article: What's Happening To Women's Happiness?

[MatureDJ]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marcus-buckingham/whats-happening-to-womens_b_289511.html

I found the graphs of women's happiness through the years and the ages to be the most interesting.

My opinions:

Women are getting less happy through the years because they have steadily given up their sexual modesty in the name of feminism, as well as act uncontrollable, such that potential suitors are not willing to marry and stick around - something that has been important to women throughout the ages.

OTOH, men can now get the good stuff more easily and don't have as much stress being the primary breadwinner, so their happiness is stronger.

Women become less happy as they age (and men more happy) because their market value in sexual relations decreases as that of men's increases.

What do you think?

 

[Hooligan Harry]

Great article. But the reason why they are unhappy is because they tend to share the views of this cvnt.

When we were young women we worked to be treated like an equal and to show the boys we could climb the trees, and build the club houses and manage the money, and go to college and run a business. It was fun to be better at their game than they were, especially because the stereotype said that women were inferior. Well we succeeded. We can do it all. We run large businesses, We manage huge amounts of money, We can put up shelves and paint the walls of our homes, all while changing diapers, breast feeding and running shopping errands. MAKE NO MISTAKE WE LOVE OUR HUSBANDS, and for good or for band, since we can do it all....they are fine with LETTING US DO IT ALL. Now the men have the time to dabble in their interests, focus on their business and play with the kids. Ultimately what seems to have happened, as we became the breadwinners, the fixers, the homemakers, We made ourselves in the image of the MEN we longed to marry ; to create the home we longed to have. In the end we are jealous that the men seem to enjoy our efforts and we are left exhausted with the bulk of responsibility that we have orchestrated for ourselves. It is fun to be taken seriously, but with the power comes the burden of responsiblities and in this world Male or Female holding it all together takes a toll on happiness.

Its all in there. Everything wrong with that miserable 40+ woman has been condensed beautifully into this contribution she made. The description of what she wanted, what she did, her reaction to it, the disappointment in realising it had not turned out the way she planned and then the awesome emotional rationalization she attempts to make by blame shifting.

 

[HoneyHitter]

I read some of the comments. And it's really sad to see that most of the women who commented (probably all of them 40+ y/o) live with their heads in the clouds.

And I honestly doubt the research:
Did the research include the homeless, the disabled and people in penitentiary? Because I think that would really have an impact on the results.

Men and women should not be expected to compete against eachother. Our strength lies in compatibility.

 

[penkitten]

i read the article but i personally feel opposite.
the older i get, the more :
relaxed as an individual i become.
i see how extremely lucky i am compared to many others out there in this world who either have so little it is hard to manage, or have so much that they are money hungry monsters.
the less i care about keeping up with the jones'.
the more i come to know that only i am responsible for my own happiness and that i must contribute to the happiness of my family.

just because some of the people in the study have grown jaded in time, i see it as growing wiser and realizing what real happiness is.

 

[Warrior74]

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Men and women should not be expected to compete against eachother. Our strength lies in compatibility.

We have been turned against one another, a house divided, or a people divided are so much more consumed with just getting the basics for themselves they have no time to think, nor act against those controlling them.
:tinfoilhat:

 

[Von_S]

My favorite line...

Now the men have the time to dabble in their interests, focus on their business and play with the kids.

Really?

How many guys do you know get their balls busted or flat out prohibited from watching sports, going out with the guys and generally doing what they want to do?

Focus on our business? Umm you mean work? The thing we do that brings in money that you end up spending on stupid 5hit like dresses and shoes that can be worn only once?

Sorry for spending time with the children, we'll just go back to ignoring them.

Don't women want good husbands who provide and fathers who nurture? As for point #1 most of my married friends are on f**in' lock down, every weekend is some kids birthday party to go to to fraternize with other dead-eyed couples.

I'm not against marriage, I'm against marriage to demanding ball busters.

 

[sodbuster]

Men learn at an early age that we won't be NFL stars-we find out quickly that we aren't big enough or fast enough. The girl we have a crush on doesn't like us,etc. So, we look at other options and learn to accept the fact life won't turn out the way we dreamed as kids. Women don'tseem to figure it out until they are in their 30's or 40's that Prince Charming isn't goin to show up,that their kids aren't going to be the little angels they dreamed, and they aren't the rocket scientist they thought they were. SO as more and more of life slaps them into reality-they become unhappy.

