At A Complete Loss...

[Reykhel]

Depends on how you quantify being a gentleman;

Being too nice.

held and kissed her hand at one point

I don't know. seems very romantic. take her hand and drop it on your c=ck.

Didn't escalate as much as I would have liked but maybe the language barrier was a factor?

I don't think the language barrier is necessarily a big factor. In fact, having an English speaking boyfriend is probably a motivation for her. Brazilian chicks are usually horny as hell and fairly open. I suppose it can depend on the girl. I'm not a fan of old and every time I say that the response is "oh it's because you haven't had success". But I have. I used it about three times for about four months at a time and with very little effort was in double figures with old. So I never understand why people say they can't get success on old. For me I just don't really like the process. Anyway, I met more than one brazilians on old. Language barrier wasn't a huge factor. I remember one and she had a kind of shy personality. I escalated with her and I was almost sorry I did.....she wanted to kiss and kiss and kiss....in the bar. I'm not one for huge making out sessions in bars and that night the logistics where all wrong. However, probably because of the escalation she wanted to meet up again and make sure the logistics were on. Really generous girl, she was an aupair working for a fairly well off family....shared a couple of gifts she was given (a voucher for an expensive restaurant....on her) Sweet girl. She was a girl that was happy sharing a bottle of wine and time together.

approach her and stand a very good chance of dating her and ultimately sleeping with her and if it leads to something more permanent then so much the better

Ok so possibly there in lies the problem. In the recess of your mind you are thinking about the possibility of something permanent....

That could be poisoning your experiences. If you have that in your mind is possible you are sizing her up that way....

Enjoy the experience and let it go. Repeat if it can be repeated. Stay in the present with women.

 

[Orbitron]

Being too nice.

I don't know. seems very romantic. take her hand and drop it on your c=ck.

I don't think the language barrier is necessarily a big factor. In fact, having an English speaking boyfriend is probably a motivation for her. Brazilian chicks are usually horny as hell and fairly open. I suppose it can depend on the girl. I'm not a fan of old and every time I say that the response is "oh it's because you haven't had success". But I have. I used it about three times for about four months at a time and with very little effort was in double figures with old. So I never understand why people say they can't get success on old. For me I just don't really like the process. Anyway, I met more than one brazilians on old. Language barrier wasn't a huge factor. I remember one and she had a kind of shy personality. I escalated with her and I was almost sorry I did.....she wanted to kiss and kiss and kiss....in the bar. I'm not one for huge making out sessions in bars and that night the logistics where all wrong. However, probably because of the escalation she wanted to meet up again and make sure the logistics were on. Really generous girl, she was an aupair working for a fairly well off family....shared a couple of gifts she was given (a voucher for an expensive restaurant....on her) Sweet girl. She was a girl that was happy sharing a bottle of wine and time together.


Ok so possibly there in lies the problem. In the recess of your mind you are thinking about the possibility of something permanent....

That could be poisoning your experiences. If you have that in your mind is possible you are sizing her up that way....

Enjoy the experience and let it go. Repeat if it can be repeated. Stay in the present with women.

Yeah I see what you're saying but initially I would like to have more options with hot women and not be tied down to any one; if I do decide to be exclusive then it'll have to be a choice made from a place of abundance as opposed to scarcity - I will not settle for the next thing that comes along. As it is I do have options with a few girls that are ok but don't really light my fire so I'm not pursuing them at all but I'm 95% sure it'd be a guaranteed shag in quick time.

More good news today;

A few weeks ago I asked out a beautiful Polish girl: Anna that I see around town quite a lot but she turned me down so I smiled, said no problem and walked away. I've seen her around several times since and always smile and say hello. Today I was in a local coffee shop with my daughter and Anna was also there with a friend of hers and she approached me and struck up a conversation. I slipped her my business card and said "Incase you change your mind..." and a couple of hours later she text me saying "It was good to see me and would like to see me again, can we do next Saturday and if not then another time..." sounds pretty keen to me but not planning the wedding just yet and playing it cool...

