That’s telling her you see her as only a potential fvck buddy…
As you are getting ready to end a first date woman asks "What are you planning to do after leaving/this?"
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HyenaPrince
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This poll is a self-fulfilling destruction. If the majority votes Yea, you're going to have the pressure of the thread on your shoulders. If the majority says No, you'll manipulate yourself into believing there's no chance to f*ck her.
Just go for a walk in a park or along side a lake, start touching her a*s if she's down for it and then tell her "We're close to my place. I really need your opinion on my new 'luxurious' designer table. Do you think you got what it takes to judge my taste?" Obviously the table part is pure sarcasm. You should tell it as such.
Or you tell her some other made-up sh*t like "My neighbor gave me some tea recently. I'd really like to drink it, since I love Earl Grey. But I'm afraid she poisoned it. Can you be my personal cup-bearer to make sure I'm safe?"
That's just my style. It may or may not work. Also, make sure to have Earl Grey at home.
Just go for a walk in a park or along side a lake, start touching her a*s if she's down for it and then tell her "We're close to my place. I really need your opinion on my new 'luxurious' designer table. Do you think you got what it takes to judge my taste?" Obviously the table part is pure sarcasm. You should tell it as such.
Or you tell her some other made-up sh*t like "My neighbor gave me some tea recently. I'd really like to drink it, since I love Earl Grey. But I'm afraid she poisoned it. Can you be my personal cup-bearer to make sure I'm safe?"
That's just my style. It may or may not work. Also, make sure to have Earl Grey at home.
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I have Paris tea...it is really good...I love Earl Grey but that might be better...
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Bro, whatever tea you have, it will get this deal sealed if you're smooth enough. These b*tches love tea since Gossip Girl. Tea bag her with your Paris tea.
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Stop overthinking it. She had a good time from the sound of it and you did the right thing by asking her back to your place when she asked what you were doing in the evening and she declined...so what move forward. She probably did not want to look easy. Reach out to her and ask her out on another date if you like her and enjoy it.
Guys need to stop over analyzing.
Guys need to stop over analyzing.
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It's a secret (wink).
It's just something women that like you say. It's as natural a reaction as them brushing their hair to the side. It has no crazy meaning behind it, and it doesn't mean they want you to stay and have sex. Just tell them what you're gonna do later and leave
Not enough escalation but I understand given your public situation and her feeling nervous about PDA.
As for her question, you should've always flipped it back to her. "What are you doing later?"
If you notice, gals do this tactic a lot. Especially if you match and chat online. You try asking them a question or ask 3 and they'll only answer two and ask you the same 3rd question to see what you would say first.
You'll also see hesitation when they are asked questions that are uncomfortable to them.
Also, if she went home with you the first date and had sex, there might be a good chance she might've had buyer's remorse. Gals sometimes can't think straight and need time to sleep on it. That's why generally if you can get gals on second dates, there's a high probability of sex since she has already slept on it and hamstered everything away already and is more sure with herself.
I wouldn't sweat it. Her loss if she decides not to see you again. You've given her a good time and that's all you can do.
As for her question, you should've always flipped it back to her. "What are you doing later?"
If you notice, gals do this tactic a lot. Especially if you match and chat online. You try asking them a question or ask 3 and they'll only answer two and ask you the same 3rd question to see what you would say first.
You'll also see hesitation when they are asked questions that are uncomfortable to them.
Also, if she went home with you the first date and had sex, there might be a good chance she might've had buyer's remorse. Gals sometimes can't think straight and need time to sleep on it. That's why generally if you can get gals on second dates, there's a high probability of sex since she has already slept on it and hamstered everything away already and is more sure with herself.
I wouldn't sweat it. Her loss if she decides not to see you again. You've given her a good time and that's all you can do.
This OP, are you insane? She wanted your to take her back to the stabbin cabin.
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Maybe the result would be the same but I just feel like I am not as smooth as I should be a lot of times...like I have my good days and then OK days and then bad days with that.
I am wanting to make more OK days good days and more bad days OK days...gotta just keep at it.
Maybe she didn't mean a anything by saying that then. Just say you're going to go home or something and leave it at that.
Maybe it was bait to get validation, basically attention whorving and she just said it to gauge your interest level so she could get you to invite her back and reject you.
I just reread this and noticed this piece.
In my experience, if the gal is having a good time or she's pretending to be and she cut's it short, it's because she's not totally into you or she literally has a legit excuse.
On the other hand, if time is standing still for her and you cut it short then it may be communicating subliminally that you are getting bored or not really into her that much.
A girl is going to keep wanting to be with you and not keep track of time if she's really into you. I've had first dates that's lasted anywhere from 4-8hours. Generally if a girl doesn't even bat an eye at the time after a couple hours, there's a good chance you can venue change, kino/makeout, invite her back to your place.
OP, do you find yourself initiating the ending of a date? Maybe this is why you get these questions often.
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If she wanted a reaction from me she didn't get it. I just shrugged said "Oh OK cool, have a good night. Talk later." And calmly walked off.
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Yeah she never mentioned leaving or that she had to go or even looked at her phone the entire date. I likely could have gotten her somewhere else but I tend not to try and have marathon first dates although some of the ones where we cook dinner together have been 5 or 6 hours but that involves banging for a couple hours
taiyuu_otoko
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Everybody's overthinking this.
It was a simple test, you failed.
Let's get out of here (we).
Where are you going (no we).
You IMMEDIATELY dropped your frame (we) and crawled into hers. (no we).
I guess I'm going to watch a movie.
game over
Had you been confident, and more sure of your frame, you could have said:
Where are you going?
I'm going to take you back to my place, etc.
It was a simple test, you failed.
Let's get out of here (we).
Where are you going (no we).
You IMMEDIATELY dropped your frame (we) and crawled into hers. (no we).
I guess I'm going to watch a movie.
game over
Had you been confident, and more sure of your frame, you could have said:
Where are you going?
I'm going to take you back to my place, etc.
backseatjuan
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This is a type of sht test. She is not implying anything involved with you and her in romantic fashion. She is doing her availability trap. As if, she wants you to drop everything and invite her to go "fck" to which she'll tell you no she's busy. No boy. I'm busy I'm doing important or fun sht., we'll fck next time.