Asking her out over text - what's the best possible way?

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She didn't actually *give* me her number. I gave her my phone and told her- "Here, put your number in". She was never going to say no to that. She didn't openly say "take my number down". That would be a way different story and huge IOI.
Wow - totally different situation. Abort. You’re one mistaken gesture away from a trip to HR

You told her to give you her number, you hang at her desk constantly, and you involved a third party to pass a message.

I would suggest you work more on your social cues and do not go anywhere near her.
 

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Wow - totally different situation. Abort. You’re one mistaken gesture away from a trip to HR

You told her to give you her number, you hang at her desk constantly, and you involved a third party to pass a message.

I would suggest you work more on your social cues and do not go anywhere near her.
You sound like an idiot, dude. This is a forum where guys go for help, not to be treated like a joke.
 

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The problem is NOTHING at all has come easy for me with this woman in all of these 6 months. Nothing.

Bottom line is I'm well aware this could all just be a very nice woman who enjoys talking to someone at work from time to time, but I still beleive there's a good chance its a little more than that. In my experience, most single women at work with no interest at all be sure to keep their distance from other single guys. She's never done that. Only me finally asking her out will let me be able to tell, but I want to do it right and not cringe. Any and all advice is appreciate. TIA
Men generally over estimate interest from women and women deem it a lack of "emotional intelligence"

With that being said the easiest way to get a conclusion to this is to find a mutual interest , select an activity revolving around it and then offer her to come with

"Hey I know your into art theres an exhibition by XYZ artist on at XYZ I'm going to check it out on XYZ would you like to join me"

This Is a very very low pressure offer and anything other than a YES from her will give you your conclusion you can move on from there with little face lost

With this being a work interaction you can't afford to go in like a bull in china shop confessing your undying love or offering anything romantic / sexual
 
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