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asking a girl out at work.. appropriate?

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i know i know.. not another thread about how to ask a girl out. I have no problem with actually talking to and asking her out. the problem is the only chance I will get to ask her out is while at work..is this appropriate?

i work in a small company < 300 employees. problem is the woman is in a separate department that my department has little to no interaction with. I already have some rapport built up from the new employee orientation, but if I don't follow-up I'm gonna hate myself. I need some creative ideas
of how to go about asking her out at work.

I know i will need to be very casual and I don't want to make her feel awkward or anything since there may be other employees around (people are in and out of offices all the time here) and she just started, but damn, i know i don't want to not do anything about it.
 

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I would advise against doing it in the first place. Let's say you take her on a date and things go really well, and the two of you start dating. Chances are, you two won't stay together for the long run, and if you two break up while you both still work there, that would make for a very awkward situation.
 

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As long as you can hit it right I wouldn't worry.

I have fooled around with a few co-workers, but honestly advise against it. More often than not it is a complete disaster.
 

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The great thing about girls you don't work with is if something goes wrong you don't have to see them again. Be careful.
 

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Pook says that the tendency to ask out co-workers demonstrates a lack of creativity and ambition.
 

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I advise against it.

My 2 times doing it, it has been a disaster, and no woman is worth losing a job over.
 

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thanks for the replys, problem is I live in a rather small town so practically any girl I date I will see again. moving isn't really an option at this time. i have a decent job, and i am probably one of the better catches in town simply because the competition is limited. but i am running into trouble as far as i do not have any anonymity. the girls that i date or turn me down, i do not have the luxury of saying **** it, i will never see her again.. i am guaranteed to see them again as there are only a couple of local hang outs.
 

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if you really think there's something special about the girl, maybe go for it. If you just like her because she's above-average looking and she's nearby and friendly, I'd advise against it. She needs to have some special qualities to outweigh the drawbacks of dating within the company.
 

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Avoid having a relationship at work. It gives you so much unnecessary drama when you need to focus on paying the bills. If it's just a part-time job and you don't really need the money and feel desperate, go for it. If it's a good paying job and you like working there, stop and think about whether you can find somewhere better to work. However there is such a thing as sexual harassment and women can nail your ass faster than you think!

I would even go out and say avoid making relationships at the gym because you'll get a bad reputation for it. For a while there, I didn't know my game enough and horribly messed up by AMOGing this jealous jerk at the gym. It wasn't necessary and killed my reputation for the longest time. I'm finally looking kickass at the gym again because I am there so often as a hardcore regular and hope to stay that way.

Good luck.
 
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