article: Why Tinder is making women MISERABLE: Men swipe right for an ego boost with no intention of speaking to matches

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But new evidence suggests the apps have created a different kind of problem – men play Tinder like a game, swiping right to everyone just to see who has 'liked' them.

This can be frustrating for women, who are pickier about who they match with, since men they are paired with are less likely to reply to their messages, a new study has found.
Men are more likely to swipe right but then not send a message, whereas women are much pickier but will message first more often than men.
my opinion: It's not an ego boost; it's a time-saver. Men are just swiping positive (I use a browser, so I don't swipe to any side :rolleyes:) on anything that doesn't obviously look fat, and then when they get a match, they take a closer look. And of course, the Chad-tier men are getting enough interest that most of the chicks that swipe positive for them don't make the cut.
 

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my opinion: It's not an ego boost; it's a time-saver. Men are just swiping positive (I use a browser, so I don't swipe to any side :rolleyes:) on anything that doesn't obviously look fat, and then when they get a match, they take a closer look. And of course, the Chad-tier men are
getting enough interest that most of the chicks that swipe positive for them don't make the cut.
Swipe apps are making more men miserable than making women miserable. Women have a better deal on the swipe apps due to abundance. A few top tier men are having a good time on the swipe apps but that's it.

The 50th percentile male is better off doing something else to arrange dates.
 

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Let’s be honest. Most women on Tinder are desperate. Likely 3-5/10
 

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So funny they say women are suffering and men are misbehaving- what a crock.

What it should say is they aren’t getting attention from men that are well out of their league.

When women right swipe me I see shows me upfront, I don’t even need to swipe, 9/10 of them are well below my smv. The 1/10 that is my looks match usually has other structural issues.

So rare to find someone worth spending any time on.
 

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Why bother to read a profile or come up with a "personalized line" if 95% of the times you dont match nor get a reply?

They dont get the fact that men think logically and straight.

Regarding the idea that women write first....well probably to top chads if they are average janes.

Pointless to bother read a bio if you didnt match and pointless to put effort on the first message when you're not even sure she will replies.

Regarding the ghosting behaviour, guess who introduced it in the dating dymanics...
 

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There's a funny swift going on. I dont know any man whose still on Tinder or any OLD app. Most dudes I know are all about making money and saving that money. Some simply rather do it like back in the day: going out.

Somewhere this must be felt by women. They say there's a surplus of men, but again, I don't know many men who are openly stating they're using swipe apps. Makes sense, when you get zero matches there's no point staying there taking mental beatings.

At some point these apps will die if they dont change their policies. Hinge apparently now advertising that "their intent is to make you DELETE the app" rather than staying on it.

Why bother to read a profile or come up with a "personalized line" if 95% of the times you dont match nor get a reply?

They dont get the fact that men think logically and straight.

Regarding the idea that women write first....well probably to top chads if they are average janes.

Pointless to bother read a bio if you didnt match and pointless to put effort on the first message when you're not even sure she will replies.

Regarding the ghosting behaviour, guess who introduced it in the dating dymanics...
Yeah this had me laughing out loud.

The "personalized line " was one of the first shocking signs of how entitled women became. So wait, I HAVE to say something witty, but when you say some then a simple "hi" is sufficient?

It was the first sign something was off. I never did the "witty line" shyte anyway. Its just D teasing you. As if you approach a woman who sends you back like a child to "ask again but this time how you supposed to lil boi", only to reject you again haha.
 

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my opinion: It's not an ego boost; it's a time-saver. Men are just swiping positive (I use a browser, so I don't swipe to any side :rolleyes:) on anything that doesn't obviously look fat, and then when they get a match, they take a closer look. And of course, the Chad-tier men are getting enough interest that most of the chicks that swipe positive for them don't make the cut.
This is because men have very low limits for simply fvcking a girl when they are in a dry spell but higher standards when they have more options and dates.

So basically these fall into separate buckets. You have the "OK to fvck" bucket and the "interested in dating" bucket.

The swipe on everyone method gives them more low level "easy" targets to fall back on if things go dry.
 

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7 per cent of men and 21 per cent of women sent a message after matching
That still means that women only text 21% of their matches. Those aren't exactly good stats. Tinder has become a complete waste of time.
 

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Is tinder good if you are out of town and looking for some quick fun? Can you do that with a free membership?
 

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When it comes to main steam media on these things it's pretty much always the opposite of reality. We all grow up with it. Men are bad. Women are these prefect little angels. Yeah ****ing right m
 
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