At 36 all I want is......

[SteR]

Yeah, you're lucky. I look young too EXCEPT some grey hair. If I dyed it I'd look 29 but I made a thread on here and advice was generally against it. I still might try it once though. Ironically I'm finding it easier to talk to the younger girls. The wanna get married and have kids women have nothing in common with me. My friends who have kids might as well not be friends anymore. It sounds harsh but I've no interest in hearing or seeing Facebook posts about some sh*t their kid took or it with fvcking food all over its mouth and a million comments saying how cute it is.

Lmao you literally stole the words out of my mouth. I'm having that exact same dilemma at the moment, which sucks because some of them were good friends until they got hitched and had kids. Obviously their life priorities have changed but it leaves little in common..

 

[cordoncordon]

I can totally understand where you are coming from. And I think it stems from the fact that you really didn't do a lot of partying and sexing with different girls when you were younger. You are kind of like that girl or guy who gets into a LTR in highschool and college, breaks up, and then goes crazy because they were tied down during their prime party years.

So go ahead and knock yourself out if this is something you feel like doing. And don't feel guilty about it one bit. I should warn you though, that after doing this for a while, it can get really old, really quickly. Not only the drinking part, but you will also start to realize just how many crazy, unstable, slvtty, not worth dating women there are out there. And you will probably start to yearn for someone to date exclusively. Someone worthwhile and who will be there for you and that you can rely on. I have found that most people are happiest when involved with someone like that.

Best of luck.

 

[Big Nuts]

Yo mama...I'm like that now and I'm 46! So is another buddy of mine...both professionals who were previously married and have kids, but now spin 3-5 plates at all times.

Someone said LOVE is for the young....experience affords you the ability to clearly see through female BS. Many of my plates have been fine ladies...I just want other women because I will simply bore of these women and know that, eventually, the honeymoon ends and the BS and unrealistic expectations will come...no thanks....I love my life the way it is and won't let a female ruin that.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Yo mama...I'm like that now and I'm 46! So is another buddy of mine...both professionals who were previously married and have kids, but now spin 3-5 plates at all times.

Someone said LOVE is for the young....experience affords you the ability to clearly see through female BS. Many of my plates have been fine ladies...I just want other women because I will simply bore of these women and know that, eventually, the honeymoon ends and the BS and unrealistic expectations will come...no thanks....I love my life the way it is and won't let a female ruin that.

You're my new role model! Totally agree with what you said. Totally. People think love brings happiness but I think it (or the false idea of it) just slaps handcuffs on people. I think I can love the sort of life you have but at the moment I'm just spinning too fast and it's new for me so I'm making too many mistakes, going to all out, etc. It's going to take a while to settle into this but I'm convinced it's the lifestyle I want.

 

[In2theGame]

Yo mama...I'm like that now and I'm 46! So is another buddy of mine...both professionals who were previously married and have kids, but now spin 3-5 plates at all times.

Someone said LOVE is for the young....experience affords you the ability to clearly see through female BS. Many of my plates have been fine ladies...I just want other women because I will simply bore of these women and know that, eventually, the honeymoon ends and the BS and unrealistic expectations will come...no thanks....I love my life the way it is and won't let a female ruin that.

This right here is how i feel too. Although sometimes i think about having that one main lady in my life... deep down i know after the honeymoon stage... Im going to get bored and i definitely wont put up with the female garbage.

 

[Wilko]

So go ahead and knock yourself out if this is something you feel like doing. And don't feel guilty about it one bit. I should warn you though, that after doing this for a while, it can get really old, really quickly. Not only the drinking part, but you will also start to realize just how many crazy, unstable, slvtty, not worth dating women there are out there. And you will probably start to yearn for someone to date exclusively. Someone worthwhile and who will be there for you and that you can rely on. I have found that most people are happiest when involved with someone like that.

This definitely resonated with me. I'm not talking about some ridiculous NAWALT fantasy either; if I could find a woman who was tolerable company and also met most of my sexual needs, it would be a huge relief to get out of the Game for a while. I'd keep to myself Monday to Friday and hook-up for a day or so over the weekend. Just a light, breezy mini-relationship; let it run its course over a couple of months, and get back into the Game when it expires of natural causes. I could do that indefinitely.

Yo Mama, out of curiosity, who are you partying with? I just moved interstate for work ($$$) and I'm yet to meet anyone who I'd consider "one of my people". Has to be an issue for you given all the globetrotting?

 

[Wilko]

Also, I think that mild, intangible dissatisfaction is about as good as life gets!

I am super cereal right now.

Everyone will bullsh!t you about how happy and contented and fulfilled they are, but over the long-term no one does much better than comfortable and kind of listless.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Hi fellas,

I've been posting on my other thread in the main forum but I should probably just post on this one from now on. Again I might as well be totally honest even though I'm going to get flak for it, just because otherwise what's the point?

