Attempted to # close a girl in class.. what did I do wrong?

[Xchange]

Yea I'm still learning right now so I've got a couple questions. Basically I came to class late and sat next to an empty seat. We had a 15 min break so I went to the bathroom real quick and when I came back this somewhat hot was sitting next to me. I see her preening or whatever, so I figure fvck it I'm going to attempt to see what I can get.

Me: Whats this thing he was just talking about before?
Her: Oh its the lab portion of the class you need to buy the textbook and blah blah
Me: Yea I basically just got into this class I was on the waiting list last week so I didn't come in 2nd week of class here, but my first time there), so is it a hard course?
Her: No not really you just need to make sure you study the material (or something like that)
Me: Oh ok so whats your major etc
Her: Pysch/Health, so what year are you btw?
Me: 2nd and you?
Her: 4th
Me: Oh really?
I start eating some food then cause I was hungry and she started eating something she had too
Me: Then I go so you're 4th year, so what are you planning on doing after this?
Her: Med school, what about you?
Me: Well I'm 2nd year so I don't really know right now
Her: So how do you find the school?
Me: Uhh well its not too bad, before I got here I heard some bad things about it, but its not too bad.... So you're from this city right?
Her: Yea I basically just lived here.Why where are you from?
Me: So I tell her I've moved around alot blah blah name a few locations, tell her they were good, that I like this city the best tho cuz it had everything you could want from the others with less of the negatives... etc ...basically I said this city was good because it didn't have alot of the bull**** other cities its side had, then the prof started speaking so I stopped talking
Her: What did you mean by BS?
Me: Oh just that theres less violence, and those types of things here, but its still a fun city
Her: Yea I've lived here awhile been all over and yea it's a good city

So the class goes on for maybe another 45 minutes and I don't say anything since everyone is quiet or whatever. So I'm thinking throughout I'm gonna attempt a # close at the end cuz fvck it I really don't care about the people beside us in front or whatever, just fvck it. So at the end I go

Me: You're going to med school right
Her: Yea I hope so if I get in
Me: You gotta be pretty smart then, lemme get your number so we can study some time... sliding over notebook/pen
Her: My number? I don't give out my number, but I'll see you around

So we get up and and I talk about how I didn't really get anything the guy said and she sorta agrees, then I start to leave and she mentions good luck studying and seeing me around or whatever.

So yea no # close... what went wrong, what would you have done, just anything helpful would be nice. I really don't even care that I didn't get the number, sure I would have been happy to have it, but I was more trying to grab my balls for once and do something. She did seem pretty happy to talk to me though, she continued the convo and the like, but I'd still like to know how to improve?

 

[00Kevin]

Me: You're going to med school right
Her: Yea I hope so if I get in
Me: You gotta be pretty smart then, lemme get your number so we can study some time... sliding over notebook/pen
Her: My number? I don't give out my number, but I'll see you around

So we get up and and I talk about how I didn't really get anything the guy said and she sorta agrees, then I start to leave and she mentions good luck studying and seeing me around or whatever.

So yea no # close... what went wrong, what would you have done, just anything helpful would be nice. I really don't even care that I didn't get the number, sure I would have been happy to have it, but I was more trying to grab my balls for once and do something. She did seem pretty happy to talk to me though, she continued the convo and the like, but I'd still like to know how to improve?

You failed the ASD sh-it test.

You should of just asked for her number again.

Perhaps in a C+F way.

Realize that a girl is ALWAYS going to blow you off the first time.

Ye must lead her into temptation.

 

[realsmoothie]

"I don't give out my number"

MEANS

"I'm not giving my number to you. At least, not right now".

What bullcrap. She's in 4th year, so she must be at least 21. What kind of 21 year old says stuff like that?

 

[Charm&Style]

...bro your convo was dead boring.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

...bro your convo was dead boring.

+1!!! Dude you bored her to death with all that talk about where you use to live, what's your major blah blah blah. Girls hear this $hit all the time and they know what's coming next. The only way you would have got her # with that conversation was if there was strong physical attraction on her part, which there didn't seem to be.

You seemed to talk to much about yourself, when you should've been learning more about her, so you could find out how to get to her. Talking too much isn't a bad thing if your entertaining and know how to socialize, if you don't then its all down hill from there.


However, don't worry about it, you approached and you'll get better. Think of it as a #'s game, the more often you approach, the better you get. Just keep approaching girls your attracted to and you'll get it.




PIMP

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

...bro your convo was dead boring.

Agreed. Any guy could've had the exact same conversation. The topics were generic. You didn't spark her interest, she didn't feel a connection to you (chemistry), so she didn't give you her number. She might think you're a nice person, but she's just not interested.

 

[Snow Plowman]

...bro your convo was dead boring.

Just reading that text was boring.

