Article - Secrets Women Keep

[The Truth]

some decent points in there

 

[penkitten]

Yea, and we as men save our best w/ones who get it, and the worst is natures problem. May I ask, as I find this interesting, what criteria you are mentioning? You seem naturally 'entitled' to a secret society, forbidden and impenetrable by men. That is OK.

On the other hand, if we, as men, I have to mention, are 15 minutes late coming home, our phone is OVERLOADED w/ calls from the chick you are seeing. Of course, she deduces you are cheating on her, we all know this.

So, my questions are : Does a man enjoy the same rights you do in a relationship? Are we allowed any privacy, at all? The girls, from what you wrote can acceptably conceal their actions, desires, secrets, in any manner decided, and it's cool. They are justified. Finally, please tell me why a man today would desire to commit to a woman w/ this mentality? I am not picking a fight, just curious, although I think I know too much already, on this.

PK, tell Gio a friendly hello, best wishes to you both.

i didnt know that anyone replied to what i said, sorry im late to reply.
i was commenting on secrets in general that chicks tell their girlfriends and not the guys they are dating. secrets can range from how many people we slept with in the past, who was good in bed and who wasnt,how rough periods are, that we think we are "late" and all the labor story woes... that sort of thing. once you are in a ltr with someone, your secrets are about things like "girl i didnt even know he had a temper until the other day when... blah blah blah" and they usually end in one of those "no he didnt " lines.

however to answer your questions about men in the relationships.. i think everyone is entitled to privacy. for instance, my husband never needs to share information about past girlfriends, everything he has needed to share has already been shared. when he has a phone call with a friend, i dont ask him details of everything hes said, just ask how is so and so. i dont feel the need to check up on him by checking his cell phone ( i dont even know all the people in his phone list and it doesnt bother me) or computer or wallet. i dont feel the need because hes a honest man. so when he calls and says traffic is bad and hes gonna be late, i hold off dinner for a bit so its not cold when he walks in the door. i dont act like that because he doesnt deserve it.
i'm not his momma, i 'm his wife. i didnt marry him to become his momma, although i do take care of him. i married him to share our lives together, and i can confide in him and hes my best friend. however, i can never be his best guy mate and talk football and he can never be my best girlfriend who knows my woes of laboring children and the periods that follow.

i do know other women who listen in to their husbands / bfs phone calls, they check their pockets daily and they check their email and cell phones on a daily basis. they are insecure, and dont even know it. they blame the men in their lives for everything. so maybe that man did them wrong, and i wonder why they stay with them. maybe it was one in the past, and i wonder why they hold everyone accountable rather than just the one that did it to them...
when it comes to them being in a relationship with a man who hasnt done her wrong, and shes so insecure that she feels the need to pry into his privacy especially newly into the relationship, if shes a friend of mine, i steer her out of the relationship. shes clearly not ready for one. AND i feel the same way about guys who do this to women.