Attention Wh0res and LTR's w/them-> (impossible?)

[aix237]

You cant take a women like that serious in the first place unless you dont know her background. But they can build on you and disguise it so you can take it serious. The smartest attention wh0res are the most silent and deadliest. If you are strong then you can win them if not game over. I think to get them you gotta give them attention like how they want it act like you are whipped on them like calling them up and stuff then drop it like its hot all of the sudden.

 

[BobFuest]

I am a pro at AWs. I find all kinds of them all the time.
The main thing to remember is that They need Someone. They are needy and desperate inside. How do you win one? By sticking to your game, putting down a really masculine, "i am never going to put up with any BS EVER", frame early on and sticking to it. Think of a child who is a brat and who has always got what they wanted. The way to solve that is to be dominant and in control at all times until you break them.
I find the best thing for these types of women is put them on a HUGE emotional rollercoaster with lots of neg hits and pure ****iness. Show them they are your possession with a slap on the ass and that you dont give a F*ck cause thats who you are.
Sorry I am work so I am typing fast and quick but let me see if I can clarify:
best way for AWs
1. strong frame early on. Put your foot down as soon as possible by walking away when something happens and not talkin to them for a few days. Show your backbone

2. Put them on a huge emotional rollercoaster. Give them huge swings in emotion and even when they are mad at you they will still want you.

3. Lots of actions showing possession and neg hits and ****iness. Be genuine tho. Like i love to slap women in the ass. LOVE IT. so i do without regard.

4. Lots of social proof. If she ever really tries to mess with you, show her that "I got lots of girls who want me, who needs you?" AWs are very insecure.

5. GOOD SEX! Key to her thinking about you when your not there.

6. When she tries to test you, never put up with it. pass or fail dont accept her ways of doing things. Do things your way. Make her want you and then deny her requests until your sure she will do anything just to have you.

7. the KEY to AWs is to do things no one has ever done to them. My current LTR is an AW but she is madly in love with me because I give her emotions like no one else ever has. Even when she is super mad at me that makes her hot for me. She dont even know why she cares so much Everything i do for her or with her I try to make it something that no one else ever thought of doing with her. BE DIFFERENT. THEY HAVE SEEN IT ALL BEFORE.

Hope this helps.

 

[jonwon]

I have been involved with an AW who is pretty good looking for almost a year now. Started off as friends then became a couple. The reason was because I was on the rebound and she was right there after. About 3 or 4 months into the relationship I found out about AW's. She fits one to the T. I have now been with her for about 8 or 9 months now but it looks pretty grim considering a bunch of messed up stuff has happened. If you ever get involved with one be prepared to deal with many battles and have strong emotional feelings if you have never dealt with one. There are strong signs and ways to get them but you will just go through a lot of ups and downs. But they do fvcked up things that are magnified times 10 and have disregard a lot the time for others feelings. Overall AW's are selfish try to get what they want at others expense do fvcked up stuff to guys. One moment they are slvtty then they want a bf and complains about how guys use them for sex.

Here are the signals that I saw from her that she is one, sucks it was too late by then to realize it and I am very involved in a vicious cycle:

1. Very sexual
When I first met her she seemed very open and was very talkative. She doesnt dress to slu*&y though maybe a little to provacative. My roomate hooked up with her for a little bit and would say all this sh*t about her in bed. I started hanging out with her after I broke up with my ex and she would ask me to have sex all the time and be very flirty of course I didnt right off the bat. She would flirt with other guys at the same time laying it on thick at certain points to myself espcially.

2. Make you feel very special
She would make me feel soooo special smother the sh*t out of me and spend some cash and be there if you needed a ride from the bars.

3. Wanting a relationship really fast
She would ask me constantly about only a couple of weeks of knowing her that she wanted a bf I would say no and she would act like no challenge at all.