Where was the fun?
Where was the laughs and the good vibes?
Where was the kino?
Where was the Fun?
Where was the Fun?...

Plain and simple that conversation was boring. One thing that I always focus on is while talking is I see if the conversation is either logical or emotional, if I find its logical then I'l start talking to focus on her emotional mind.

There was no reason for her to give you her #, you basically tried to logically convince her to give you her #.

 

[JPFromTally]

Me: You gotta be pretty smart then, lemme get your number so we can study some time... sliding over notebook/pen

This killed you right here. No girl wants to study with you.

 

[Kev07]

yeah, i didn't even read the whole conversation before i get bored. don't talk about school tell a story or something. something funny

 

[Pappadapolis]

Me: You gotta be pretty smart then, lemme get your number so we can study some time... sliding over notebook/pen

This killed you right here. No girl wants to study with you.

Agreed. That was the nail in the coffin.

Get 'em laughing and keep them entertained. You have to be fun to be around, if not you'll keep getting the same results.

 

[Xchange]

Kind of the reason I went to number close the way I did was that I wasn't really sure if she was feeling me. She had a kinda attraction look in her eye + the preening, but she also was crossing her hands or whatever so like I said I wasn't really sure, but I still wanted to attempt a # close either way just to see, but without putting myself totally out there and getting rejected. she doesn't know for SURE maybe I really did want to get help from a 4th yr going to med school...

I get what you guys are saying about the boring convo part, so any suggestions about what I could have said to make it more interesting?

 

[Raikojo17]

Kind of the reason I went to number close the way I did was that I wasn't really sure if she was feeling me. She had a kinda attraction look in her eye + the preening, but she also was crossing her hands or whatever so like I said I wasn't really sure, but I still wanted to attempt a # close either way just to see, but without putting myself totally out there and getting rejected. she doesn't know for SURE maybe I really did want to get help from a 4th yr going to med school...

I get what you guys are saying about the boring convo part, so any suggestions about what I could have said to make it more interesting?

part of it is u sit and wait for signs from her. the only way to kno IS to put urself out there and maybe get rejected.

i u dont kno she likes u, just assume that she does, as she must have some interest just in the fact that she's even talking to u.

dont be passive with girls, be aggresive.

 

[Pappadapolis]

Kind of the reason I went to number close the way I did was that I wasn't really sure if she was feeling me. She had a kinda attraction look in her eye + the preening, but she also was crossing her hands or whatever so like I said I wasn't really sure, but I still wanted to attempt a # close either way just to see, but without putting myself totally out there and getting rejected. she doesn't know for SURE maybe I really did want to get help from a 4th yr going to med school...

I get what you guys are saying about the boring convo part, so any suggestions about what I could have said to make it more interesting?

With chicks, pop culture or anything that is funny and witty.

What you said:

Me: Oh ok so whats your major etc
Her: Pysch/Health, so what year are you btw?
Me: 2nd and you?
Her: 4th
Me: Oh really?

What I would have said:

Me: Whats your major?
Her: Pysch/Health, so what year are you btw?
Me: Year two of spending the taxpayer's money. Psych/Health? Putting the crazy folk in straight-jackets and electro-shock therapy...good times.

And that's the safest call in my playbook. When I go that route I normally get laugh or smile, then I'll roll into some BS about what I've read or seen about the same subject on TV or a movie. After a while the conversation leads to a totally different topic without her even knowing.

After a while I usually hear, "You're crazy. How did we start talking about this." (In a good way). In my responses, I always turn around back on them even though it is obvious it was me. For example, in this situation I'd respond(if she's engaged in conversation), "You said something about putting me in a straight-jacket and using electro-shock on me, pervert. I don't do things like that. I'm saving my flower for marriage."

You have to be bold and confident when you're talking to girls. Don't be afraid to shock, but don't be Howard Stern right off the bat either. You can't deliver good jokes without being confident.

 

[Xchange]

Haha well after this happened a while ago I basically just figured I'd forget this chick or whatever and not talk to her anymore, since the class is so big anyways. Well I just find out I'm going to be partnered up with her for a project for another class, so how should I go about this now? Not mention the last meeting? Still try and get some? Or just be friendly and get some work done or what? how would you handle it.

 

[DJDamage]

I'm going to be partnered up with her for a project for another class, so how should I go about this now? Not mention the last meeting? Still try and get some? Or just be friendly and get some work done or what? how would you handle it.

Pretend it never happened and don't try to hard. She is already on to you and she rejected you so there is no big trick or anything that will help you now.

The one thing to learn from this for future refrences: This girl is in your class right?? so why on earth you are asking for her number so quickly?? she ain't going anywhere and she will see you again week after week. In situations like this you keep things friendly and slowly build the interest over the coming weeks, if you have done so at the begining it will be alot easier to ask her out once she knows you better. Unlike street or clubs pick ups, time is on your side.