I don't think that women have become less special in my eyes. I think it's more that I've been more practical and level headed when it comes to women and relationships.
After taking the red pill, I came to the realization like all of you that my views of a relationship and women were skewed because I was misguided, idealistic, and believed in information which was not true. After going through this phase, I think I became very practical and realized that the Disney-fairy tale ending is not the reality of how love and relationships work.
To give an analogy of this transitional experience, it was like having dreams about the job I wanted as a 5 year old. I wanted to become an astronaut, I wanted to win the Nobel Prize and cure cancer and AIDS, and at one point I wanted to become a CEO of a fortune 500 company. As I grew older, I calibrated my expectations based on where I was at, what I achieved, and where I was heading in life. While I won't say those goals are impossible, I would say that my chances are marginal at best of achieving those goals.
This is the same thing that happened with my views on women. I just became more practical as I grew up. I learned about hypergamy, cheating women, branch swinging women, BPDs, and all the other stuff that is constantly written on this board about women. The idealized view of women that I had in my mind has been completely rewritten.
This doesn't mean that women in general have become "less special" to me. It just means that fewer and fewer have been "more special" b/c I screen a hell of a lot more than before. You can take the experiences and view it negatively or positively. I choose to view things positively and I am very happy with my experience on this board learning about all the problems of marriage and women from the seasoned members of sosuave. I have learned vicariously through everyone on how to mitigate disasters that may pop up if and when I decide to tie the knot.
After taking the red pill, I came to the realization like all of you that my views of a relationship and women were skewed because I was misguided, idealistic, and believed in information which was not true. After going through this phase, I think I became very practical and realized that the Disney-fairy tale ending is not the reality of how love and relationships work.
To give an analogy of this transitional experience, it was like having dreams about the job I wanted as a 5 year old. I wanted to become an astronaut, I wanted to win the Nobel Prize and cure cancer and AIDS, and at one point I wanted to become a CEO of a fortune 500 company. As I grew older, I calibrated my expectations based on where I was at, what I achieved, and where I was heading in life. While I won't say those goals are impossible, I would say that my chances are marginal at best of achieving those goals.
This is the same thing that happened with my views on women. I just became more practical as I grew up. I learned about hypergamy, cheating women, branch swinging women, BPDs, and all the other stuff that is constantly written on this board about women. The idealized view of women that I had in my mind has been completely rewritten.
This doesn't mean that women in general have become "less special" to me. It just means that fewer and fewer have been "more special" b/c I screen a hell of a lot more than before. You can take the experiences and view it negatively or positively. I choose to view things positively and I am very happy with my experience on this board learning about all the problems of marriage and women from the seasoned members of sosuave. I have learned vicariously through everyone on how to mitigate disasters that may pop up if and when I decide to tie the knot.