4. Make you jealous by doing extreme things and want to get a rise out of you.
I would constantly say no to her when she asked me to have sex and be her bf. But she was a friend who was there and pretty cool to hang out with. We hung out so much people thought we were together. I would sleep with her sometimes and be with her every weekened. I eventaully had sex with her but still would say no to her when she asked about being in a relationship. Then all of the sudden I found out she hooked up with someone I knew, like a night after I did. That pis$*d me off so bad. Even later on she would still answer calls from other guys and talk to them in front of me

5. Cut off communication out of the blue.
I made her mad one time by doing something small. She didnt call for a whole week then she called one day out of the blue. Now she is very distant and it is very hard because I try to cut everything off but she eventually calls or does something to reel me back on. She cut off attention from her ex out of the blue of 1 yr and he chased her so bad because it came from no where and she would still talk to him. She did the same thing to me but Im not that crazy I still get strong urges to call her though but I try to hold my self back.

6. Easily forgives
After that incident happened and some other stuff I would say all this messed up stuff to her like dont talk to me and say some other stupid stuff. Enough to try to have her not talk to me anymore. I dont know a lot of people espically girls who could take what I said. Anyways she would say sorry pretty quick. Even If I would mess up she would be mad but forgive quick.


7. Very Selfish doesnt care about others feelings think they can do what they want
She started becoming very selfish only calling if she needed me rather for emotional or something else. Call her and she would be "busy." Ignores even her friends when they want to talk to her. When we have problems she will

8 Flatter themselves by using others
At one point she said I loved her and was obsessed cause I heard her friend saying that one night about me. I would never call her or anything like that.

9. Isolate you from their friends
I am isolated from her friends sometimes. She talks so much sh*t about them and Im sure she does about me so we dislike each other. Sometimes she acts like she doesnt even know me in front of her friends. Pretty weird stuff.

10. Low self esteem (the main reason she is an AW)
She is very insecure about herself and others. Yea Im insecure about her cause you don't know what the hell shell do next but im not about myself.


Me and her might be done Im not sure yet. I did some chasing right now cause some REALLY messed up stuff happened between me her and and someone else so she has every right somewhat to be mad but she is doin it in a typical AW way. Taking it out on me so I will turn on the other person and being very manipulative.

Watch, she has become very distant and basically wants to end things, ive been calling her the last couple days acting like a stupid puppy exactly what she wants. But from today on out im not going to call her maybe not pick up the phone for a couple of days and shell call me again maybe even willing to fix things and get back together it wouldn't pass my mind. I dont know if we could be together longer weve talked about living togehter she has brought up stuff like kids and a house a while ago but its crazy stuff.

Dont get me wrong but i think AWs have two sides she is a really cool girl but she has the bad AW in her that can fvck with you. You do anything to bring that out your screwed unless you can snap the line. Your best bet is to not treat them like a princess a lot and treat them like sh*t. If you want excitement, learn how to play games and drama then deal with an AW. If you can make it through a LTR with an AW then you deserve props.

I married a girl like this, thats why i am here and back dating, she left a scare, AVOID like the plague.

Also they tend to have shi* loads of male friend puppy dogs to quyalify her all the time, ok if you can hack that but i could not. Some of us learn the hard way, but could be worse i could be still there, at least i did not have kids, dam man that would have been harsh.

 

[speed dawg]

Sticky This Thread

Very good discussion. The sad thing about AW's is that the older women get, the single ones seem to be majority AW's, strictly because they can't stay with a guy. It takes a h*ll of a DJ to keep an AW, but you NEVER tame them. My best friend dates one, and she's in love with him (so he says), but she's always been overly AW-ish. I couldn't deal with it.

Geez, my ex was the same as all of you described. One guy said it earlier....they need a boyfriend so they don't get labeled a slvt. They come off sweet, suck you in, then devastate you. I know all about it.

My current gf isn't an angel, but she's upfront with everything, including sex, and I respect her for it.

 

[omgwtfm8]

This is all so true. This is exactly what i'm dealing with right now.

I've gotten in fights with her two times in the past month because of things she has done during one of our breaks. I called her out in front of 30 people calling her a slvt... asking her who's d!ck is she sucking tonight, and just put her down so bad. I didn't apologize and she still wanted to speak with me. I was seriously trying to burn a bridge so she wouldn't talk to me again.

