I wanted to share a little insight about "gestures"...
Waving is a form of non-verbal communication, but many of the same rules apply to gestures as they do to actually speaking.
We say, "ask a woman a question, then shut up and wait for the answer", right? Well, waving translates to: "come on over here". If you smile, it translates to "Hey! Come over here!" But, if you do it with a sexy-type grin, it translates to "Hey, cutie! You should be over here getting your ear massaged by my voice." There's very subtle things that can change the whole meaning of a gesture.
And, just as you would "shut up and wait for an answer", you wave, then give her some time to "answer". You don't give her any more body language to read, you direct your attention elsewhere for a while. If she doesn't show up, she didn't "answer" (one could go so far as to call it a non-verbal sh¡t-test).
In this situation, I've had a lot of luck with non-verbal communications: you can call them on their poor behavior. You look at them with a "duh? are you retarded?" look, then wave them over again.
See, gestures and body language are VERY MUCH like a conversation. She "listens" to what you "say", and should respond. Based on the response, you reply. Did she shake her head "no" in response to the wave? No? Then she was being rude and "ignoring" you "speaking". So, you bust on her for being rude.
Oh, and it helps greatly to actually "speak in your head" while you are making gestures. Your facial expressions will match the gestures better because you will be imagining saying it. Sometimes, you'll actually end up mouthing the words, which helps out immensely. If you mouth enough words, and the chick doesn't understand, it is natural to come over for clarification. I've had entire conversations with chicks without saying a word. In the case of girly on the dance floor, I could also imagine myself using a finger to push my nose up and tilt my head back while issuing the challenge: "too stuck up??"
I think it must be said, that, letting it go with the wave is like saying "hi" after approaching a woman ...and not saying anything else. You have to follow up with more. Of course, the three-second rule applies, also. Too many stares makes the situation awkward, whereas not enough "foreplay" is just as ineffective.
Women are experts at unspoken communications. If you show some mastery, they will be impressed, trust me on this. Locking eyes and being confident enough to "talk" to someone, regardless of who is watching, works their emotions in many ways.
I tend bar, by the way. "Two more?" "Another round?" "Come here and talk in my ear" "$3.50" "NO." "Sit down." "You're done." "Hey there, cutie." "Want to look at my butt?" "Turn around and let me look at your butt first." "This is yours." "You still need to pay." "I see you." "Hold on a second."
You can say a buh-zillion things with only gestures. And, if you are nervous or less-than-confident, it will come across. If you wave someone over and are lame about it, you might be mistaken as waving off a fart.
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If you catch and hold a woman's attention with your gestures, and you manage to have an interaction, eventually she'll feel comfortable. And, since she's having fun with the "sign language", at some point she'll wonder how much fun you'd be to actually TALK to.
Guys should really feel comfortable doing this; you are completely unaccountable and can "say" anything because, if she comes over, you can always joke that she's imagining things or that she misunderstood.
