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Asked a girl out, she said she was busy but that we could do a date in a few weeks. The few weeks have now passed, is it worth pursuing by asking her again or is it this answer just translated to "No, I would never go on a date with you"
 

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Its 95% likely a rejection.
 

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It's on your mind, so just ask and see what happens. Worst case scenario you get your ego bruised.
 

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As much as I believe it was a form of rejection, it doesnt take much work for you to send her a text or give her a quick call.

If she refuse again with no counteroffer, you got your second strike and you can move on with no further tought about her.
 

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Yeah I agree. Go for the second try. It's not gonna kill you. After that, drop it.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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Why was she busy? If it was a legit excuse, maybe. If not, likely just a way to keep you as a backup in case the guy she is seeing now doesn't work out/committ.
 

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sbgm said:
Asked a girl out, she said she was busy but that we could do a date in a few weeks. The few weeks have now passed, is it worth pursuing by asking her again or is it this answer just translated to "No, I would never go on a date with you"
Once she said that, I would of moved on and deleted her number. A few weeks? thats way too long for a girl who wants to see you. At most a girl who is legit busy would postpone a week IMO.
 

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A few weeks?! What the f**k.

She's really shameless. Any guys with options would not talk to her after that.

At worst she could have been specific on what she was doing those few weeks, but seems that she hasn't.

Move on.
 

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She's trying to make you wait for weeks, while she's chasing down that Mississippi State football player. :yes:

A woman who wants to see you will rearrange earth's orbit to make that happen. Would she make Brad Pitt wait a few weeks? Hell no.

Why give her a second chance? That only validates her ego. Drop her sorry ass, she did that to you! Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed.
 

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nismo-4 said:
She's trying to make you wait for weeks, while she's chasing down that Mississippi State football player. :yes:

A woman who wants to see you will rearrange earth's orbit to make that happen. Would she make Brad Pitt wait a few weeks? Hell no.

Why give her a second chance? That only validates her ego. Drop her sorry ass, she did that to you! Judge nismo's ruling.

Case closed.
One of the few general rule we should always keep in mind.

Btw Nismo, aint you 28 since 2010?
 

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Haha so true. Two schools of thought here:

1) next. Don't pander and get rejected

2) keep trying don't let your ego get in the way, who cares what she thinks

I have found that I next girls a little too quickly. This one girl I dropped over the summer I kind of regret now.

I'm willing to take more chances and swallow my pride because if I dont I end up lonely and bored
 

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So, yesterday I saw this girl and she gave me a big smile and I asked her how she was doing, and she said fine and started talking more so we talked for a bit... Maybe I should ask again
 

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Chick: We can go out in a few weeks, maybe.
You: Hmmm...ok..I'll call you next year just to be safe!

Dude, that's a 101% rejection. I'd keep it friendly and not bother. If she brings it up, pounce on it, otherwise you'll just become her orbiter waiting for her to decide when to go out. Giving up your power and options before the first date is a horrendous move.
 
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