This. People need to take off the Disney blinders and realize marriage for what it actually is: a contract between the man, woman, and state. The relationship doesn't actually change so if you're well off enough to get married then why get married to begin with knowing all the risks that are associated with it?squirrels said:LOL...women expect marriage to be like a friggin fairy-tale. (it's not)
The thing is, when a woman doesn't get her fairy-tale, she can just up-out and a bunch of p***y-whipped AFCs and jacked single friends will sympathize with her. If a man doesn't get HIS fairy-tale out of marriage and leaves, he's a scoundrel.
To answer your original question, if you have realistic expectations about marriage, you won't have to "compromise". As to whether you should get married or stay single...it's an individual circumstance decision. Problem is, most people take marriage "by default", because they don't know what else to do with themselves. That's why the divorce rate is so high.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
In other words, women in their late 30s & 40s that squandered their youth or dumped the men in their lives because they weren't Mr Perfect (which the women naturally assume they're entitled to) are having high regrets for their decisions. It would have been even funnier if the woman's friend in the article, the one who was dumped by his wife because she didn't love him anymore, had gotten a young nubile girlfriend to have a kid with instead of taking back the harpy. At least the writer felt the sting...In fact, if I'm being really honest with myself, he is, and I'm not proud to admit this, a Mr Not Quite Right But Will Do Because My Time Is Running Out.
Had I been younger, I'd have dwelt on what's missing - a strong physical chemistry, a passionate connection, romance - and I'd have called it a day after the first date.
Instead, I'm trying to focus on his many virtues. He's intelligent, funny, solvent, tall, dark, good-looking, mature, reliable and possibly the least egotistical man I've ever gone out with.
Also, I think he'd be faithful (though it is, of course, impossible to know for sure). He wants children and I think he'd make a good father.
I first met him in my 20s. We were together for a year, but my heart was never in it. Then I became infatuated with someone else and we split up.
When I bumped into him again at a party in February, we were both single. He asked me out. I said 'Yes' not because I'd been struck by Cupid's arrow, but because I'd decided I didn't want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I felt instinctively that time was running out. This is a horrible feeling for a woman. No wonder no one talks honestly about it.
Around the same time, I learned that a man I'd secretly thought was The One (there was a palpable, but undeclared chemistry we'd skirted around for years) was about to marry his new, young, pregnant girlfriend.
It wasn't a question. It's the title of the article. I already know the answer for me personally. Which is why I'm happily single.squirrels said:LOL...women expect marriage to be like a friggin fairy-tale. (it's not)
The thing is, when a woman doesn't get her fairy-tale, she can just up-out and a bunch of p***y-whipped AFCs and jacked single friends will sympathize with her. If a man doesn't get HIS fairy-tale out of marriage and leaves, he's a scoundrel.
To answer your original question, if you have realistic expectations about marriage, you won't have to "compromise". As to whether you should get married or stay single...it's an individual circumstance decision. Problem is, most people take marriage "by default", because they don't know what else to do with themselves. That's why the divorce rate is so high.
What's missing? What is it he doesn't have?Danger said:This part blows my mind.....what is it that she freakin wants? How could this not be enough? What is missing?
Greasy Pig said:Agree with all the above. I work with a lot of young women and they say they get 'bored' easily with men. It's obvious to me that they believe relationships (and marriage) should be a man and woman looking lovingly into each other's eyes EVERY DAY, holding hands and skipping through strawberry fields. When this doesn't happen, it's the man's fault and he gets punted to the sideline.
Women need to grow up and contribute more to relationships instead of believing the world - and men - owe them everything.