Asks to spend the night - upset when sex initiates

[TheBossman]

So, what should a person actually say to her? I mean do you really say "You didn't put out, so I got mad and left."

She has to know why you left, how do you play it off? What were her expectations? Did she want verbal begging or ?

 

[backbreaker]

i pretty much don't agree with anyone here lol. i've lived with a woman for over half a decade and i've dated quite a bit when i was single. i know enough about women to know tht evertyhing they do is not to get under your skin.


maybe she really was tired. you know how many times i've taken my wife out and we kiss and be all over each other only to get home and she realizes she's tired as hell and goes to sleep lol. it happens.

but let's say that this was not that case. let's assume that she had this grand scheme to be a **** tease set in motion

1. what exactly does she gain by being a **** tease in this situttaion?

2. why would she have to go so far as to invite him to spend the night? she could have just put her hand all on his **** in the car or something.. lol i had a girl **** tease me for 5 years without so much as kissing me on the check and on the 4th date this dude is spending

3. what exactly does laughing and storming out of the house accomplish? show that in her mind that you're simple minded and that you don't really give a damn about her you just want in her pants.


a little empathy will go a long way when dealing with people in general. Understand the balance that a women that is worth a **** has to balance between being too easy, and yet at the same time, showing a guy that she is really into him. if she ****s you too quick she will think that you think that she's a *****. If you don't show any interest she will think that you think that she doesn't like you like that. While blue balls, having you spend the night over her house in her mind, is probably the step between actual sex and making out in the car. I can understand a woman's point of view, and you guys seem to just be having a serious miscommuncation and lack of experience. from my experience with women, it's actually quite the opposite. it hink she really digs you and is walking on egg shells. and you are ****ing it up by storming out the house like a spoiled brat lol. call the girl back and make up something good.


it's funny becuase i actually did this to my wife when we were dating. she wanted the D bad. I knew it. she invited me over her house, basically tore my clothes off, I remembered i Had some **** to do early in the morning and by the way we were kissing i knew this wasn't going ot be a 20 min session, so i told her i wanted to watch a movie and go to bed lol. the look on her face was priceless lol. the next day we ****ed like rabbits though

 

[Jaylan]

Dudes are overthinking this. Sometimes people are too tired for sex. First off, laughing when she said she was tired was dumb and likely a turn off. I would have simply said "ok babe", kissed her and then slowly and lightly escalated for the next 20 minutes. I would have started by spooning her and sensually kissing her neck for a bit, then turned her around and gave her some nice kisses on the lips. And my hands would be lightly busy during all this. They would be tracing her chest, stomach and thighs.

Then I would move my lips down her body, enjoying myself along the way until I was kissing her thighs. After I went down for a little bit, Id be pretty sure she'd be amped up for sex, especially after that teaser course. And if we didnt have sex, she would be primed for our next hang out. Honestly I dont think your situation warranted acting all entitled and bugging out OP.

I always take a situation for what it is, and give it one more shot later. If it doesnt work out again, then I bail. The worst thing a guy can do though, is act immature because the chick didnt put out exactly when he wanted her to. Stop being so damn thirsty. If things have been escalated well the first few dates, then chill out. I would have simply slept next to the hot chick after trying my escalation, and then waited for our next date. I think its best to be indifferent about it. Dont act all cuddly with her, but dont act all upset you didnt get laid.

Just act like its cool, and let your future actions speak regarding your expectations.