Asian Girls

[LMFAO]

I am so lost with an Asian girl in New York I don't know what to do.

I have been on two dates with this Japanese girl, she is in my class and is around 24, I'm a few years older. She's been in the US for a year.

I made a bet with her in class that if Japan lose at football then she will buy me lunch, if they win I buy her lunch. If it's a draw nothing happens. Japan won.

The first date we went to lunch together. Sat down together for an hour and flirted for a bit. Did small pieces of kino here and there. I paid for it in the end, I told her since I won I'm allowed to change the rules and therefore I'll pay for this one but she'll pay for drinks when we go out a couple of days later. She was happy with that.

Second date came, we went out for drinks in a bar, sat outside and talked and we had a lot of common interest. She told me she doesn't drink alcohol and hasn't done so for three years. Eventually it was getting cold and I told her let's go back to my place for a bit and see the view. She said no problem. In fact when we got to the apartment went to terrace floor and she said "wait aren't we going to your room?". So we just looked around for a second and headed to my room.

We sat and talked for a bit. She said she had to head back home as she lives an hour away and it was getting towards midnight. I teased her and said where's your sense of adventure and said for her to stay with me for a bit. She said she has to go back home. I said no problem I had a good night and feel we get along, then I went in for the kiss but she pulled back jumped off the chair and headed to the door. I walked to towards her and said 'wait a second' and touched her shoulder lightly, she got scared. We were outside my room now and she said this usual "I don't even know you" thing, "we only met a few times".

Feeling shocked as much as her, I insisted to walk her back to train station, she didn't want to speak to me and looked pissed. She said her heart was pacing and that "she wasn't that type of girl". I apologised, told her I'm not interested in any random girl, that we get along and that in fact it's not that unnormal to kiss on a second date.

I sent her a text to apologise later in the night, she didn't respond.

I spoke to an Asian friend and he told me that it's not uncommon for Asian (non westernised) girls to require 10-20 dates and serious commitment before sex and was shocked I tried to kiss on the second date. At the same time she is in my class, and I don't want to get some sort of reputation for this.I would say she is possible relationship material.

What the f*** do I do?

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear LMFAO,
She is in your Country...when in Rome you do as the Romans...however East Asians don't like to kiss,a taboo,probably owing to the poor state of Dental Hygiene generally...What to do?...absolutely nothing it's her problem...you explained the US norms,she wants to get upset,her choice...where there is a huge Cultural Divide,just get out and avoid the hassle!

 

[Warrior74]

Do you believe what women say? Because I don't. Plow or Next.

 

[abe0]

I just talk to her next time you see her in class and try to set up another date. If she accepts ...then you may have to slow down a little till she is ready. If she doesn't accept...move on. BTW,,,she has only been in the US one year so even though she is in "Rome"....try to respect her culture or you are not going to get laid at all.....and at the end...that's the goal. Abe

 

[VladPatton]

Yep, I believe it. Unless they are Americanized, Asian chicks are a hard score, man. The cultural differences are monumental. I gave up on Asian chicks a long time ago. I'd chalk it up as a loss. I believe the more traditional or ethnic a girl is, the harder it is to bang her, unless you're one of them. Not impossible, no, but they do tend to gravitate towards their own kind.

 

[G_Govan]

Honestly, this is a tough call looking from the outside in.

She could be legit given the cultural difference, but she took some risks going to your apartment and then insisting on going to your room without you making the suggestion.

Given the way she reacted to you at the end I wouldn't bother trying to explain anything. Just act like it never happened and be friendly, but distant. Any chick that reels back like that after an attempted kiss and becomes scared just isn't worth pursuing in my book.

I can see being a bit reserved and playful, stating that you aren't ready yet, but to act like I'm in the process of raping you is extreme. It doesn't sound like someone who genuinely wants to (eventually) have sex with you.

 

[VikingKing]

With traditional foreign asians, rapport, rapport, rapport. I've done it. But it's a bit much work, and when you do get it you basically have to appear that your intention is long term commitment.

Of course, I dated a Chinese. She told me all about her Chinese friends. One of her friends used to go on craigslist, and look at the pictures of guys looking to hook up (**** pictures) and she would choose the one she wants.

Now my ex, and her friends are from well off Chinese families.

Some are slvts, but would never let their social circle know. But many are looking for a committed relationship.

 

[englishman]

In her mind they might not have been dates. Maybe just thought that you were being friendly.

 

[Malcontent]

I met an HB10 Italian girl in Mexico. We hung out for a few days -- I massaged her ass cheeks on the beach while people watched, I carried her around in the water while she wrapped her arms around me (and I had a boner when getting out of water), we went out to eat with her Mom and family friends, etc. However, when I went to her hotel she asked me to wait outside while she showered. On the night I was leaving, we were walking on the beach and she asked if I was "dangerous." I guess she thought "American=rapist/killer". What's weird is she held my hand the whole time, and she was the one who suggested we take the walk. Man, I wish I'd plowed it, but things didn't progress properly. She seemed interested, but maybe there wasn't enough time, or maybe she wanted me to push more for sex. Hard to say. I french kissed her when I left just so it wasn't all for nothing.

So, I guess cultural differences can be perplexing.

 

[G_Govan]

She seemed interested, but maybe there wasn't enough time, or maybe she wanted me to push more for sex. Hard to say.

Very possible. Some women purposely try to position themselves so you have to press the issue in order for them to feel comfortable (anti-slut defense).

I'll push, but I have my limits. If it seems like too much of a pain and isn't fun, I'll just leave or pretend like I'm not interested. I'm done with the whole hoop-jumping, monkey dance nonsense.

