MatureDJ
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This article amounts to nothing more than rationalizing bad behavior. Gee, I'm financially secure riding my husband's coat tails, I'll go have an affair. Gee, I feel like I'm too responsible for organizing family affairs, I'll go have an affair. Gee, I don't go out of my way at all for my husband, we aren't emotionally close, I'll go have an affair. Blah, blah, blah, blah, sounds like you are not committing or investing your marriage, while your partner is. Gosh, do you mean an imbalance of power and investment in the marriage leads to bad behavior on the part of the person who cares less and has less to lose? Never would have seen that coming. Gentlemen, another reason to refrain from marriage.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Exactly this. It's like what a lot of guys say when it comes to seeking advice about dating/gaming women: don't take advice from women.This article was written by a woman.
Remember, women constantly speak to put themselves in the best light.
Also remember that every word a woman says must be translated. Same applies with an article written by a woman. You will seldom gain deep insight by trying to learn from women’s article.The articles are automatically designed to elevate/maintain/defend the value of the author or women in general.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Then either abolish marriage or alimony/child support. This creates an immediate imbalance of power in the relationship. Look, no one can lead all the time. It's difficult to lead when you have no power/authority or way of punishing bad behavior. The reality of it is for men, once you get married, you're at an immediate disadvantage. You have a good career, make good money, you're exposed, even if you have a good pre-nup. The judge in family court, which doesn't abide by the constitutional rules afforded those charged with a crime, can throw it out if he/she thinks it's unfair. Even if she is a real scumbag, you still might not get primary/full custody. With that in mind, it doesn't matter, even if she works, you're the primary breadwinner and therefore, subject to more responsibility in the marriage and ultimately, more responsible for paying if the marriage breaks down. So imagine paying for a home you don't live in, to bring another guy into your house to play daddy to your kids. What a kick in the balls that is.This article was written by a woman.
Remember, women constantly speak to put themselves in the best light.
Also remember that every word a woman says must be translated. Same applies with an article written by a woman. You will seldom gain deep insight by trying to learn from women’s article.The articles are automatically designed to elevate/maintain/defend the value of the author or women in general.
Some just like the rush of not being caught.Why is it empowering to cheat?
We are intrinsically connected socially as a society. We're wired to think like a tribe, always have.Why does everything have to be connected to some greater social issue all the time?
There's the rub....your biology demands diversified sexual experiences, on the other hand, you yearn for emotional connection.
That's the comfort phase of boredom that must settle in until the couple decides to re-engage the relationship and interject novelty or excitement again. This can be like experiencing the things that brought the couple together in the first place that gave the spark. Both parties have to want it. If that doesn't work try something completely different and new to generate novel experiences (much like the brain needs novel experiences to strengthen neuronal connections).Do you guys think that couples can get to a point when they are essentially special friends that for a unit that goes through life together, but are not sexually exclusive?
That's also, an issue isn't it? Getting diversified sexual experiences to sow wild oats, but then many lose the ability to pair-bond in an LTR or marriage. See @Desdinova's High Score Theory thread.I think about this a lot because I do not buy this idea of being really wild early in life and then settle down later.
That's the hard part with developing a strong emotional bond with our partners... main plate or exclusive LTR... it gets harder to separate emotions from logic after sex many times and carry on without jealousy. One of the ways we discuss often here is to spin plates to balance the emotional/logical battle in our minds. Having options/abundance is sort of our safety net in lieu of monkey branch swinging scenarios.Would this not be the ideal, albeit practically almost impossible because you are also biologically hardwired for extreme jealousy?
True. Though this isn't gender-specific because what we're looking at is two people selfishly giving up on each other and looking at the grass as greener to get a reprieve from relationship realities with a distraction in a fleeting romance with another partner.The article touches on an interesting point, by stating that some couples seem to arrive at an unspoken agreement over this, which seems to enhance the working of the marriage (Just because women cheat more now, does not mean that men do so any less).
And most of those chicks are dreaming. Can they do better? Do you mean can they get a guy to nut on their face tonight? Sure, pretty much any woman can. They could find a high quality, muscular, successful guy to nut all over their face. Can they find a better guy to build a strong, quality relationship with? Hell no they can't. But now society feeds them a steady dose of donuts and "You go girl!!!" and now they think they're entitled to whatever they want. They're entitled to happiness. They're entitled to a top notch guy. They're entitled to money, clothes, cars, jewelry and all of the other status crap. However, and this is the important part, they have no intention of putting any of the work in to do so. Folded some laundry today? Check, you're entitled. Made some dinner? Check, you're entitled. Took care of the kids you said you wanted? Check, you're entitled. Take care of your partner? Hell no, why would I do that as a woman when I can jump on FB anytime I want and find dozens of high quality men who will nut on my face tonight and then forget my f*cking name tomorrow. God, these women are pure bliss, smh...I think I've probably heard women apologetically explain to me that "they know they can do better" as far as their significant other about 15 times.
Agreed! We all get fed this idea of marriage will make us happy (both women and men).Maybe they’re just bored of their life? Sex on the side is dangerous and breaths life into them. Men stop gaming women, stop working out after marriage.
It’s much simpler than that. Moral codes do not apply to survival instincts. All our moral codes do not apply to breeding strategies.only thing I can see of anyone cheating someone is lack of character, and no fear of losing the partner
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.