A person that goes around trying to appease others all the time will eventually lose their own identity and end up feeling empty, decreased self-confidence, and increased anxiety.
A healthy relationship should be reciprocal in encouraging and maintaining an individual sense of self. When one loses their identity and sense of self they are likely to look to others to validate their own self-worth. As time goes by these types put more and more importance on how others view them. They seek constant reassurance/validation/praise from others in order to feel good about themselves. Behavior changes along with appearance. Everything is done for “show”. These people put on a façade and become a shell of their former self. They keep their real identity hidden under the surface.
True happiness, satisfaction, and confidence is derived from within, never externally from others.
It’s a pretty solid article. It can be applied to both men and women. It would do some of you a lot of good to study psychology and you would probably end up with better relationships.
