Asking a girl from Starbucks out

[Pimp-sicle]

YOU GUYS!!!!!

this shyt is hard! lol...Today i was at Starbucks and I was doing my work just observing the scene.

Difficult Reasons:
- i dont even know her schedule to a point where i know she's working to initiate contact (except Saturday mornings)
- its hard to get her isolated knowing that she's the mixer
- its hard to even strike up a conversation with her especially with a gathered crowd forming...but it usually dies down. Yet, when it dies down...she never comes up to wipe tables or what not

HOW ABOUT:
+ if I ask one of her coworkers straight up if her coworker who im interested in is single or not?
+ sit on a table closets to the bathroom in order to get her attention for a conversation
+ sit close to the exit so that when she's done with her shift, I can talk to her as she's walking out.
BUT!!! ANSWER ME THIS....I wanna ask her phone number right then and there if I happen to catch her at a conversation aka our FIRST CONVERSATION but I don't know how to go about doing it.

Is this real life? I mean have you really spent this much time dissecting different scenarios in your head about how to go about simply getting a girl's number who you think is cute?

Bro, I got bad news for you; as Ice already pointed out, you have no chance with this girl. Not because you couldn't get her, but because you simply don't have any confidence (and seemingly experience).

Instead of analyzing to the nth power; go out and take some swings at the plate. Post your results back here and details of the conversation leading up to your close attempts. Do you think the guys who are good with girls, were awesome right off the bat? HELLLL NO!! They had to practice.

I understand that you want to go about this the right way to increase the likelihood that she says yes. But it really should be the other way around; she should be thinking "oh that guy is so cute, he's fun and flirty; I hope he asks me for my # today?"

But since you haven't even talked to her, she doesn't know anything about you.

The bottom line here is you are afraid. Who cares if there are other people in line when you # close? Its a coffee shop bro! Do you think there will be a time when no one is there? Not likely.

Here's what I suggest:

1st: Actually have some sort of conversation with her. Figure out what her personality is like. If you go in and just try and get her phone #, your basing everything on physical attraction; as in if she doesn't find you attractive enough physically she will say no. That's like walking into a casino and putting all your money on black; in other words a prayer, not high percentages.

2) After you talk to her A FEW TIMES, she will be more comfortable with you, if you can get her laughing and smiling then your headed in the right direction.

Once you do THIS, then go in for the kill.









PIMP

 

[lexluciano]

Is this real life? I mean have you really spent this much time dissecting different scenarios in your head about how to go about simply getting a girl's number who you think is cute?

Bro, I got bad news for you; as Ice already pointed out, you have no chance with this girl. Not because you couldn't get her, but because you simply don't have any confidence (and seemingly experience).

Instead of analyzing to the nth power; go out and take some swings at the plate. Post your results back here and details of the conversation leading up to your close attempts. Do you think the guys who are good with girls, were awesome right off the bat? HELLLL NO!! They had to practice.

I understand that you want to go about this the right way to increase the likelihood that she says yes. But it really should be the other way around; she should be thinking "oh that guy is so cute, he's fun and flirty; I hope he asks me for my # today?"

But since you haven't even talked to her, she doesn't know anything about you.

The bottom line here is you are afraid. Who cares if there are other people in line when you # close? Its a coffee shop bro! Do you think there will be a time when no one is there? Not likely.

Here's what I suggest:

1st: Actually have some sort of conversation with her. Figure out what her personality is like. If you go in and just try and get her phone #, your basing everything on physical attraction; as in if she doesn't find you attractive enough physically she will say no. That's like walking into a casino and putting all your money on black; in other words a prayer, not high percentages.

2) After you talk to her A FEW TIMES, she will be more comfortable with you, if you can get her laughing and smiling then your headed in the right direction.

Once you do THIS, then go in for the kill.

PIMP

U sure understand a brutha! lol...

Make sense! I had a slight feeling it can't all go down in one shot because i've always heard the word patience. If you chase a cat, the cat will run. But if you approach it gently, it will trust you and feel comfortable with you.