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[BPH]

OK. So when you say "acting/modeling pursuits", the game changes . You are not normal looks, you are very good looking. You did say it in OP but when you talk about acting and modeling, its a different ballgame. Plus, you are 6'0. That changes the game alot too.

I agree, but that's why I made sure to state that I never got any actual work from it. Just as somebody can say they're a "musician", but it carries a very different meaning if they're performing at dive bars vs actually having ticketed shows.

I think I'm quite good-looking, but I wouldn't say I'm a special case.

Come on bro, don't try to say girls fall in love with you because you "honest" and "don't manipulate". The average guy doesn't lie or manipulate, he's not a jerk, but gets nowhere with the hot girls because of his physical attributes. You are trying to downplay your physical attributes and up play the virtuous stuff. That works with older women, but with younger women, they could care less.

I'm not saying my personality does the heavy lifting when it comes to initial attraction, but what I am saying is that I don't try to put on a facade to bed a girl; I don't lie, even if it would be something small that would benefit me, such as lying about my age, and I'm upfront about what I want. Because of this, I'm genuinely me all the time and I think a lot of women find that refreshing, which is why most of my plates are content with the position they're in when they're sleeping with me.

That is not an average guy. That is a lunatic.

Average guy is under 6'0, normal job, normal looks, regular clothes, regular home.

This kind of behavior is normal, the kind of behavior that I put out is not.

A normal guy doesn't get laid much, puts women on a pedestal, tries to buy her attention, isn't comfortable with walking away and giving up sex, and is insecure about who else she might be talking to. I cannot tell you how many stories women will tell me about guys they're talking to/have been talking to being extremely weird.

For example, one weekend I was visiting my ex and it was early in the morning after a night of boozed-up sex. There was a guy who was trying to court her. While in bed on this Friday morning at about 7 AM, there was repeated loud knocking on her bedroom door. Thankfully I had locked it, but this isn't too unusual - my ex is the primary breadwinner of her family and has her brother living in the basement of her home and often lets her sister and her kids stay over in the guest room because that woman and her baby daddy are deadbeats.

Anyway, my ex gets out of bed to check on it, assuming the same things I had mentioned, but thought it was weird how aggressive the banging was...turns out this guy had "let himself in" and decided to show up unannounced to bring her a coffee...he had texted her but she hadn't checked her phone because she was with me, and I forget whether the front door was unlocked or whether he climbed in her open window, but he came all the way upstairs to her bedroom door to try to make this delivery because he thought it would be "cute".

She nipped that in the bud real quick, but this behavior is more common than you'd think.

On Valentine's Day, while we were still dating, this other guy that liked her sent her multiple gifts in the mail, including an all-expenses paid one-week trip to Cancun and put her up in a hotel...obviously she declined, but the lengths the "average man" will go to are crazy.

The fact that I'm generally unbothered, can say no, don't lie, avoid drama, etc are all things that are NOT normal, and for that reason, I think that's what helps me maintain women that on paper would be "out of my league", given my financial situation. The fact that OnlyFan is a career path should be evidence of how much the average man sucks.

You are poor, do not have a place of your own, and a hot girl is crying because she is mistreating you, and you are the only guy who has broken up with her?

OK, so either you are giving her the best sex in the Western World, or the girl is really really young. And she can't be that young because she has a place of her own. It's illogical to think a 25+ year old woman with her own job and own place would be crying that a guy with no job, no money, and no place of his own broke up with her. What would she be missing? You cant' buy her anything, you can't drive her anywhere, you can't go anywhere with her. So its got to be the sex. Which, if it is, its strange in itself, because any hot girl under 30 could get any guy she wants if she snaps her fingers.

You gotta remember that this wasn't just a plate or a one-night stand. This was a relationship where we both loved each other.

This requires a lot of background, but this woman is heavily damaged and has gone through a lot. I can dive deeper if you're curious, there are a few threads I made about her while we were dating, but I don't say that lightly - she has gone through a LOT...She managed to get to a point in her life where she makes very good money, but has a lot of people who are beholden to her and use her; her ex whom she dated on and off before me asked her for a loan to start a construction company (something like $60,000) and never paid her back, her brother and sister quite literally live off her paying their bills, her "friends" went out and partied with her on her own dime, etc.