So after my 'speed date' (i.e. on Adderall) on Friday, I was feeling so bad on Saturday I had to neck a few benzos on Saturday just to feel ok. I slept then was fully intent on going for a run and beginning my detox week. Only then I was online and a smoking hot Persian lawyer hit me up. I had nowhere near the discipline not to try and see her that Saturday evening so we arranged to meet in a bar. On the way I told myself I would have a glass of wine or two and keep things very civil. I ended up drinking about a bottle and a half (she had the other half), heavy kissing, feeling her up, etc, missing the last train and having to take a taxi home, actually smashed (a bottle and a half isn't that much but I think I still had a lot of clonazepam in my system). Got home and necked more benzos for no particular reason. Woke up early this morning feeling fine.

Have a date tonight with an Irish girl then, bizarrely one tomorrow with a model who comes from money who is genuinely completely out of my league (I know, I know, that's not the way we think on here but I mean this is not the sort of girl that would normally date me, she'd be with a guy with a yacht or a coke dealer at least, not some standardly well off corporate lawyer). I think she'll flake.

At this point I'm on the road to having a substance abuse problem, there is no doubt about it. And I've gone from being very fit to not very fit just because I'm not exercising with all the drinking I'm doing. At least I haven't started smoking again.

Clearly the thing to do at this point is to stop dating and focus on stopping drinking completely, knocking off the benzos (and certainly never going near Adderall again which I am convinced is evil darkness in a pill), working out, etc. But knowing myself, this is going to run its course. I'm smart enough to know how stupid this is but as some posters have said I missed out on this in uni by being clueless. Then straight after uni I got into a very long relationship, so this is pretty new for me.

I wish I could say I'm smoothly picking women up in bars or on the street with some best bud wingman but all the friends I have here have either now got kids or have done all the stuff I'm doing now years ago and living a more sedate lifestyle. I see them but they wouldn't be up for this. So all of this is online dating, 100% of it. Not particularly proud of that and want to expand. Am starting to feel very confident though, not so much that women will like me but just that I'm so used to talking and escalating with them now that it's not a big deal. Not ONE F-close yet though.

My last relationship was with about as quality a girl as you can find She ticked all the boxes that people on this sight mark in a quality girl. No history of being a slut, good family, great job, loving, supportive, didn't withhold sex, affectionate, traditional, etc. But I got bored and stopped wanting to sleep with her. She was pretty as well. Hot when I met her and still attractive at 35. But she wanted to move to marriage and kids and I didn't and every time I saw a hot new piece of ass on the street I felt this pang of regret at knowing if I stuck with my girl I would never get a shot at new pvssy again.

Which leads me to where I am. I still do think that, as some of the posters above have demonstrated, this lifestyle could be good but it's unstable at the moment mainly because of the drinking. And unsatisfying because of lack of sex.

Cordoncordon I know you have a very happy relationship and totally hear what you're saying about this becoming old. The problem is EVERYTHING becomes old for me and I'm sure I'm not going to meet a girl I don't get bored with. Just my personality. Doomed to perpetual dissatisfaction and ennui. But I do enjoy last night's kind of sudden, random meeting very much.

Will update again after the Irish date. The date with the model will be intriguing if it happens. We spent half an hour discussing Nietzche and The Birth of Tragedy a couple of days ago. She'll flake, almost guaranteed.

So, now I'm looking at a new detox from Monday/Tuesday but have some dates lined up next week, one with a 21 year old opera singing cokehead.

I'm glad I can write about this on this forum. I'm not that proud of any of it but when I hear about my friends dealing constantly with their sick kids, the stresses of having to be a provider, etc, I can't say I envy them (although I hope they're happy and best of luck to them).

Will keep updating. Hoping this is at least semi entertaining even if it is bound to become slightly car crash entertainment.

Continuing to burn through cash that I could be saving. Not sure what I could be saving it for though and money just isn't an issue (which is part of the problem).

 

[guru1000]

Yo'Mama,

You're a corporate lawyer and young; you have the world for your taking. Don't f*k it up with drugs.

Create new goals. Challenge yourself with a new mountain to climb. Get your ship in order friend.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Yo'Mama,

You're a corporate lawyer and young; you have the world for your taking. Don't f*k it up with drugs.

Create new goals. Challenge yourself with a new mountain to climb. Get your ship in order friend.

Thanks buddy but what? The things im truly passionate about sre films, music and writing. Making films takes a lot, i have no musical talent. As for writing i love it and have almost finished a novel which im really happy with. Having a family doesnt interest me so what should my goals and aspirations be? I have enough money, im not ambitious in my job. Im a bit lost i guess. I love new pvssy but its not going amazingly at the moment. I like working out but slcohol and drugs are messing that up.

 

[guru1000]

You can never have enough money. If you are sitting liquid, then why are you not investing: buying homes, buildings, investing into different businesses that interest you. The more wealth you accumulate, the more endeavors you can dabble in.