 

[speed dawg]

Sorry, you clearly do not understand women and how they think. They do not think logically like men; for example, "this guys is hot i want him now," instead they think emotionally, "this guy is hot... is he a player..will he pump and dump me, will he cheat on me because he looks like he attracts a lot of women...am i not experienced enough to date a guy like him...will he not like me once he gets to know me." By then she has already disqualified herself from dating him.

By the way, a girls hottness does not have any correlation between their confidence. Confidence is based on a persons comfort level with themselves. A girl may look like a 10 but have the confidence level of a 5.

My advice is to help this guy out with whatever he is facing and it is up to him to digest it the way he wants to. Neither you nor I know him so we cannot comment on what level he is at.

Clueless.

If these girls want his c*ck and he even slightly pursues them, they reciprocate. He's doing something wrong.

OP: Get off the OLD, it reeks of desperation. If you simply must do it, play the numbers game. Stop obsessing over each one you date.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Orbitron, how would you describe your voice? Is it deep and masculine, essentially matching your looks, or is it high and sing-songy, emotive?

There’s something going on that is making women unsure, and in these cases the voice bears looking at.

If it’s deep and masculine, you could be scaring them a bit. Some women are intimidated by hyper-masculinity. Conversely, if your voice is higher and sing-songy (a non-offensive, eager to please, emotive style), that could be incongruent with your look. An incongruent projection can be very “creepy” to a woman. Many times, when there’s an incongruent vibe, the woman may want to pursue things but she finds that she can’t.

Just tossing the idea on the table as a possibility.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I'm at a complete loss as to what's going wrong here and I realise the one common denominator here is me so logic would indicate that it's something I'm doing or not doing that just doesn't flip the switches of the hotties I want but I swear to god I think I'm the same with all women and I actually relish the challenge of approaching the hot ones.

Any advice would be most welcome...

As stated by Jordan Peterson, women date up across culture. Not down.

You sir maybe the silver Foxx women would like or maybe (more likely) delusional.

You're 'at a loss' indication of your unawareness for hypergamy and declining female interest. Was said girl swallowing your proteins? Was she giving you the nasty on the regular! How old was she?

She ghosted you because 1. She's skiing down cawk mountain or 2. After bigger better prize.

Go get baes. Next set. At 42, you have lifestyle, been around the block, and could easily get women late 20s. I bet the girl who ****ed off is cratered smv.

Forged in fire son. Step up. Never look back. Take a trip. Vaca. Go on a bender. Swipe right at life. Start approaching.

I recommend Rollo over Corey Wayne. Check rsd Tyler. A complete sociopath but, bang on with pickup and perspective. Know these guys are all pedaling a narrative and want money.

There's no room for mediocrity in this world. Transcend. Seek self knowledge. Explore consciousness. Maybe trip to Peru and go the tea ceremony with shamans. Face your shadow. Integrate the darkest parts of your psyche and be the strongest version of yourself like Elliot hulse says mind/body/spirit.

At thirty, my eyes are open, and aware of female hypergamy. I don't want baby rabies or cratered smv. I prefer escorts and strippers. I am seeking my prime and swiping right at life. The good news being, new girls are turning 18 everyday.

Come at me broooo!

 

[Orbitron]

Orbitron, how would you describe your voice? Is it deep and masculine, essentially matching your looks, or is it high and sing-songy, emotive?

There’s something going on that is making women unsure, and in these cases the voice bears looking at.

If it’s deep and masculine, you could be scaring them a bit. Some women are intimidated by hyper-masculinity. Conversely, if your voice is higher and sing-songy (a non-offensive, eager to please, emotive style), that could be incongruent with your look. An incongruent projection can be very “creepy” to a woman. Many times, when there’s an incongruent vibe, the woman may want to pursue things but she finds that she can’t.

Just tossing the idea on the table as a possibility.

I do have a deep voice yes and I've been told on more than one occasion it is sexy and masculine and being a former Royal Marine I know how to use it to good effect I would say; I use an assertive tone and the downward inflection where appropriate.

Well my first date with "Anna" last night was a resounding success; kino within half an hour or so, kissing within the first couple of hours and she left my place around noon today. She just went home to get cleaned up and changed and then we met to go and see Deadpool at the cinema and she's already talking about meeting again next weekend.