Attitude: what to avoid, what to cultivate

[The Writer]

Lots of guys are stuck in the mindset of:

"Oh my God! She's so hot! I can't believe how full her lips are! Full pouting beautiful... (cue hardon) I've got to approach her! But no, she's too... Oh, those tight black pants... God! What would she ever want with me? How could I ever convince her to... what a pair of breasts. Sucking on them... oh my god... gotta approach, cause I'm a loser if I don't... oh, I'd give my leg for one night with her! Oh..." (cut off by the narrator's de-evolution into a drooling mess.)

Vivid? Sure. I'm The Writer. You know how they say that it's best to write about what you know? Well, I know about the above. It's how I used to think.

AND THINKING LIKE THAT NEVER DID ME, OR ANYBODY ELSE, ANY GOOD.

What you've got to do is to cultivate this attitude instead:

1. I don't need a woman in my life. She'd just take away from my time. Wouldn't mind having a woman, but I really don't care one way or the other. Women are near the bottom of my list of priorities. Why do they keep throwing themselves at me?

2. All those chicks are out to get my ****. God, why do they need me so bad? Just because I'm one of the few people on earth who could give them what they truly want... Matter of fact, it'd be charitable of me to give them any kind of intimacy. Poor desperate souls.

3. But know what, I'm a charitable kind of guy. I love making people happy. And since I know that just smiling at her will make her day, I could maybe persuade myself to take some time out of my busy schedule to walk over there and chat her up, make her feel like a star.

100% different. And 100% irresistible.


[This message has been edited by The Writer (edited 06-07-2001).]

[This message has been edited by The Writer (edited 06-07-2001).]

 

[Albion]

Great post, although not to many guys here have a clue what altruistic means. I had to look it up myself.

Always good to expand your vocab.

-al

 

[The Writer]

Thanks!

I changed it to "charitable". It think it's a better word anyway.

 

[bashful]

Hmmm good post there writer,

Im like that in some ways.

1. I dont need a chick to make me happy. WHat could she for me besides sex that could make me happy anyways? ive got myself, i go places by myself all the time, the movies, art galleries, museums, out to eat, malls..blah blah blah.

Im probly what they call an eternal bacholar. though im only 20, ive been single 3/4's of my life, and it doesnt bother me too much at all. I like things for myself and no chick. I do realize too that girls take up my time.

I dont get many dates at all, infact ive only had hmmm, 1 other then my one girlfriend i had 3 years back. But i canceled it cause it was cutting into my basketball time and i never called her again.Antoehr reason was cause i didnt wanna pay, i wanted that money for my damn self, after all, i worked for it.

Ill have a 6 figure income by the time in 26. cause im going to be a Dentist with a PhD. Maybe i might change, i dont know. I doubt it, cause chicks nag too damn much anyways, who cares how hot they are.


-on the other hand-

chicks dont throw themselves at me, im not a hot guy at all. and im only 5'9. chicks hate short guys. make them ummmmmmm not feel protected...lol, what the phuck ever! lol. plus im not a mackdaddy.

though im this way, i still get a lil intimidated by nice lookin girls, thats normal.

But if yall wanna know how i am in life when not working? watch Big daddy with adam sandler. Im just like Sonnie Cofax. I go to the parks by myself and watch people fall down on skates, and go hang out with my friends and watch football. When i see a pretty girl...hmmm, i might go up to her. see how Sonnie was when he went up to that girl in the park? He wanst all mackdaddy like, or dressed up nice, he just took a chance, who cares if she says no, theres a 10 million hotter chicks out there then her. lol

 

[stuartSan]

God you're so freakin lucky. 5'9? I'm only 5'5 or 5'6. I can't grow taller I don't know why. I'm 18 now.

 

[CHALENGE GUY]

God you're so freakin lucky. 5'9? I'm only 5'5 or 5'6. I can't grow taller I don't know why. I'm 18 now.

Horizontally speaking, everyone is pretty much the same in terms of height.

Justice didn't seem to be in God's mind when he created us.

Let's face it. A lot of people are

- fat
- ugly
- short
- skinny.

So it's always good to know that some people are uglier than we are. And we all know this : a warm and confident Hunchback of Notre-Dame will attract better chicks than the tall, handsome battiboy who's looking for his mommy and the big muscular jerk who only attracts man with tits.

So this is what our creator has decided. There's nothing you can do about it.

So we gotta ask ourselves one or two question

- Are we gonna sit here and complain or are we gonna make do with what we were given and be cheerfull inspite of God's lousy decisions?

You are 5'5. So what? I'm 6'6 and I was still a virgin at age 22.

He has a pretty face? yeah, but he's masturrbating every night while his buddy (ugly long face) sleeps with Julia Roberts.

If you are a women, being less than a 7-6 can be a REAL PROBLEM.

But if you're a man, it's different.

As i said before, great looks will only get you an audition with a woman much more easily. THAT'S ALL.

Don't worry about your height (there's nothing you can do about it) and be confident, assertive, light hearted and WARM.

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[Neophyte]

bashfull, I must tell you I recognize a lot of myself in you at this moment...




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[Don Scotta]

Yeah I know I'm really late in responding, but about the height. My brother is 5' 6" and gets more puzz than anyone I know. He is a jerk though, but jerks get puzz, so there ya go.

 

[Goldenboy]

IM 5'8 lol,but be'n tall does'nt really factor 2much into my game, i still get the pu$$y

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[naes]

although its in the bible, i dont quite agree with this post. This concept of not caring results in nothing getting done, its an attempt to eliminate motivation and i dont think that is a good thing.

 

[Virtú]

Originally posted by The Writer
1. I don't need a woman in my life. She'd just take away from my time. Wouldn't mind having a woman, but I really don't care one way or the other. Women are near the bottom of my list of priorities.

I disagree with this; this kind of mindset is why I'm still a virgin.
I understand the logic behind it - it's supposed to relieve the pressure and make it easier to approach and succeed - but without pressure, what is there to motivate you?

And I'm in a position to doubt the other two parts of the post.
Architecture school - everybody's too busy, tired, or both to have much of a social life, much less a functioning sex drive.

 

[manicmaximum]

it's because having women in your life is a by-product of having a great life to begin with.

everything falls into place once you have the proper mindset...confidence, happiness with yourself, and women.

the underlying theme of this whole site is improve yourself first, and everything will follow.

 

[Virtú]

To get women you have to improve yourself and your life, this is true.
But, in this case, you don't care about getting women, so you have no need to improve.
Without need, or want, you don't improve, and therefore don't get women.

On the other hand, if you want sex more than life itself, then you'll stop at nothing to get it; you'll "die" for sex - you'll destroy your old self and create a new one.