But we started going back out, more sex, more closeness, etc.

Then i found out she kissed some other guy a month before she hooked up with this other guy from one of our breaks. I flipped out again, called her a dirty wh0re, telling her i'm breaking up with you to help you out. I said, "Here, i'm doing you a favor, i'm breaking up with you so you can be single and hook up with all the guys you want!, Have fun this summer, continue building up your dirty reputation, watch how far that gets you in life."

I've been sending her in a emotional rollercoaster like crazy this past month. She's gotten a complete reality check and is changing so much and realizing how much I mean to her.

You can't take these girls serious. If you put them on the pedestal, they will manipulate and take advantage of you.

 

[j8snx1]

Well I've dated a somewhat AW, but I think a good way to deal with PURE AW's is to treat 'em back the same way and let 'em get a taste of their own medicine

Hell, if she lies to you in order to flake out from a plan you two set up together then the next time she suggests you do something with her, just say F*** IT!

If she only calls you to b**ch about how she just missed out on a 50% off sale @ Bloomingdales, just say HEY HOLD ON ILL CALL YOU RIGHT BACK! *click* and don't call back.

If you realize she's only using you for sex and spreads rumors about how YOU use her for sex (example) then oh boy! Screw her (literally) and tell everyone about how you almost bedded her but you saw the infections and crabs on her vagina all over town! I'm sure she'll get the "attention" she deserves when she tries to bed another dude that just heard she's tainted meat.

 

[speed dawg]

Well I've dated a somewhat AW, but I think a good way to deal with PURE AW's is to treat 'em back the same way and let 'em get a taste of their own medicine

Hell, if she lies to you in order to flake out from a plan you two set up together then the next time she suggests you do something with her, just say F*** IT!

If she only calls you to b**ch about how she just missed out on a 50% off sale @ Bloomingdales, just say HEY HOLD ON ILL CALL YOU RIGHT BACK! *click* and don't call back.

If you realize she's only using you for sex and spreads rumors about how YOU use her for sex (example) then oh boy! Screw her (literally) and tell everyone about how you almost bedded her but you saw the infections and crabs on her vagina all over town! I'm sure she'll get the "attention" she deserves when she tries to bed another dude that just heard she's tainted meat.

Haha yeah that's what I did with the ex! Fukked her ass and nutted all over her on a wednesday then had another girl friday. we pulled up to an intersection and guess who? You should have seen the look on her face.....paid her back for months of misery.....

Also, AW's will find ANYTHING to justify what they do, no matter what the emotional consequences on the guy are. They will find something somewhere in a magazine, friend, or SOMETHING that validates what they do to be ok.

 

[nighter]

LOL...this post made my skin crawl!!!

Bro your girl is suffering from a personality disorder, either Borderline, Histrionic, Anti-Social, Bipolar or a combination of all of them!! You need to run, run, then run some more to avoid their crazy fuvked up lives.

PIMP

Just dumped my GF today witch is suffering from a borderline/Bipolar
disorder. She has all the traits the author of the post mentioned.
I can trully say this is the hardest thing i have ever done, and i will
be depressed for a while now. But i know i did the right thing, and thanks
to sosuave i will get back to the right track soon again. Thanks SoSuave.

 

[Remulak]

All women are AWs to an extent, it's just a matter of how extreme of an AW you have on your hands. A lot of women will use you for your attention if they have very low IL in you. The really bad ones I wouldn't deal with because eventually they will cheat on you and you can't even have a serious conversation with them because they constantly need to be entertained.

 

[speed dawg]

This is all so true. This is exactly what i'm dealing with right now.

I've gotten in fights with her two times in the past month because of things she has done during one of our breaks. I called her out in front of 30 people calling her a slvt... asking her who's d!ck is she sucking tonight, and just put her down so bad. I didn't apologize and she still wanted to speak with me. I was seriously trying to burn a bridge so she wouldn't talk to me again.

But we started going back out, more sex, more closeness, etc.

