At what point is getting laid worth it, seriously.

[backbreaker]

hI debated about making this post beucause i aleready know before i type this out i'm goign to get pissed off again by the time I'm done lol.

Yesterday we went and had dinner over a friend girl of my wife's house. They come over here from time to time and we go over there from time to time. She has a kid (strike one) that is about the age of our son and they like to play together.

Good looking woman. One of my wife's better looking friends, not ugly at all a solid 7-7.5 easily. tall, skinny, blonde, good but not a killer body.

Anyway, she apparantly has a new slave errr boyfriend so we go over there we introduce ourselves and **** all that stuff.

Now, he doesn't live there. He gets there about the time we get there. There are dirty ass dishes in the sink (strike 2) , that i know could not possibly have been his because most of them had cartoon characters on them so they were obviously the sons **** that she was too lazy to clean herself before going to work or whatever. anyway, he cleans up without saying a word.

now, i myself an very obsessive compulsive.. more than once i've gone over someone's house and washed their dishes for them i just cannot walk into a room with dirty dishes and leave them dirty. i can't operate like that lol. if there is one freaking spoon left in our sink someone's gonna get their head chopped off i dont' do dirt whatsoever. so the fact that he is washing the dishes, isn't really a big deal to me, beucase honestly if he wouldn't have have i would have lol.

now this is where the **** gets out of control. he's done washing all the dishes, and he's drying them off with a towel and he takes a bowel and drops it and it shatters on the floor. now mind you the guy just got off work i'm sure he's freaking tired as it is, it's an unfortunate accident. it's af reaking 2 dollar bowl just get out the pan and the broom and get it up, no big deal right? wrong lol.

this girl unloads on this dude and starts yelling and calling him clumsy and he's now self degrading himself and she's huffing and puffing and she's pissed beucase he took some ****ing initiative and tried to clean your pig pin of a ****ing house. here is a idea you worthless piece of **** lol; maybe if your house wasn't dirty he wouldn't be washing your dishes int he first place. she's mad beucase she has to go put on some shoes now beucase of the glass and i am thinking where the **** are you from walking around the ****ing house barefoot with company you country ass ***** lol i'm from arkansas and i'm not that country.


if that was me, the second she even rose her voice i woudl have got my ****, not said 1 word, went home, and never contacted the ***** again. and i am 10000000% serious. **** that. i will be damned if a woman is going to get huppy and puffy with me for a honest mistake when i'm trying to clean up after your dirty ass. **** pisses me off typing about it. seriously if that was not my wife's friend i would have let her have it. i still almost did.

on the way home this is all we are talking about. my wife brought up an interesting point.. you know we think of the guys like this in the worse situation, but the women are actually probably worse.. think about it.. her ****ty behavior/attitude, yeah she's good looking so chumps will line up left and right but she will.. and has.. run every man she has really liked off with her ****. and she (my wife) tells her that no man wants a woman that is a **** like that and she says well i just haven't met the man for me yet and if i met a man like your man i wouldn't act like that but my wife then says well **** i assure you that he would not contact you after 1-2 dates with your attitude he's not gonna put up with it. no man worth a **** is gonna put up with it.

and then, to make it worse, she only gets the saps until her looks start to fade..t hen she's just a 38-42 year old miserable **** with a kid lol.

but I mean, im' sorry getting laid just isn't ThAT serious. there are boundaries. there have to be. how do you honestly look yourself in the mirror after not instantly walking out a woman's house after getting dressed down beucase you don't want to "mess up a good thing". newsflash! it's not a good thing lol!

 

[betheman]

BB, some guys see what they think is a good thing, its better than what they have had, they want to settle down and she seems right, the single mom, she has it tough, bound to lose it now and then, its expected! social conditioning!

that said, Im like you, f cuck that, her attitude shows deep flaws, its sad most guys cant see it, then again, ive made similar mistakes

 

[st_99]

I was banging this girl a while ago and I remember a night we went out on a date. All was well, had a good time, things were cool. Anyway, we get back to her place, I walk in her bedroom for the first time to spend the night and it was a fvcking train wreck!

I mean, a lot of people have messy bed rooms but this place was like a bomb went off in there. The only thing I kept thinking was.. damn, she knew I probably would be in here tonight and she couldn't take like 5 minutes to throw all this sh!t in the closet? LOL. That bugged me.