Why not buy a 50-unit building with 10% down SBA loan, if you are into real estate. You like to write; why not write, and sell a novel; have it produced into a movie. Have you seen the movie "Wolf on Wall Street." That's Jordan Belfort. I know him from the "stock" business; he wrote the book and sold the production rights for a pretty penny.

Why are you no longer ambitious to make money; have you made your first billion? Why not build your own law firm with intent to hire 100 lawyers using your current relationships as a start point. Eliminate your liquidity; tie up your money in prudent investments: real estate, bonds, conservative stocks--or take some chances with businesses you are not familiar with after due diligence.

Don't make excuses. Get out there and conquer! Conquering businesses / real estate--at least to me--is a far greater high than meeting new women—which, paradoxically, attracts women to your interesting lifestyle.

 

[Yo'Mama]

You can never have enough money. If you are sitting liquid, then why are you not investing: buying homes, buildings, investing into different businesses that interest you. The more wealth you accumulate, the more endeavors you can dabble in.

Why not buy a 50-unit building with 10% down SBA loan, if you are into real estate. You like to write; why not write, and sell a novel; have it produced into a movie. Have you seen the movie "Wolf on Wall Street." That's Jordan Belfort. I know him from the "stock" business; he wrote the book and sold the production rights for a pretty penny.

Why are you no longer ambitious to make money; have you made your first billion? Why not build your own law firm with intent to hire 100 lawyers using your current relationships as a start point. Eliminate your liquidity; tie up your money in prudent investments: real estate, bonds, conservative stocks--or take some chances with businesses you are not familiar with after due diligence.

Don't make excuses. Get out there and conquer! Conquering businesses / real estate--at least to me--is a far greater high than meeting new women—which, paradoxically, attracts women to your interesting lifestyle.

Because, to be honest, money doesn't make me happy now. So why would crazily chasing more of it make me happy? I'm not that materialistic and have no drive to make much more money, none. I don't want a big house or expensive car or anything like that. I don't care about it.

I would love to have a book published and turned into a film, that would be a dream. I would just like people to read stuff I write and take pleasure from it. That's my ambition, not to make cash.

 

[guru1000]

I would love to have a book published and turned into a film, that would be a dream. I would just like people to read stuff I write and take pleasure from it. That's my ambition, not to make cash.

Most magnates think this way. They focus solely on developing a great product (i.e., Steve Jobs); money is simply the byproduct. Just as women are the byproduct of a goal-oriented lifestyle.

The high is in the chase; the thrill of the hunt; the challenge; the conquer. The by-product is money. Seems like you have a mountain to conquer, and as you’re a corporate lawyer, you already have a track-record of discipline. Now it’s just a matter of execution.

 

[Yo'Mama]

Most magnates think this way. They focus solely on developing a great product (i.e., Steve Jobs); money is simply the byproduct. Just as women are the byproduct of a goal-oriented lifestyle.

The high is in the chase; the thrill of the hunt; the challenge; the conquer. The by-product is money. Seems like you have a mountain to conquer, and as you’re a corporate lawyer, you already have a track-record of discipline. Now it’s just a matter of execution.

Thanks man, I think what you're saying is very true. I'm just in a numb state of mind at the moment after a week of tiring dates that didn't really go anywhere, I drank too much, didn't work out and don't feel very good about myself.

I know the lifestyle I want, I'm just not sure whether I can attain it. To be honest women are a big part of that lifestyle but I want them to be different to how they are, which is ridiculous I know. I hate having to 'push' them into anything physical. Or rather they go along willingly and then afterwards say they're worried we were moving too fast. Or LMR, anti-slut defence, etc. It all just seems so pathetic and such bullsh*t to me, especially when most of these girls have f*cked around like crazy in their past life (they all allude to 'crazy times'). I want the girls in the crazy times, not the ones who have now decided to be good girls who don't give guys sex until they think they will get some sort of commitment. I'm fed up of dating girls in late twenties and early thirties. Am going from 20-25 from now on. Not sure if they will date me (I have a couple of potentials in that age bracket) but that's what I'm going to try for.

 

[Yo'Mama]

First response from trying to target younger girls (on POF). This is from a 22 year old.


Well after I was recently diagnosed with gonorrhoea, I decided to put my youthful party-fuelled lifestyle behind me. I'm now ready to bring life into the world and care for something/someone more important than myself.

I think if you really open your mind, you'll see that children really are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.

 

[SteR]

Have you ever considered going travelling? The backpacker scene is littered with young girls looking to party..

 

[Yo'Mama]

Have you ever considered going travelling? The backpacker scene is littered with young girls looking to party..

I've travelled but never backpacked. It's not really my thing (backpacking I mean) but I might give it a go. Thanks for the suggestion.

The e-mail from the gonorrhoea ridden 22 year old has put me off a bit. Love the way that getting the clap has made her realise she's here to bring kids into the world. These women.....