Attraction is a funny thing!

[SoldMySoul]

I am getting back out there and getting practice. Last night I went out with an HB7.5-8 and a lot of guys would do some serious AFC shyt to this women.
I am sure this women hears all kind of silly crap from dudes. We went
to a late movie and this girl would not shut up!!!! Long story short, besides what she looks like I could only find her faults and she has a bunch of them. Talks to much, too loud, not very classy, recovering addict. I talked to my brother this morning and he asked about the date and was I going to call her back. I basically told him when you are the prize you do not have to call someone you aren't that interested in. I would probably go back out with her, but I am not going out of my way and she would have to ask. I feel that I am getting the Alpha Male thing down!

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Congratulations SoldMYSoul,


It's amazing how the ability to be more HOLISTIC in your approach to finding a good woman can help you maintain your objectivity. When we can keep the mindset of WE are the prize, and it's all about what WE want in a babe, THEN we can better position ourselves to be the ones who do the qualifying.

Something similar just happened to me recently. So far this weekend, I've sexed a girl on Friday. And I sexed a girl on Saturday. Here in Memphis right now, it's just barely Sunday afternoon. So the day is young...lol

My point is this...the more sex you get, SOMETIMES the more mundane cootchie can become. Think about it. It's all just an "opening". Some girls can work it better than others, true.

But to me, it's a girls' optional, mental and physical extras (see---Personality, Intelligence, Devotion, Honesty, Titts, Butts, Lips, Hips, etc.) that can really BOOST the value of the sexual experience at the end of the day.

Both those women I mentioned earlier had their distinctions: One was more INTO me, and freaky and more sexually compatible---anti multi-orgasmic. The other was less INTO me, less freaky, FINER, but more energetic. But kind of emotionally closed off.

I've never really been a new-chick-a-night type guy before. But my circumstances have sort of "made" me have to be this way.

But the one thing that both of the girls I just mentioned have in common is that they are both ultimately UNAVAILABLE for me LTR wise---which is my ultimate goal.

The first girl is leaving to go to the army, but is really into me because she thinks I'm a "bad boy" (not true, by the way), and I know how to bring out her freaky side.

She is used to being a serial monogamist (which I happen to think is a good thing, for the most part), but now she's just enjoying the wreckless sexual abandon that she experiences with me. But she STILL has no plans of keeping her azz in town just for me. So she's ultimately unavailable for me.

The second girl is a career woman who comes across as kind of hard sometimes, and selfish. She doesn't seem very giving or nurturing, and her sexual inhibitions about certain things can easily turn me off.

Also, I get the feeling she is NOT really interested in knowing me internally, and just wants me for the convenient sex. So she's ultimately unavailable for me.

Oops. Sorry for the ramble. But anyway, back to my point.

It's easier to stop putting the puzzy on a pedestal when you have had enough of it to NOT be fascinated by just the possibility of it anymore.

And when a certain amount of cootchie immunity has been acquired, OTHER qualities a woman may or may not possess become more important to your selection process.




Peace...one day.

 

[Bonhomme]

Much truth spoken above.

The first girl is leaving to go to the army, but is really into me because she thinks I'm a "bad boy" (not true, by the way), and I know how to bring out her freaky side.

Yup. But be careful when dealing with much younger gals if you're over 30. They can freak out about it, and turn your own effectiveness at getting them turned on back against you. Still learning how to handle that one ...

 

[Desdinova]

It's easier to stop putting the puzzy on a pedestal when you have had enough of it to NOT be fascinated by just the possibility of it anymore.

Very, very true. It also gets to a point where her physical appearance doesn't intimidate you, but you wonder if she's going to be a spoiled b1tch because of her looks. I found that as I moved on, I needed something other than looks to stimulate me. I needed a woman to stimulate me mentally as well as sexually to be seriously attracted to her. Face it, a woman who looks good but acts like a 5hithead isn't attractive.

 

[Vulpine]

It also gets to a point where her physical appearance doesn't intimidate you, but you wonder if she's going to be a spoiled b1tch because of her looks. I found that as I moved on, I needed something other than looks to stimulate me. I needed a woman to stimulate me mentally as well as sexually to be seriously attracted to her. Face it, a woman who looks good but acts like a 5hithead isn't attractive.

Word. I'm too old to play with dolls.

Ask wayword to expound upon the how's and why's of "Barbies".

For those that don't know, a "Barbie" is exactly what Desdinova is trying to avoid. They are called 'Barbies' because on the outside, they are hot, have cool convertables, dress in the coolest fashions, have pretty fingernails, are up on all the latest trends, and they know they are hot so they think that they can be b!tches. But have you ever pulled the head off of a Barbie doll? What's inside? Nothing. Barbies are cheap, fake, superficial, and empty-headed.

Now, her dark-haired friends... those chicks were hot. And, since they were always "second fiddle" to Barbie, probably had better attitudes.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

... I basically told him when you are the prize you do not have to call someone you aren't that interested in. I would probably go back out with her, but I am not going out of my way and she would have to ask. I feel that I am getting the Alpha Male thing down!