For me, if I have a good idea i'm having a girl over, i'll straighten up, because quite frankly, i find it embarrising to show a messy place to date.

She turned out to be a train wreck herself, which was not surprising.

 

[disgustipated]

He shoulda started breaking more dishes. At least make the dressing down fit the crime. Or, as soon ad her voice raised he should look swag from her , raise his voice authoritively saying I got this....maybe with his open palm in her direction. Any other peeps from her being met with, I SAID I GOT THIS! Chicks like her need to be put in their place like children....and they actually crave it.

 

[zekko]

Anyway, she apparantly has a new slave errr boyfriend so we go over there we introduce ourselves and **** all that stuff.

I wonder if your wife winces in situations like this, knowing your preoccupation with attraction and all. Kind of like, "Oh no, he's going to take the guy aside and set him straight". But ironically, it was your wife who tried to set her straight.

he takes a bowel and drops it and it shatters on the floor.

Lol, I know this is just a typo but I still thought it was funny. First thing I thought is "where did he get a bowel from?". And then I thought well maybe he meant bowel movement, which is even funnier.

 

[AW1983]

Agreed. I had this plate for a couple weeks a while back, 21 yo who thought she was hot sh!t. She was a 7-7.5 in my book but I have high standards and you know she probably had more orbiters than Jupiter.

Anyway, we hung for a couple weeks, sex was just ok (but she did give the best head of any girl I've ever had ha). One night we are out at a local bar and I see a buddy I haven't seen in a while. He and his wife invite us over to hang after last call. About the time we get there I realize HB is past her limit on alcohol. Her behavior starting getting real irritating. Just saying stupid sh!t and trying to sh!t test, which I was easily deflecting, much to her drunken dismay. At one point my buddy is showing me something on his computer and she stumbles in and says some stupid sh!t and I put her in her place...and this crazy b!tch SLAPS me. Never had this happen before in my life. Mind you my friend is sitting right there trying to act non-chalant. So without a moment's pause I slap this b!tch right back (not with KO force, but not soft either). The look on her face was priceless haha. I told her to fu*k off back to the kitchen, where my buddy's wife was making food for us.

Now, this HB had been pretty cool up til then, making me food and lots of bjs etc, and I know the only reason that happened was she drank way too much (high alc content in the microbrews at the bar). However I told her the next day that I don't tolerate that behavior and sent her on her way. Of course at first I got the apology texts, and then later the texts of rage. NC was easily maintained...I mean, if she had pulled that sh!t in my apartment and I slapped her right back and then violently f'd her brains out, that's one thing. But in public?

NEXT.

In regards to BB's story...if I was feeling magnanimous enough to wash some broad's dishes and she pulled all that, I would have dropped the next dish in my hand on the floor and walked out the front door into the sunset.

 

[Bible_Belt]

What you are seeing is poor communication and the constant failing of sh!t tests. Just like a child seeking limits, she is trying to find that moment when he stands up for himself. If that happened, she would then become attracted to him. She really wants that to happen, so much so that it is a literally a psychological need. They might have sex, but I bet it's not very good. He's not with her to get laid, so much as the need to feel that he has improved his value simply by being (technically, not emotionally) with someone halfway hot. I would guess that, like all of her past relationships, this one's initial connection was based upon the shared life experience of having low self esteem. That's what they have in common. She needs a strong man to 'put her in her place' (I'm quoting women, not men) and he is never going to be able to do it.

 

[backbreaker]

I mean, a lot of people have messy bed rooms but this place was like a bomb went off in there. The only thing I kept thinking was.. damn, she knew I probably would be in here tonight and she couldn't take like 5 minutes to throw all this sh!t in the closet? LOL. That bugged me.

my wife is not the cleanest person on the face of the earth, but the first few times i went over her house you coudl eat dinner off the floor. Which in retrospect, showed me that she liked me enough to want to make a great first impression. I mean, she isn't MESSY but she isn't clean. she'll make the bed but leave her shoes and shirt on it, leave the candy bar wrapper on the couneter type deal, not just.. filthy but it's more irritating than anything. I've just accpected i have to clean up for 2 people. lol my son i can already tell at 4 takes after me. I dont' know if it's because he doesn't wanna piss me off or because he is just that clean but his room is never dirty. **** he really is cleaner than she is. i can walk in there right now and there is not a toy he isn't playing with on the floor, he doesn't leave food in his room, really he doesn't eat in his room so he better not leave food in his room, we are trying to teach him how to make his bed so it's made tot he best of it's ability which is not really made lol but it's half way there

but i mean, we don't have to harp on him about it. it's done.