 

[Nutz]

Great article. But the reason why they are unhappy is because they tend to share the views of this cvnt.



Its all in there. Everything wrong with that miserable 40+ woman has been condensed beautifully into this contribution she made. The description of what she wanted, what she did, her reaction to it, the disappointment in realising it had not turned out the way she planned and then the awesome emotional rationalization she attempts to make by blame shifting.

What I got out of that was that she described becoming a man and realizing it's not all it's cracked up to be.

 

[Colossus]

Not everything comes down to sexual value. Read that excerpt HH posted. They have their cake and now they don't want it.

For so long women were more or less prohibited from doing the things men do, and the age came along when they were given the license and social backing to do "man" things. So they do them---they get careers, they make money, they manage businesses, they live the high-powered lives they feel like they are entitled to. And they find out it sucks. No one is taking care of them. They created this life of responsibility for themselves, and lo and behold, they find themselves ultimately unhappy because there is no Man taking care of them. They end up bearing the brunt of the responsibilities and they find pussified men to accommodate them. They are overwhelmed with responsibility they really don't want or need, and naturally they blame men for their unhappiness and inability to meet their "needs". Really, deep down, every woman just wants to be loved, respected, and to be cherished in her home---to have security provided for her and her family.

Hopefully women will collectively realize that men dont care how big their fvcking panties are; we dont care about their acomplishments and we are straight up turned off by their bloated egos they give themselves for essentially just being an adult. Paying bills, managing money, being responsible. Good for you, you're an adult. Except now you have a massive sense of entitlement and have totally ignored the feminine attributes that make a man want to be with a woman in the first place. And it's not all sexual value. That's an area of overcompensation and doesn't negate a b!tchy personality, emotional issues, selfishness and lack of loyalty. But unfortunately, men place so much value on physical appearance that we ENABLE women to basically be b!tches who look really good. As a result, we have a bounty of women who are fvckable, but a paucity of women who are lovable.

 

[Nutz]

But unfortunately, men place so much value on physical appearance that we ENABLE women to basically be b!tches who look really good. As a result, we have a dearth of women who are fvckable, but a paucity of women who are lovable.

Werd!

This really boils it all down nicely. It's long, but a quick read:

http://www.datingsecretsformen.com/2009/08/24/the-feminism-problem-part-i/

http://www.datingsecretsformen.com/2009/09/03/the-feminism-problem-part-ii/

The solution to this dilemma has absolutely nothing to do with women. We can not and should not ask them to change. Rather, what men must do - and I say must for a reason - they must rediscover their own power. The plague is powerlessness, and we must find the true, natural source of our masculine power while shedding the culturally distorted and socially stifling view of men in this day and age. This has nothing to do with marching into the woods with a club or hammer and “taking what is mine”. This has nothing to do with the massively confused concept of the “alpha male”. This only has to do with rebuilding a masculinity which both works for our time and our women, but that absolutely serves and empowers the disenfranchised male from the inside-out.

 

[Colossus]

Corrected my misuse of the word "dearth", lol.

 

[DMSR76]

Men learn at an early age that we won't be NFL stars-we find out quickly that we aren't big enough or fast enough. The girl we have a crush on doesn't like us,etc. So, we look at other options and learn to accept the fact life won't turn out the way we dreamed as kids. Women don'tseem to figure it out until they are in their 30's or 40's that Prince Charming isn't goin to show up,that their kids aren't going to be the little angels they dreamed, and they aren't the rocket scientist they thought they were. SO as more and more of life slaps them into reality-they become unhappy.

Some things need to be repeated.

 

[DMSR76]

Hopefully women will collectively realize that men dont care how big their fvcking panties are; we dont care about their acomplishments and we are straight up turned off by their bloated egos they give themselves for essentially just being an adult. Paying bills, managing money, being responsible. Good for you, you're an adult. Except now you have a massive sense of entitlement and have totally ignored the feminine attributes that make a man want to be with a woman in the first place. And it's not all sexual value. That's an area of overcompensation and doesn't negate a b!tchy personality, emotional issues, selfishness and lack of loyalty. But unfortunately, men place so much value on physical appearance that we ENABLE women to basically be b!tches who look really good. As a result, we have a bounty of women who are fvckable, but a paucity of women who are lovable.