my wife and i had a very interesting conversation over the weekend.
we were in lexington friday and saturday for the keeneland fall meet, which we do every year. There was a man there, Kenneth Ramsey, who had a great weekend as an owner, won a couple of grade 1 races, and another grade 2 race, all in a span of 2 days, that's just unheard of. even better, I am pretty sure he actually bred all of them which again, is unheard of. Even more undheard of, he owns the sire that they bred to (kittens joy). just win all around. It's the type of weekend you dream of as an aspiring horse owner.
so, we are sitting there at keeneland, and he gets in the winners circle after winning the Darley Alcibiades with Stephanies Kitten, he gets in the winners circle, with his wife, whose health is failing. she has had kemo for a while and has to be taken around in a wheelchair. she can't go to all the places he can go to, and sometimes he skips races to be by her side when things get real bad. What i am getting at is, he loves that woman. Ken Ramsey is loaded to the point where he pisses off what i have in my bank account at 1 sale, i'm pretty sure 8 figures. But even more interesting, him and his wife started the business, real estate and i want to say something to do with cell phones, that let them be millionares. THEY started the business. Meaning, when she met ken ramsey he was not the man financially he is today and she loved him anyway.
Ken ramsey doesn't come from money, hell he used to work on the backstretch of race tracks as a kid hotwalking horses. he worked his way up in life, now they are living life the way they want.
I say all that to setup the conversation we had. She (my wife) was so moved by them, and ther eally are nice people, country as all get out, but nice people who love the sport of horse racing. So, we have these quasi-debates/hypothetical questions all the time.. she asks me, "when is the last time you seen a multi millionaire or multi billionaire, meet his wife before he was rich?"
****, i don't know. That's a damn good question. I get uncomfortable talking about what i am worth but for the purpose of this conversation i have to, and while it's not a hell of alot, lwith the money i make on a yearly basis, the house i own, and the money i still have in savings it's comfortably over 1 million (depending on what you appraise the house for it's right at 2 million), and i did not met her until years after i sold my first company.'
but before i met her, i had amber. I was very much in love with amber. She was black, looked great, was very funny, very playful, loved to have sex, and while she had her faults, i had even loved to love her faults. I had no qualms about her being my sarah ramsey in life (ken ramseys wife).
However, when Amber, found out that i wasn't "done" and that i planned on using the money i had made, to basically fund other ventures and not go all stuntastic, not go on shopping sprees and ****, not have 5 Mercedes in the drive way, her attitude towards me started to change, and within months of me seeing my company she cheated on me. lol she had basically spend all my money in her head.
to this day I still don't have any hard feelings towards amber, amber is amber lol. But i bring that up to say, WOMEN are in trouble.
women, will cry as far as the day is long, about wanting a man that is successful, ambitious, hard working, dedicated, but when she finds one, she is to ignorant to realize what she has, and lets him go. Amber would be living it up right now had she stayed faithful, and the last time i checked in with her, about a year ago to say happy birthday, she just got out of a relationship and she's working at whole foods.
Would my now wife, had she seen me at 20 years old, saw the qualities in me now then, and looked past the lack of materialistic things? I don't know, i would like to think so. She says she would have, as long as I "looked presentable" lol, but we will never know. And my wife knows, to the T what i have planed to do with my money in the near future, but would she be so willing to jump on board if i didn't already have a comfortable nest egg?
it's like you have 2 types of men. The men who want "it" now and the men who want "it" later. I fall into the later crowd. I was willing to wait to get mine because i like a higher quality class of women. I knew i could always throw on some clothes and start talking to women, but not only would i not be achieving what i want to achieve deep in my heart, i would be settling for women that i don't consider my level.
It shouldn't have to be like that. A non materialistic, non partying, hard working man who is focused on things, who isn't going to splurge money, is like the plague to women today.
