Ask her to be my girlfriend?

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Hello guys! It's my first post.

I've been going out, texting this girl for around. . . Say 4 months now. We've watch movies together, dinner and stuffs. We have alot of fun together, and I'm quite sure she doesn't dislike me. Occasionally, she does initiate to text me.
The truth is, i have difficulty reading her (like all girls). I can't tell if she's interested in me or not. I haven't been too clingy or desperate.
I knew her when she had a boyfriend, and they have broke up recently (a month ago?)
The question is, should i ask her to be my girlfriend?

Tip would be excellent!

 

[falconslax89]

to put it simply..NO! have you done anything with this girl? kissed..had sex? it doesnt sound like it. if not you shouldnt even be considering such a thing until several months of doing those things has gone by. after you guys have spent enough time together, and if she wants it, she will bring it up. do not even mention it yourself.

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

The truth is, in my country (more eastern), people don't usually have sex/kiss before they are attached. People here are more . . . Conservative.

 

[SandHawk]

The truth is, in my country (more eastern), people don't usually have sex/kiss before they are attached. People here are more . . . Conservative.

Then you have no business on this forum. A lot of the interactions we have with girls, is in the form of kissing them and then proceed to work our way into their pants, even without being attached.

Hell, quite a few of the people on this forum usually have sex with more than 1 girl in the same time frame without being in a relationship with them. We focus on having sex with lots of girls, and in your particular case, we cannot be of help. Both due to cultural differences and due to the fact that we have no idea what kind of interest this girl is showing you.

 

[thewickedm]

Hey, I'm Asian so I know what you mean about the conservative part. But that's not a real limitation. I've had female friends who tell me they'd so sleep with me if they're not attached. While I've nv attempted or desired to make a girl cheat on her bf, I'm of the opinion that as long as you don't conceal ur sexuality, girls will catch on to it conservative or not.

Of course, to shed some light on your situation, we, conservatives or not, are guys. Hence IMO we are not people who sit around and "read" girls. We lead our interactions and relationships in directions we want, and we do so with confidence. Not sure if she likes you "that" way? Hold her hands, or move in for a kiss. Can't rmb which of us said it, but make the hoe say no.

In case you haven't inferred, that means that you in no way ask her to be ur gf. Do not, I repeat, do not make the same mistake as me. Believe it or not, girls will more often than not agree to being ur gf for a myriad of reasons other than being in love with you. Do your thing, and she will broach the topic when she has sold herself the notion that she loves u deeply and wants to be exclusive. Till then, birds fly free

 

[kingsam]

Hello guys! It's my first post.

I've been going out, texting this girl for around. . . Say 4 months now bad - so you were texting her for months when she was not avaliable!. We've watch movies together, dinner and stuffs. We have alot of fun together, and I'm quite sure she doesn't dislike me.she doesnt DISLIKE you ? well thats a start! Occasionally, she does initiate to text me.
The truth is, i have difficulty reading her (like all girls). I can't tell if she's interested in me or not. I haven't been too clingy or desperate.
I knew her when she had a boyfriend, and they have broke up recently (a month ago?) you are a rebound or more likely the emotional tampon
The question is, should i ask her to be my girlfriend? NO
Tip would be excellent!

Game/lady skills (what ever you wanna call it) are fundamental where ever you live on this planet from taiwan to peru to finalnd to namibia , however conservative or liberal you are! (maybe except wierd tribal/nomadic cultures - eg afganistan, mongolia, the jungle)

The truth is, in my country (more eastern), people don't usually have sex/kiss before they are attached. People here are more . . . Conservative.

where do you live?
this is just an excuse... for example young people in iran who cant have sex outside marridge get married for like a few dyas to bang? the guy still needs his fundamental Game in iran!

 

[Captain]

The truth is, in my country (more eastern), people don't usually have sex/kiss before they are attached. People here are more . . . Conservative.

Doesn't really matter. Stand out from the crowd.

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Captain that's very well said. I think I should just wait

 

[RZA26]

@OP:

Game/lady skills (what ever you wanna call it) are fundamental where ever you live on this planet from taiwan to peru to finalnd to namibia , however conservative or liberal you are!