So I was unique because I didn't care about the money. When we would go out I would try to treat her, even though she made substantially more than me. I never asked her for money or gifts, and I truly loved her - still do, just not in the same way. She never had that, and because she's very attractive and very financially independent she's never really had anybody say "no" to her, until me. I walked away from the relationship because there was too much fighting, which was a first for her. She attended therapy since the breakup, still does, and has grown and matured a lot and realized where her animosity and anger came from, and why she took it out on me. She realizes that, and I wouldn't say she's "crying over me", she acknowledges her role in what pushed me away and apologizes for it.

That said, I will say the sex is amazing, on both ends. So I'm sure that plays a role as well. If you read my reply about fingering, it shouldn't come as a surprise that I know what I'm doing - hell, after 93 women I would EXPECT to be good at this by now...being a good kisser, knowing how to finger, properly eating pu***, different sex positions, etc. I love sex...I get around as much as I do not because I have something to prove, but because I like having sex with a variety of hot women. If I'm fu**ing her I KNOW I'll get off, so I make it my job to get her first.

I'm not here to brag, but I also won't discount that my level of experience likely plays a decent role in retaining these women.

You may be telling truth. It's just a little hard to take when you are 30, have no place of your own and no money. Girls start to wake up around 25-26 ish.

That's understandable. This is the internet, where everybody makes themselves out to be better than they really are.

I'm not out here saying I consistently bang hard 10s, without spending a penny, as an average guy living at home with his parents.

I'm good-looking, I'm muscular, I'm self-confident, and I'm good in bed. But I didn't start out as any of those things, so I'm just here to help those people who have that goal.

I have nothing to gain by lying; I don't give a sh** about my reaction score or messages, I'm not selling coaching, I don't have a course, I'm simply here offering to help people who will actually act on the advice I give.

It's like with the gym; I'll have friends and family come up to me asking what I eat or what my routine is because they want to look like me. I can tell them exactly what I do, but I know what I do is difficult and that 99% of these people won't do what's required. So I'm just putting this all out there for the 1% who might.

 

[BPH]

yeah for me its not rejection that hurts, its the way that it happens that has the biggest affect on me, if i feel i have made a woman uncomfortable or if i violated her boundaries, get thrown the C word, it hurts and its embarassing, it makes me and i'm sure tons of other guys in the world, feel very stupid.

Overall, i just want to make sure i have the right mindset, right perspective on this, is the risk of getting labeled or perceived as weird, creepy, messing up interactions that result in women calling me that or viewing me is that, is that just part of the process or journey of getting better, as in, messing up or making mistakes like that is part of the journey of getting better?

to sum it up, you are saying you have been labeled or thought of as creepy or weird for approaching women, or even accidentally made women feel uncomfortable from approaching, and it was part of the journey for you getting better?

You will suck at this until you don't.

Who cares if a girl you approach thinks you're creepy? Will she matter in 5 minutes after she's walked away? Will you ever see her again? Probably not. The best thing that can happen is you get laid/married. The worst thing that can happen is you get rejected.

Think about it this way: are you willing to go through repeated short-term pains to avoid long-term pain?

The short-term pain is that of a rejection.

The long-term pain is that of settling for a woman you don't love/doesn't love you because she's the "best you could get".

That's up to you.

 

[BPH]

Did you study something in college? Why you haven't worked in what you studied?

Yes, so I've been passionate about fitness and health ever since I first started really working out back in the 7th grade. I had it in my head that I would study something in a similar field thinking I would go on to learn physical therapy or work as a personal trainer for athletes.

I thought it would be great to train and help people that had the same passion and drive that I had.

My first 2 years were spent at UNCW where I studied Exercise Science. When I transferred to UD I found that they didn't have that degree - the closest thing similar was Behavioral Health and Nutrition, which is what I then majored in, graduating with a Bachelor's of Science in that field. I also had to play "catch up" because my course credits didn't all transfer since the coursework was different, so I had to take classes during winter and summer session my last 2 years in order to graduate on time.

Quickly had a wake-up call after that.

Started working at my local Anytime Fitness as a personal trainer and quickly became disillusioned by it; people would find excuses to cancel their appointments for the stupidest reasons, and there was almost no demand for personal training there. My sole client was a guy who scheduled with me 2 or 3 times per week, where I would have to wake up at 4:30 to come train him by 5 AM for a quick half hour before he went off to work. And don't get me wrong, I did help him, but after our session I essentially became minimum wage labor helping put away equipment and clean off mirrors...

Right across the street there's a fitness club for the wealthy called Hockessin Athletic Club. Very expensive memberships and the average income of a member there was well into the 6 figures. I interned there for a while and found that almost every personal trainer there worked a second job because they didn't make enough with the clients they had at this location either. Plus, I needed additional certifications despite having a degree in order to even be considered for a position.

