At what point do you start giving them compliments?

[Jaxon]

First Date? Second Date? Third date? 6 months? After they've already paid you many?

Too many or too soon and it will blow up in your face.

But if you never build her up, you miss major opportunities to up your value in her eyes.

So what do YOU think is the point to start complimenting them?

 

[Dr.Gonzo]

When you sense it is appropiate.

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

I think you should compliment her when she does something worth complimenting. Compliments regarding appearences are nice, but don't forget to compliment other things, too. For instance, like handling an awkward or difficult situation with tactility, etc. You are right in that too many compliments too soon will ruin your game - she'll think you're all about the booty and bail.

 

[ready123]

ask yourself WHY are you complimenting her?

are you just doing it to do it, because you think you should? BAD

or did you actually notice something interesting about her that stuck out in your mind? GOOD

too many compliments too soon ruins your game, not because of timing, but because there's no way you could actually be genuine if you're just spitting them out

 

[xdreamz]

compliments are ok to use in the beginning if you feel shes easy to be had.

for hot girls even some semi-hot dont use them early on...be more indirect

correct me if i'm mistaken (a little out of practice and a lot of info in my head), but compliments should be used when she demonstrates something of value to YOU. usually after asking a screening question. escalate with a little touch while complimenting her. when moving into comfort with a girl u ask what she does, find out about what her goals and values are and then proceed to qualify her or compliment heavily on how she would be good at what her dreams are. IF AT ALL there's any awkwardness after complimenting, usually that means shes not comfortable on you hitting on her, then you should quickly pull away with a disqualifier like "too bad ur wierd".

genuinely showing appreciation by complimenting is ok i guess like "your cooking is good today" or "nice house". if and ever she starts to break away from the compliment like "my cooking sucks" don't push the compliment further like "no, really its great" just drop it, it just means they're pretty confident and don't need it.. so that means if someone compliments you like "nice hat"...then you can go head and show confidence by saying something like "i bought this hat at k mart for 50 cents". it all seems like a bunch of rules but its an art. sometimes u can score points by complimenting on things that they don't really get complimented on, for example a beautiful girl getting complimented on her intelligence but i don't really know how to do that though.

i have to admit things can get pretty confusing when they start playing games like "what do you mean my cooking is good today? does that mean its not good everyday?" any one have any suggestions on handling these...?

 

[Captain]

You can compliment her so long as you don't do it in a wussy way. Don't do it to kiss up to her or to gain approval. Don't comment on how hot she is if you have just met her.

 

[Gibraltar]

Dude, don't overthink this one. If you like something about her, then tell her. It should be spur of the moment, not planned or preconceived.

I tell her she is beautiful because she is. I don't care how she responds. I seek no approval, return compliment, or anything. I merely put out good vibes because she deserves them. I radiate positives because my life is filled with blessings and wonderful opportunities.

 

[Igetit!]

You can compliment her so long as you don't do it in a wussy way. Don't do it to kiss up to her or to gain approval. Don't comment on how hot she is if you have just met her.

Bingo. Captain hit it right on the head. You can give her a compliment anytime you want to....as long as it comes from a superior frame.
Here's some examples of the difference between the right way and the wrong way to compliment her:

Right way: I like the way you look in that dress. Turn around so I can get a better look at you.
Wrong way:Wow,you look so hot in that dress!

Rightway:You just got your nails done. I like it when you wear that color. Or:"I like that color on you".

Wrong way:Your nails look really nice. That's a good color.

Take a closer look at those examples and see if you can tell the difference between whether they come of a superior frame,or a weak one.

 

[frisco]

The best compliments are about the personality, if you notice a trait that she has that you enjoy her adding into you life then comment on it, "wow your really funny" "your so Free spirited" "I love your spontanous ways "
The reason these are best is becasue she will uncontiously exihibit the traits more and more when you coments on them. This is called SHAPING the relationship, When you tell someone there spontanous and you love it, she is more inclined to **** you in the bathroom, When you tell her shes So free spirted and you like it, she is more likely to **** you on the second or third date, when you tell her shes funny, shell tend to act goofyer, ect. these are the best types of compliments to give once you have gotten enough rapport to pull her ***** sheild down, The best times to give these complements is when she is actually in the act of doing this or acting the way you like, You can also add a DHV story after the the compliment that is directly related to that trait, If she acts spontanous, tell a story about when you where being spontanous your self, If she is singing in the car while your driving then tell her shes so free spirited, she may ask what do you mean if so explain.,.. "Your open to do whatever you want and not give a damn", these all build rapport in comfort, Destroys LMR, Shapes the girl to act the way you enjoy. And if your constatnly escalating sexually with kino and verbal then you end up with a girl who acts the way you enjoy, and one that will **** your brains out!!! Usually i use these maybe three times on a date or less depending on the vibe and IL

 

[Jaxon]

Bingo. Captain hit it right on the head. You can give her a compliment anytime you want to....as long as it comes from a superior frame.
Here's some examples of the difference between the right way and the wrong way to compliment her:

Right way: I like the way you look in that dress. Turn around so I can get a better look at you.
Wrong way:Wow,you look so hot in that dress!

Rightway:You just got your nails done. I like it when you wear that color. Or:"I like that color on you".

Wrong way:Your nails look really nice. That's a good color.

Take a closer look at those examples and see if you can tell the difference between whether they come of a superior frame,or a weak one.

I like this approach. I don't like giving compliments just for the sake of giving them, it's too easy for it to come off forced and unnatural. But telling them they look good in something, then taking command and telling them to turn around or something similar to, I like it.

Or when complimenting their intelligence, rather than saying "you're smart", say something like "you have a lot of potential, I think you could be doing so much more", when applicable.

Thanks.

 

[Igetit!]

A lot,LOT of guys get this mixed up. The fact of the matter is this:Women are attracted to superior men. You have to walk,talk,act,behave,and give off an vibe of being superior. Whatever she is,you have to be more,or that is,she has to "feel" that you are more. If she's strong,you have to be stronger. If she's offensive,you have to be more offensive. She has to FEEL that you're somehow more,better,or higher than her.

If you'll notice,in my examples,even though you're complimenting her,the focus of the compliment centers around YOU,what YOU like,what YOU prefer,what YOU think looks good.
It's like you're giving her your approval of her appearnce.

So it's not "Your hot in that dress". It's,"I like the way you look in that dress". The focus is on what YOU like.

If you compliment her the other way,the "You're hot" way,you'll put all the focus on her,and instead of generating attraction in her,you just pump up her pride and ego. She'll get a snotty attitude of,"Well look at me,of course I'm hot". I'm sure you've ran into women who have their noses in the air as if the mere fact that they're attractive gives them the right to look down on people. And they act and behave like they're too good for any guy who approaches them. They have that attitude because they've been told their whole lives by guys that they're beautiful,hot,or sexy over and over again.
Their egos have been pumped up every since they were little,especially when they hit puberty.

Trust me,you'll be able to tell from wihch frame you compliment a women simply by her reaction to the compliment.

 

[vagrant]

Compliment should be given to anyone when you really just can't help but notice something good about them. You can't say, okay at the second date I'll tell her how nice her hair is. If you think her hair is nice let her know.

Note: If she doesn't like you all the compliments in the world won't get you anywhere near her. If she does like you she'd want you to compliment her more. Why? Because she is interested to know if you like her too.