Attention *****?

[scammbone]

So theres this chick who we'll call Sara. I've known Sara for about 4 years now. Sara is what I would call my 'type' about 5'6" Long legs, bronze skin, green eyes, long curly hair, and athletic body.

We've talked on and off and and have expressed that we are interested in one another. But I was in a LTR so it never really went anywhere. Now that I'm single we've started talking again and we've made plans to hangout more than a couple times but it never happened. Twice because of me and like 4 times because of her either "losing her phone" or some other bull.

2 weeks ago I decided to cut contact with her and started spinning a few other plates. She randomly texted me saying that she had a dream that I raped her which was creepy but turned into a sexual conversation.

Now that you've got the background here's what I'm getting at. I'm tired of making pointless plans with her. I told her this and she said she felt the same way and that she really wanted to get together. But this time I made no plans. I am starting to get annoyed and feel like telling her to fvck off but I really want to bone her. I realize that she's needy for attention and probably just using me as an ego boost whenever she feels she needs one. Should I give her one last chance, or cut it, and move on to he next one.

 

[zekko]

Now that I'm single we've started talking again and we've made plans to hangout more than a couple times but it never happened. Twice because of me and like 4 times because of her either "losing her phone" or some other bull.

For some reason this reminds me of Lesson Three in Pook's Fifteen Lessons.

http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=59150

 

[londonzen]

So theres this chick who we'll call Sara. I've known Sara for about 4 years now. Sara is what I would call my 'type' about 5'6" Long legs, bronze skin, green eyes, long curly hair, and athletic body.

We've talked on and off and and have expressed that we are interested in one another. But I was in a LTR so it never really went anywhere. Now that I'm single we've started talking again and we've made plans to hangout more than a couple times but it never happened. Twice because of me and like 4 times because of her either "losing her phone" or some other bull.

2 weeks ago I decided to cut contact with her and started spinning a few other plates. She randomly texted me saying that she had a dream that I raped her which was creepy but turned into a sexual conversation.
Now that you've got the background here's what I'm getting at. I'm tired of making pointless plans with her. I told her this and she said she felt the same way and that she really wanted to get together. But this time I made no plans. I am starting to get annoyed and feel like telling her to fvck off but I really want to bone her. I realize that she's needy for attention and probably just using me as an ego boost whenever she feels she needs one. Should I give her one last chance, or cut it, and move on to he next one.

for the rape statement i will not put my d1ck in her she could do or say anything after that

 

[3countriesPlan]

Time to get stricter with her. Invite her out one more time but for a date centered around what you want (ex: date where you are going to go to the beach and take pictures of the scenery or you are going to do something else that really doesn't require her to be around).

Tell her she can come along if she wants.. make the night center around you. Keep her around if she is game enough to come along take it like a good sport and maybe even put out or at least make it clear she is looking to get tapped . around.. otherwise next her.

 

[Kailex]

Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?

What am I reading here?
He's saying that he wants to bone her. He's saying that they've been having sexual conversations and the suggestion is: Coffee? Beach?

He shouldn't spend a dime on her, not even for a coffee. She's flaked four times.

Just tell her you have a movie you want to watch at your place, get her to come over. If she declines, move on. If she comes over, you know what to do.

 

[scammbone]

Thanks for the responses guys.

I'm gonna give her one more chance, if she effs it up shame on her and it's on to the next one. And I will never put up with this nonsense from any chick ever again. Thanks guys.

 

[Igetit!]

I realize that she's needy for attention and probably just using me as an ego boost whenever she feels she needs one.

You say that you'll give her another chance,but if she "efffs up" again,it's on to the next one.

Well you might as well go ahead and and get ready for the next one then.

If this girl is using you for an ego boost,it's YOUR FAULT.

One of the first things I saw where you went wrong at was you expressing interest in her WHILE YOU WERE UNAVAILABLE.

You boosted her ego then. You know how? Because she had you,the boyfriend of another girl telling her he wanted her.


If you had just asked her out,that would have been ok,but you didn't. You two TALKED ABOUT wanting each other,and that's where you messed up.



You might say,"Well I couldn't ask her out because I was still seeing my ex". That may be true,but that's a REASON,and when it comes to women and their emotions,"reason" doesn't count.

Logic and reasoning are USELESS.


Women are emotional,and there you were expressing your emotions for this girl WITHOUT her having to do anything or put any effort into winning you over.


To her,she stole your "heart" from this other girl simply by existing.





It's simple. There was no challenge. There's no point to going out on a date with you because she already has what she wants from you,which was you expressing your feelings for her.


