem is that Tension causes women to make drama, play games, cause problems etc. All this comes from their own insecurities.
But, when guys are getting laid quickly, or having high-notches ie PUA types, those guys are not developing Attraction or Tension. If there was real Attraction there would be some Tension, then that will make the women play games and not give it up easy, make you chase etc.
So PUA and getting high-notches is not really Game, it is mostly SMV based. Height, Looks, Attitude is not about Game. PUA is mostly about minimising Tension so sex can happen quickly and easily and the woman doesnt play games. So, guys who get laid quickly, or a lot, have to minimise tension but maintain some form of SMV. If they bring in Game and Attraction, it will cause Tension, that will make the woman play games and then the quick lay will be lost.
But to win with women for real, you have to bring in Game and Attraction. But the problem is that will cause Tension, which will make the woman want you to chase, she will play games and cause drama.
So for the highest SMV guys it seems the issue is to increase Attraction and Game but somehow minismise Tension. Tension is the uncertainty in the woman about what is gonna happen/how she should act/should she give it up easy or not/does she look stupid when txting or not. The more attractive you are, the more she has feelings, the more she cares, the more she is gonna play games cos she is afraid of making mistakes and looking/sounding stupid, and game-playing, not txting back etc these are all behaviours that give her the feeling of confidence, safety and power. All these things she is doing due to the Tension in the situation, which is her own uncertainty and fear.
Base Concepts: SMV, Attraction, Romantic FEELINGS
The above are the driving force of relationships ie Attraction and Game.
With good looks a guy has the 'potential' to be good in the Game, just like an athletic and fit guy has the potential to be good at soccer, but he has to learn the Game.
So Game-level is what really affects SMV, but SMV is a weird concept in that it is more of a social construct. You can have SMV vs Attraction/Game. Say, for example you have a culture that tells women X guy has value, like he has money, or fame or even other women rate him. So these are non-emotional factors that cause that guy to be elevated in the womans eyes. This is SMV. On the other hand you have Game. When a guy runs Game on women, it increases her FEELINGS inc things like Dopamine etc. This results in feelins and attractions.
So you can have situations where a guy has higher SMV, lets say Leo Dicaprio, or some pop star, or some young tall good looking Chad who women think other women are ****ing and society tells her these are the best guys. But then another guy is unknown but his behaviour exhibitis high game, and he also may be good looking. When this guys behaviour has high Game she is gonna be attracted to and have feelings for this guy. It will cancel out the high SMV of the other guy which is based not on behaviours but money, status, culture etc.
So this is where SMV and Game differ. SMV is just what people think who havent experienced Game or only at a lower level. SMV is an older concept since when Game didnt exist. These two are in conflict and Game will wiin out cos that is the real thing, and SMV is just a socially agreed upon value which changes according to trends and culture. At the end, SMV will be equal to Game but atm there is not enough Game out there hence SMV deviates and it tends to deviate around money, job, race, height etc ie superficial things women care about who havent experienced real Game. Its like in Football, imagine caring about players height, race etc but not about football ability, that can happen when the game is new and you havent seen real good players and what they can do.
SMV is a static socially agreed upon value placed on a guy. Game is dynamic and based on behaviours not static attributes. Hence, Game is more associated with FEELINGS and EMOTIONS, whereas SMV is mostly a practical concept.
If a woman is a romantic idealist, will go for a guy with Game, while a shrewd woman who cares about others opinions will go for a guy with money and status ie SMV.
Tension: This mostly exists within the emotional space and is more associated with Game than SMV guys. Tension exists when high-level Game can elevate the experience of the interaction. This results in Attraction. Attraction results in Tension. Why? When a woman gets lots of good feelings ie Attraction, then because most women havent experienced that, or are uncertain how things are gonna work out, or has insecurities and fears it creates Tension.
Attraction + Inexperience/Uncertainty = Tension
But what happens is Tension is easier to identify than Attraction alone. Because Attraction can be emotional, physical, romantic etc it is quite complicated, it can be more difficult to measure. Hence, Tension becomes the measure of Attraction. So women will gravitate towards Tension because it means there is Attraction.
What women dont understand is that the Tension is what causes them to play games and cause drama. But the tension only exists because there is uncertainty in the situation. If the woman was 100% confident and experienced in Game, there would be no tension, and hence she would play less games and cause fewer problems.
The Tension, its like imagine you never made money and never ran a successful business but only experienced failures. Now, lets say you started a business and it pretty soon starts to make money and do well. There is gonna be this Tension because you are uncertain if you are gonna lose it, if it is gonna **** up, you are always doubting yourself, and you have no idea how this is gonna change your life. You are not used to making money and therefore there is this tension which is just fear that you will do something wrong, something bad will happen, what happens next etc.
The problem is that Tension causes women to make drama, play games, cause problems etc. All this comes from their own insecurities.
But, when guys are getting laid quickly, or having high-notches ie PUA types, those guys are not developing Attraction or Tension. If there was real Attraction there would be some Tension, then that will make the women play games and not give it up easy, make you chase etc.
So PUA and getting high-notches is not really Game, it is mostly SMV based. Height, Looks, Attitude is not about Game. PUA is mostly about minimising Tension so sex can happen quickly and easily and the woman doesnt play games. So, guys who get laid quickly, or a lot, have to minimise tension but maintain some form of SMV. If they bring in Game and Attraction, it will cause Tension, that will make the woman play games and then the quick lay will be lost.
But to win with women for real, you have to bring in Game and Attraction. But the problem is that will cause Tension, which will make the woman want you to chase, she will play games and cause drama.
So for the highest SMV guys it seems the issue is to increase Attraction and Game but somehow minismise Tension. Tension is the uncertainty in the woman about what is gonna happen/how she should act/should she give it up easy or not/does she look stupid when txting or not. The more attractive you are, the more she has feelings, the more she cares, the more she is gonna play games cos she is afraid of making mistakes and looking/sounding stupid, and game-playing, not txting back etc these are all behaviours that give her the feeling of confidence, safety and power. All these things she is doing due to the Tension in the situation, which is her own uncertainty and fear.
