Matt Rogers
Master Don Juan
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I was doing some self-reflection and something that I realised was very important in DJing was to always expect the best and assume the positive. Girls are very good at hiding their interest level, while guys tend to give the game away fairly quickly. Most girls know immediately when a guy likes them.
This initial period where the guy is not sure whether or not the girl likes him, especially when she gives mixed signals or plays it cool and passive (a lot of beautiful girls tend to be very passive), can be very unnerving. If you are not careful you can misinterpret everything as a sign she doesn't like you or is playing games with you, and get pissed off.
The solution is to put the best possible interpretation on the situation and ASSUME THE POSITIVE. When you start talking to her, assume she likes you. When you ask for her number, assume she will give it. When you are on your date, assume she likes you and is into you. When you feel like kissing her, assume she will like it.
The best thing about this technique is it will relax you, and this will show itself instantly to the girl. It also stops you worrying and overanalysing everything she does. You are no longer looking for her eyes to dilate, or her hair to flip-you assume she likes you!
Obviously this has to be tempered by a bit of observation-as it is silly to assume she likes you when she is slapping you in the face and tellling you she never wants to see you again. So don't take this tip to extremes.
The main point of this tip is that girls are hard to read. So save yourself some worry and bother, and ASSUME THE POSITIVE. Keep advancing forward assuming she likes you, and if she doesn't like you after all you will find out sure enough, as she will either stop returning your calls, tell you she is not interested, or flake all the time. Most guys with any sense will be able to read thse obvious blow-offs. But most beginner guys go wrong by reading too much and overanalysing little inconsequential stuff.
So in sum:
Assume the positive
Assume she likes you and will respond favourably to all your advances from asking for her number, to kissing her, to holding her by her hand and leading her to the bedroom.
The result: A confident, relaxed suave DJ!!
This initial period where the guy is not sure whether or not the girl likes him, especially when she gives mixed signals or plays it cool and passive (a lot of beautiful girls tend to be very passive), can be very unnerving. If you are not careful you can misinterpret everything as a sign she doesn't like you or is playing games with you, and get pissed off.
The solution is to put the best possible interpretation on the situation and ASSUME THE POSITIVE. When you start talking to her, assume she likes you. When you ask for her number, assume she will give it. When you are on your date, assume she likes you and is into you. When you feel like kissing her, assume she will like it.
The best thing about this technique is it will relax you, and this will show itself instantly to the girl. It also stops you worrying and overanalysing everything she does. You are no longer looking for her eyes to dilate, or her hair to flip-you assume she likes you!
Obviously this has to be tempered by a bit of observation-as it is silly to assume she likes you when she is slapping you in the face and tellling you she never wants to see you again. So don't take this tip to extremes.
The main point of this tip is that girls are hard to read. So save yourself some worry and bother, and ASSUME THE POSITIVE. Keep advancing forward assuming she likes you, and if she doesn't like you after all you will find out sure enough, as she will either stop returning your calls, tell you she is not interested, or flake all the time. Most guys with any sense will be able to read thse obvious blow-offs. But most beginner guys go wrong by reading too much and overanalysing little inconsequential stuff.
So in sum:
Assume the positive
Assume she likes you and will respond favourably to all your advances from asking for her number, to kissing her, to holding her by her hand and leading her to the bedroom.
The result: A confident, relaxed suave DJ!!