It's the "I want what I can't have" thing going on. She went on and on about wanting you when you were already dating someone else,then the second you became available,she starts this crap. Now all the sudden she's "busy" and can't find her phone.


You can probably still turn things to your favor,but you need to stop "expressing your interest" the way you were doing while you were with your ex,and create some attraction in her.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Gently, tell her to meet you for a coffee. Say you're going to be there at that time. Mid-week. Morning. You're looking for a casual coffee place, not necessarily starbucks, something local that locals use often. Tell her, you want to see her and chat about whatever. If she shows up apply kino, hold her hand when you shake it, put your other hand on top, feel comfortable, hand it back, brush her hair. Casual chat. Say she'd make a great friend, apply kino. Cut it short, say you'll be late for something. Wait for her to message you or call you, schudle for a Thursday night date. Fvck her.

You don't have to next her yet, tardiness could be an honest thing, just spin her.


p.s. when at coffee place sit near front center, where people come in and out, outside, and face the coffee place, but not directly, a little to the side, like 10:30 o'clock.

Are you writing a script to a play? I just kept thinking of cheese whizz while I was reading your directions to grab her hand, stroke her hair etc....

No need for coffee; they already know eachother, there's comfort and rapport already.

To OP: Time for this girl to walk the walk, you need to set up a get together, if she shows then great, you can stop beating around the bush with each other and get to business, if she flakes and doesn't offer another SPECIFIC day, ditch her, she has insecurities about you for one reason or another.

Could be a number of factors that are causing her to flake:

- she might be trying to get you to chase her so figure out if you really like her or just want to add a notch on your belt


bottom line: set up a hang out, if she doesn't show bounce.





PIMP

 

[Zarky]

She's a tease. No normal chick tells a guy she hasn't slept with and who isn't a very, very close friend that she dreamed about him raping her.

If she's blowing you off and making sexual comments, she's a tease. I'd wager this girl is just that. Don't waste your time.

 

[scammbone]

I'll call her up and see what vibe I get from her. Then I'll either tell her when were meeting up, or next her...After all I heard somewhere that is supposedly more fish in the sea? lol

 

[scammbone]

(Thread Revival)
So after my last post I decided that this girl wasn't worth my time a nc'd her. Tonight I get this text:

her: "<3"
her: "why aren't you here?"
me: "were's here?"
her: "my life"
her: "someebbooodddyyysss b dayy cominggggg up " (referring to my 21st this sunday)
me: "yupp"

then no response. why the fvck does she text me asking why im not in her life then stop talking. That kind of crap is the exact reason why.

what to do with this chick?

 

[Tiguere]

Why didn't you deleted her number?

I met a chick at a club month ago and after I found she was on the rebound still hung up on her ex befriend tons of guys for ego boost I deleted her number . After 4 days she text saying hi I replied " who's this" ...she goes " oh really..nevermind" and that was it. Move on I got that attention ***** out of my life just like that.

 

[Aazman]

well now you know what to do now

bloody get rid of that number and NEVEr respond to her texts

 

[jonwon]

scammbone

Leave this girl well alone, a girl who says she had a dream you raped her is seriously taking the Pis*.

She is a nut job, stay well clear.

Stop thinking with your ****.

Edit - why the hell is dcik banned as a word on this forum?

 

[Donnie Darko]

(Thread Revival)
So after my last post I decided that this girl wasn't worth my time a nc'd her. Tonight I get this text:

her: "<3"
her: "why aren't you here?"
me: "were's here?"
her: "my life"
her: "someebbooodddyyysss b dayy cominggggg up " (referring to my 21st this sunday)
me: "yupp"

then no response. why the fvck does she text me asking why im not in her life then stop talking. That kind of crap is the exact reason why.

what to do with this chick?

Actually you didn't go no contact on her because you replied to her text.

Igetit! has a very good write up on how to increase attraction or to evaluate her interest in you. Read the thread and his posts here on the topic.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1596861

Here is an excerpt:

Don't call her,text her,instant message her,communicate by Facebook,MySpace,or any of that. And if she tries to contact you IN ANY WAY OTHER THAN BY A PHONECALL,do not answer or reply.

See using Igetit!'s method for no contact means that you don't respond in any way other than receiving a phone call.

If you don't want to use Igetit!'s method and want to go no contact, then that means that you delete her number and never talk to her ever again.

 

[Warrior74]

Leave it. Walk away. It's a crap deal. Anymore contact on your part is just foolishness and asking for it. Good luck.

 

[cavedweller]

scammbone,

Don't waste anymore of your time with her...."Delete' her and move on..