 

[Rubirosa]

Yep, I believe it. Unless they are Americanized, Asian chicks are a hard score, man. The cultural differences are monumental. I gave up on Asian chicks a long time ago. I'd chalk it up as a loss. I believe the more traditional or ethnic a girl is, the harder it is to bang her, unless you're one of them. Not impossible, no, but they do tend to gravitate towards their own kind.

I respectfully disagree dude........
I"ve had lots of Asian chicks that were not "Americanized"...........
If I could give advice on this subject, I would say that there's a delicate dance that needs to be done in regards to being interested in their culture, and just wanting to bang them cause you have an Asian fetish........
In other words, you can score points by knowing stuff about where they're from and their culture, but I think it's a big turn off for them if they sense you're just suffering from "Yellow Fever"...........
So it's important to hide the fact that you're interested in them just because they're Asian.

 

[LiveFreeX]

I spoke to an Asian friend and he told me that it's not uncommon for Asian (non westernised) girls to require 10-20 dates and serious commitment before sex and was shocked I tried to kiss on the second date. At the same time she is in my class, and I don't want to get some sort of reputation for this.I would say she is possible relationship material.

What the f*** do I do?

What BULLSH!T. I focked my wife on the third or fourth date and she's a GOOD, traditional Chinese girl from POOR China. Your game must suck or she doesn't like you. You did the wrong thing by 'hanging out as friends'. This is something that doesn't happen in the 3rd world, girls are pretty clear as to what is going down. A jap, well they are 1st worlders so you are getting the extra helping of feminism so prevalent in Japan today. If you really have yellow fever, the only cure is to get pure untouched stuff from the source.
The Asian femininity is so potent here, many guys lose themselves in their first girl and end up being married after only a few dates.

I can't complain, I'm one of those and I've never been happier. :crazy:

Go to Thailand or Vietnam or Cambodia.

I met an HB10 Italian girl in Mexico.

Was she from Puerto Vallarta? Sounds like my ex.

 

[LMFAO]

Well I stopped talking to her and f*cked her hotter asian friend instead in one night. Best sex ever.

 

[Zarky]

Details?

 

[LMFAO]

I have been flirting with her best friend for a few weeks in class, and was going to meet up with her eventually but she didn't appear interested at first. I thought I had even been friendzoned. Then out of no where, she texted me one night saying her boyfriend is really boring, and come to my place so we can have a drink. I was seeing another girl that night so I said no I can't sorry but I really want to.

I got back home around midnight and sent her a text to see what she was doing. She told me to come to her place now, so I left and took a taxi. The kiss came naturally and within 2 seconds of that we were ****ing like rabbits. She told me to c** in her mouth, and so I duly obliged. She jokingly sent me a text the next day that it was terrible sex but that I can prove myself next time.

 

[Married Buried]

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[Married Buried]

What BULLSH!T. I focked my wife on the third or fourth date and she's a GOOD, traditional Chinese girl from POOR China. Your game must suck or she doesn't like you. You did the wrong thing by 'hanging out as friends'. This is something that doesn't happen in the 3rd world, girls are pretty clear as to what is going down. A jap, well they are 1st worlders so you are getting the extra helping of feminism so prevalent in Japan today. If you really have yellow fever, the only cure is to get pure untouched stuff from the source. I
The Asian femininity is so potent here, many guys lose themselves in their first girl and end up being married after only a few dates.

I can't complain, I'm one of those and I've never been happier. :crazy:

Go to Thailand or Vietnam or Cambodia.

Was she from Puerto Vallarta? Sounds like my ex.

Come to the usa and see if you can get a chinese woman they will prob **** on you.

 

[Vulpine]

She jokingly sent me a text the next day that it was terrible sex but that I can prove myself next time.

Dude, LMFAO, try this out next chance you get (only if you don't speak Japanese).

Tell your Japanese gal:

"Anata wa utsukushi desu."
(don't pronounce the last "u" on desu, just say "dayce")

Then, watch her response. It should be something like:
(you just told her: you are beautiful) She'll be tickled that you tried to use the language.

But then, have some fun with her and tell her this:

"Sono chibusa o misete kudasai"

If she starts getting upset, say: "Wait, what's the word for smile?"
You know, blow it off as a mistake.

She'll offer something like "hohoemi"
...to which you can say: "Oops... Sono hohoemi o misete kudasai."

"What did I just say?"
"Show me your tits"
"Oh, well, I thought I said 'please'..."
(kudasai is a formal "please")

There is so much fun to be had goofing around with languages. The best part is you can pass it all of as a misinterpretation if you want: completely harmless.

Since you've already seen her t¡tties, she probably will just up her shirt with a giggle, though. It would have probably been a better routine for the first, uptight, chick.

I'd be interested to hear what happens!

 

[dasein]

I think people generalize by ethnicity way too much on this forum. Is there some truth to the generalizations? Yes. Is it smart to use them to try to navigate with them? No.

The girl OP got put off by was probably f-ing a different guy within two days and her friend that he ended up getting with easily probably blew a guy off within the same two days. It's much more profitable IME to game common habits of "women" than to game supposed common habits of this or that ethnicity of women.

 

[Married Buried]

I banged a half chinese chic before on the first meet I picked up online... but she was completely Americanized nothing was really chinese about her she didn't even have an accent. First time I banged her I was on benzos and alcohol and could not bust so just f/cked her good until passed out she came back. Banged her one more time after that but I was more sober so she didn't come back.

Also banged a japanese chic who seemed FOB but she had a good job and made good money, they both were single and made good money, alot more than me. They were both computer programmers.

The japanese chic got mad one time when I didn't reply to her text right away, she called me a player. She was probably a damned wh0re who got played too many times to count, had a snake tatoo down her whole entire back and was a screamer in the sack.