Please do not take his advice. He doesn't know what he's talking about (referring to other countries). For example in certain countries/cultures women do NOT generally "play games", run ****/confidence tests, lead guys on, etc. on their guys (which is considered normal in the US/UK/etc.) - Brazil for example.

Women/girls and their behaviour are not the same in every country (many similarities, but there are differences). I know of guys who are into this pick-up stuff and have stated that some stuff that works well in the US is a bad idea in some parts of southern America.

SE Asia most likely is very different when it comes to many things...Ive heard (though cant say for sure) that what is considered bad (being an "AFC") over here helps over there.

To someone livingi n the US/UK I would highly suggest not asking a chick if she wants to be his girlfriend (as that'd be a major turn off to her).....However, in SE Asia it might be a completely different story.

You should try finding a forum/blog or something for this stuff in your part of the world, as there might be fundamental differences...

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

yupp i've noticed!

 

[DanelMadr]

If your culture is demanding to verbalize your intents then do it. But I highly doubt that words are necessary. At least wait right after kissing her.

I mean you are not living in Taliban territory when you can spend some time alone with each other.

Lets be honest here. You are not afraid of breaking a social rule, you are afraid of her response. And you want to know from us what is a chance you will get shot down. Assuming you even ask this question....you probably will get shot down.

Unless you build up her Interest Level by doing the right things.

Being a honorable, take/give no bullshyt, no fear MAN who is playful, charismatic and sexual is the way of doing the right things to build her Interest Level enough to let her kiss you and maybe even say yes to some local courtship custom.

Where are you from anyway?

 

[kingsam]

@OP:
Please do not take his advice. He doesn't know what he's talking about (referring to other countries). For example in certain countries/cultures women do NOT generally "play games", run ****/confidence tests, lead guys on, etc. on their guys (which is considered normal in the US/UK/etc.) - Brazil for example.

Women/girls and their behaviour are not the same in every country (many similarities, but there are differences). I know of guys who are into this pick-up stuff and have stated that some stuff that works well in the US is a bad idea in some parts of southern America.

SE Asia most likely is very different when it comes to many things...Ive heard (though cant say for sure) that what is considered bad (being an "AFC") over here helps over there.

To someone livingi n the US/UK I would highly suggest not asking a chick if she wants to be his girlfriend (as that'd be a major turn off to her).....However, in SE Asia it might be a completely different story.

You should try finding a forum/blog or something for this stuff in your part of the world, as there might be fundamental differences...

dumass

im talking about being a strong confident man and what comes with that (the fundamentals) this is the same the world over for all men , not about specific dteails as you
claim

@OP:
SE Asia most likely is very different when it comes to many things...Ive heard (though cant say for sure) that what is considered bad (being an "AFC") over here helps over there.

so this isnt fact your just specilating...

Look i have class with many internatinal students and they are all the same, they may not play as many games as US/UK girls (questinable), but the "core" is the same

 

[Guoy Darko]

The truth is, in my country (more eastern), people don't usually have sex/kiss before they are attached. People here are more . . . Conservative.

Then you should go to her dad and ask him for her hand. Make sure to check if her hymen is still there before you marry her.

 

[RZA26]

Speculating only in the case of korea, that's why I put the (can't tell for sure) in the case of korea).

Sorry if I hurt your internet pride for calling you out; not enough time for internet flame wars sorry..lol

 

[kingsam]

Speculating only in the case of korea, that's why I put the (can't tell for sure) in the case of korea).

Sorry if I hurt your internet pride for calling you out; not enough time for internet flame wars sorry..lol

sure...whatever

well conincidently , 5 of the international students are from korea, 4 girls, one guy.

the guy is a complete loser (nice, but very clueless and innocent) one of the girls is kinda cool and easy to chat to, i asked her "are all korean guys like this guy" ... basically they are not, some are jerks, some are afc, just like any other country...
yes there are cultural differences but the basic "manlyness" skills will help you anywhere...
this 1 girl also started seeing an intaien guy from my class ... the basic man-woman dynamics were obvious and the same as any other RL in other countires ...

some one from a diffrent culture may have to alter things, but the foundations of woman-skills will be the same where ever you are...