When David De Angelo says "Attraction isn't a Choice" What came to your mind first? What came to my mind was:
If you meet a girl, she is either attracted to you or she isn't attracted to you. And thats it. Period.
This was a very logical, concise way to put it, and it is mostly incorrect.
For people who haven't really looked into this, or gone out into the field and really scrutinized their interaction with women you may not have realized exactly what is meant.
Attraction isn't a choice. Key word.. Attraction. What is it? Why is it there? Why is it not a choice?
David says something along the lines of "Attraction is the human reaction to cause someone to want to mate with another with good genes."
Its there to spread genes. But is it a choice or not?
The answer is still no, Attraction isn't a choice, but here is why it isn't a choice?
Women are not attracted to "good looks" "dark skin" "toned body". They just find them very appealing. Women are attracted to how you make them feel! You don't make women feel good by dressing fancy and becoming tanned.
You make them feel good by being a man around them. An alpha. By being a high status male with values. Women don't have any choice BUT be attracted to you. Men who don't give up their emotions easily, sacrifice values and needs for anything less. Someone others look up to (social proof). Someone who knows and has things, but doesn't care to brag about them.
They may not like you, love you, or want you. In fact they may hate you. But they will be attracted to you. Without attraction, you can't take your relationship to the next level.
Attraction isn't going to get you laid. Attraction is the very first phase of a relationship. As Mystery said:
Attraction -> Comfort -> Sex -> Relationship.
Attraction is only the first step. Once you learn, understand, and "become" the traits of a masculine male, ALL normal women will become attracted to you whether they are in relationships or whatever.
Creating attraction is only the first step. The game is played in comfort, so don't think that you got it all together just yet.
However attraction isn't hard once you understand Status, Alpha, Masculinity, Body Language, etc.
You need to read about it and go out into the field. Read IOIs and base your actions on IOIs, never on what people say. Don't ask for advice on how you act, it must be your instinct. Knowing you are right will up your confidence A LOT!
Attraction F2M is all about confidence. Confidence, confidence, confidence.
To get confidence... well, here is was I do. I think of life as one giant experiment. All life is an experiment, JUST DO IT. Confidence will come. I'm sorry to say it, but you probably won't gain much confidence without trying and being successful.
Mask failure as a successful lesson in life.
Anyway, once you built the attraction (which you will EVERY TIME once you understand masculinity and confidence), then we can worry about comfort.
I am still a student of Attraction. All I can say is I never hit on girls. I project traits to cause them to become attracted to me. They don't have a choice about it!!
Read my thread on Status http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66878 On how to start your path towards a high status male.
When I understood those concepts, my views changed forever.
PS. Attraction has its own phases. You must learn to "Open" women and other things. Check out Thundercat's book "The Art of Approaching" it is MONEY!
And of course, read Mystery Method. Again, $$$$$$$$
If you meet a girl, she is either attracted to you or she isn't attracted to you. And thats it. Period.
This was a very logical, concise way to put it, and it is mostly incorrect.
For people who haven't really looked into this, or gone out into the field and really scrutinized their interaction with women you may not have realized exactly what is meant.
Attraction isn't a choice. Key word.. Attraction. What is it? Why is it there? Why is it not a choice?
David says something along the lines of "Attraction is the human reaction to cause someone to want to mate with another with good genes."
Its there to spread genes. But is it a choice or not?
The answer is still no, Attraction isn't a choice, but here is why it isn't a choice?
Women are not attracted to "good looks" "dark skin" "toned body". They just find them very appealing. Women are attracted to how you make them feel! You don't make women feel good by dressing fancy and becoming tanned.
You make them feel good by being a man around them. An alpha. By being a high status male with values. Women don't have any choice BUT be attracted to you. Men who don't give up their emotions easily, sacrifice values and needs for anything less. Someone others look up to (social proof). Someone who knows and has things, but doesn't care to brag about them.
They may not like you, love you, or want you. In fact they may hate you. But they will be attracted to you. Without attraction, you can't take your relationship to the next level.
Attraction isn't going to get you laid. Attraction is the very first phase of a relationship. As Mystery said:
Attraction -> Comfort -> Sex -> Relationship.
Attraction is only the first step. Once you learn, understand, and "become" the traits of a masculine male, ALL normal women will become attracted to you whether they are in relationships or whatever.
Creating attraction is only the first step. The game is played in comfort, so don't think that you got it all together just yet.
However attraction isn't hard once you understand Status, Alpha, Masculinity, Body Language, etc.
You need to read about it and go out into the field. Read IOIs and base your actions on IOIs, never on what people say. Don't ask for advice on how you act, it must be your instinct. Knowing you are right will up your confidence A LOT!
Attraction F2M is all about confidence. Confidence, confidence, confidence.
To get confidence... well, here is was I do. I think of life as one giant experiment. All life is an experiment, JUST DO IT. Confidence will come. I'm sorry to say it, but you probably won't gain much confidence without trying and being successful.
Mask failure as a successful lesson in life.
Anyway, once you built the attraction (which you will EVERY TIME once you understand masculinity and confidence), then we can worry about comfort.
I am still a student of Attraction. All I can say is I never hit on girls. I project traits to cause them to become attracted to me. They don't have a choice about it!!
Read my thread on Status http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=66878 On how to start your path towards a high status male.
When I understood those concepts, my views changed forever.
PS. Attraction has its own phases. You must learn to "Open" women and other things. Check out Thundercat's book "The Art of Approaching" it is MONEY!
And of course, read Mystery Method. Again, $$$$$$$$