Physical Therapy required extra schooling, which I didn't think was the solution, so I worked regular jobs part-time while trying to make something more significant work in my free time (modeling/acting, Facebook advertising, dropshipping, ERC, etc). I spent a year at that mortgage lender where everybody else had a Finance degree, and here I am with essentially a Nutrition degree doing the same job.

From that point I kinda realized that a degree is a good way to get A job, but not THE job. I recently finished reading a book called The Millionaire Fastlane, as a recommendation, and I do believe that the way to get truly wealthy is to be in control of your income by creating something that serves others.

That's what I'm working on now...and I'm considering the fact that maybe I haven't been under enough pressure, since I have a full-time job that pays my bills and have a home I'm living in rent-free, and I'm very much considering quitting my job, moving where I want to be, and spending that time working on what I'm building now.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

You will suck at this until you don't.

Who cares if a girl you approach thinks you're creepy? Will she matter in 5 minutes after she's walked away? Will you ever see her again? Probably not. The best thing that can happen is you get laid/married. The worst thing that can happen is you get rejected.

Think about it this way: are you willing to go through repeated short-term pains to avoid long-term pain?

The short-term pain is that of a rejection.

The long-term pain is that of settling for a woman you don't love/doesn't love you because she's the "best you could get".

That's up to you.

yeah very powerful mindset, if a woman does label or think of me as creepy or weird, or if i made her uncomfortable, the pain is much lesser if know i won't run into her again, but if i do run into her again, thats when it is more awkwardly painful and embarassing.

 

[BPH]

yeah very powerful mindset, if a woman does label or think of me as creepy or weird, or if i made her uncomfortable, the pain is much lesser if know i won't run into her again, but if i do run into her again, thats when it is more awkwardly painful and embarassing.

My suggestion would simply be to practice somewhere that you won't be running into the same people you see in your day-to-day life, at the risk of ruining your reputation.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

My suggestion would simply be to practice somewhere that you won't be running into the same people you see in your day-to-day life, at the risk of ruining your reputation.

yup, i assume you had to practice a lot, and its another reminder on how i view the word practice from a different mindset now.

 

[SW15]

Physical Therapy required extra schooling, which I didn't think was the solution

I have been a patient in physical therapy before. For the majority of ailments, it is complete waste of time. It accomplishes nothing.

For orthopedic surgeries, most of the success/failure of the surgery depends upon the competency of the surgeon. Orthopedic MDs far overprescribe physical therapy for administrative reasons and not pure medical reasons.

Most physical therapists are married women. That's amazing considering that all physical therapists get advanced degrees. Women with advanced degrees are usually more career centered and less likely to be good girlfriends/wives. The fact that most physical therapists are married women shows how beta most men are.

@The Duke had the best ever outcome from physical therapy when he had sex with his married female physical therapist.

 

[The Duke]

I have been a patient in physical therapy before. For the majority of ailments, it is complete waste of time. It accomplishes nothing.

For orthopedic surgeries, most of the success/failure of the surgery depends upon the competency of the surgeon. Orthopedic MDs far overprescribe physical therapy for administrative reasons and not pure medical reasons.

Most physical therapists are married women. That's amazing considering that all physical therapists get advanced degrees. Women with advanced degrees are usually more career centered and less likely to be good girlfriends/wives. The fact that most physical therapists are married women shows how beta most men are.

@The Duke had the best ever outcome from physical therapy when he had sex with his married female physical therapist.

And my insurance paid for stuff they didn't even know they paid for

 

[RickTheToad]

Is there a SoSuave coupon code for Flomax???

It's only around 5 bucks now. Flomax is now generic; Tamsulosin.

 

[BPH]

It's only around 5 bucks now. Flomax is now generic; Tamsulosin.

This man answering the REAL questions.

 

[Knight of Roses]

Two questions for you BPH:

1. I’ve had a few one night stands that don’t seem interested in meeting up again. Do you think that it’s because my sex was bad? I’ll be honest, I’m not the best at bed. I hardly work out, and while I look good in my clothes, I don’t look that good naked. Medium sized belly with little muscle mass, kinda fluffy. I mean if the sex was good, they’d definitely be down to hang out again right?

2. I make a real good amount of money. I live in a mansion and have three cars including a Hellcat. But I’m always envious of the broke boys who get girls for free or even have girls paying them rent money. Could I ever get a girl to pay for my ****? Or because I make money and women know that, no one’s ever gona buy me stuff? Idk. I know it seems silly but this is something that always weighs on my mind.