Lol, I know this is just a typo but I still thought it was funny. First thing I thought is "where did he get a bowel from?". And then I thought well maybe he meant bowel movement, which is even funnier.

in retrospect this is exactly what he shoudl have done lol; pulled down his pants, ****ted on the floor and walked out. at least at that point you have a "well i ****ted on a ex's GF's floor" bar story for the future

I wonder if your wife winces in situations like this, knowing your preoccupation with attraction and all. Kind of like, "Oh no, he's going to take the guy aside and set him straight". But ironically, it was your wife who tried to set her straight.

she reads this forum avidly, whenever she's not doing anything in the day time, a few days a week. she even us uses terminology from here in real life like a few weeks ago we had her BD party and she was like "so and so was walking around and trying to act alpha and **** lol". she's even made a few posts under my moniker though maybe like 3-4 in 4 years. they are probably the ones with no grammatical errors

I mean she's a woman, but she's about as level headed a woman as you are gonna find. with that said, she's a woman lol. she has a very good idea of what attracts men, she doesn't agree with the plate theory for obvious reasons, let me better phrase she thinks it is mean but she has to admit it works, **** it worked with her lol. She's about to however beucase she reads this site so much, look at things somewhat of a man's point of view when **** like this happens, like 4 years ago i dont' think the thought " you can't attract a high quality man with this ****" would have been the first thought that popped into her head

AlphaWhiskey

that girl after you slapped her probably wanted to **** you senseless. which ironically enough hows you she is a ****ty match.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear BackBreaker,
Your Posts are so refreshing,so different but authentic.....maybe one day,you should write....Reflect,maybe the Hindus are right,maybe this guy was an Oxen or a shvit eating Beetle in his last existence,now he has come into this World as a Slave looking for a Master.....People are programmed into their roles at an early age,perhaps even in the womb....I would be tempted to put him onto a site like this,but you risk blowing your anonymity...Would he even thank you?I doubt it...He has found his niche,and feels very secure....Like the Man you see with a wretched job cleaning dustbins on the streets of Bombay, he would be very unhappy to lose his job,because he knows there are worse situations.

 

[backbreaker]

Wrong Thread

 

[Dominance]

It's not worth that ****. It pisses me off that women do stuff like that and it's usually accepted but when guys do all of a sudden it is 'emotional abuse' and there is all kinds of groups and laws to do with that.

 

[Wilko]

On the flip side, I have a new girl on the go, who, fvck me, has proved to be a perfect fvcking host every time I have been over - spotless house, warm, generous - holy sh!t, like you'd actually expect of a woman. I mean it's just so bizarre that it should seem so conspicuous right? A woman acting like a woman, who would have thought!

And the best part is, she acts like I'm doing her this incredible favour by d!cking her once a week. Her sexual repertoire is coming along nicely too.

 

[MikeOck]

On the flip side, I have a new girl on the go, who, fvck me, has proved to be a perfect fvcking host every time I have been over - spotless house, warm, generous - holy sh!t, like you'd actually expect of a woman. I mean it's just so bizarre that it should seem so conspicuous right? A woman acting like a woman, who would have thought!

And the best part is, she acts like I'm doing her this incredible favour by d!cking her once a week. Her sexual repertoire is coming along nicely too.

It's a trap!

 

[disgustipated]

Even if it is a trap or act, there's something to be said for a gal at least giving off the appearance.of feminine.....I.e. accomodating. Not like the **** in the OP.

 

[muscleman]

That's all that some guys think they can get. So you met a red pill mangina, world is full of them.

At what point is getting laid worth it? Up to you. 3 dates max for me.

 

[Wilko]

It's a trap!

It has crossed my mind! Her actions actually demonstrate she's quite well-adjusted at this point in her life, but she has told me some absolutely hair-raising stories about what she was like as a teenager, and some of the errr, less than honourable things she's done to get back at ex boyfriends. Definitely won't be wife-ing this one up - eyes are wide open.

If nothing else, it has been a great reminder of how easy and fun things can be - when you have a feminine woman who is genuinely attracted to you.