Then i found out she kissed some other guy a month before she hooked up with this other guy from one of our breaks. I flipped out again, called her a dirty wh0re, telling her i'm breaking up with you to help you out. I said, "Here, i'm doing you a favor, i'm breaking up with you so you can be single and hook up with all the guys you want!, Have fun this summer, continue building up your dirty reputation, watch how far that gets you in life."

I've been sending her in a emotional rollercoaster like crazy this past month. She's gotten a complete reality check and is changing so much and realizing how much I mean to her.

You can't take these girls serious. If you put them on the pedestal, they will manipulate and take advantage of you.

Oh really? Cue this thread...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105402

Don't give advice until you can walk the walk.

 

[omgwtfm8]

Oh really? Cue this thread...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105402

Don't give advice until you can walk the walk.

Things change over time buddy, Yes we had some crazy make up sex that made things a little better.

 

[speed dawg]

Things change over time buddy, Yes we had some crazy make up sex that made things a little better.

From your posts, that's just about ALL she's good for is makeup sex. Props to you for that, but personally, I wouldn't take the emotional wreckage that comes with trying to tame an AW. I would move on, like I did about a year ago, to something twice as good with half the headaches.

BTW, those posts were 1 day apart. How much could things change, or should I say, how could YOU actually buy into it? I'd bet my house we'll be seeing post after post about this girl until you finally take your scrotum back from her.

Might I add...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=104535

and then...

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105115&highlight=omgwtfm8

Geez...

 

[MattS]

Well i broke up with my ex a while ago now. Fvck that AW sh!t those girls are the biggest pieces of sh!t. Right now im somewhat dealing with one. I dont think shes as bad but still always trying to make dudes jealous, flaking. Ive called her out on her sh!t a couple of times, then we stopped talking. She tried to just fvck me and play me which isnt cool with me. She contacts me every fvcking time i stop talking to her maybe like 2 weeks later. I try not to burn a huge bridge when i talk to her though cause from previous experience yea you call them out they feel bad but then theyll get revenge on you for making them feel like that then if you have a ltr with them theyll never forget what you said. Im trying to be a little nicer to this AW i was ****y at first thats why she started to like me. But that can only last so long so now im just going to be real with her if she doesnt like it then fvck her. Im not going to get all emotional on her though no way. I saw her last week for the first time in 1.5 months. She said call me. tonight im calling her. if nothing good happens fvck her.

 

[resilient]

To those of you breaking up with AWs in this thread or were possibly thinking of getting together with one, I have a few good tips to save you same pain.

1) Know you're the prize, and be harder at qualifying women
2) Pursuit hobbies and career/studies to get your mind off her
3) Spin more plates

Staying with AWs is not worth the emotional baggage that settles after the dust. Game girls with less issues! Good luck!

 

[b's nuts]

i dated an attention ***** for about 3 years off and on. All the posts on here that think you can tame them or whatever - i guess it depends on the girl. The problem with attention *****s is even if you tame them, once they no longer feel bad about what it is they did or you appeared to have let it go - nothing has changed. It should be obvious why, you think you've tamed them but really they just got the attention they wanted. Once they lose the attention over it (seriously any issue) its back to same old ****. We just broke up yesterday, she said she didn't think she had her heart in the relationship, so I told her to hit the road. We had done this countless times, but before she always seemed to anything to get me back. This time it was more mutual i guess, so im guessing there must be another guy already lined up.

My advice to anyone on here thinking they can handle an attention ***** your wasting your time. You might be able to change their actions (temporarily, maybe a few years, maybe a few months - maybe a few days) but you can't change who they are: an attention *****.

Good thing I went to the bar that night and me and a few bros got 3 chicks who were all over each other (rubbing each others tits and making out) to come back to my buddies house - definately helped me with the break up, hahaha.

 

[Lovesorrow]

You should read this:
http://www.nomarriage.com/disorders.html

By the way, there are some interesting comments but overall
this guy talks a lot of bullsh!t. He is too pessimistic to my taste *the guy from nonmarriage.com

 

[SoSuaveDude]

Bump! Omg epic thread! Any more advice on Aw's and diagnosing one?

 

[SoSuaveDude]

Lol its funny, I was just reading this thread this morning too.

Right lmao!