article: I Kept Dating Through My Pregnancy—And It Was Surprisingly Good

[MatureDJ]

I Kept Dating Through My Pregnancy—And It Was Surprisingly Good

While it used to be a taboo, going on Tinder and dating while pregnant was just the confidence boost one writer needed.

www.glamour.com

When I was pregnant, the last place I expected to find myself was on Tinder. But when I got dumped by my baby daddy five weeks in (despite the fact we’d been together for 12 months, it had actually never been that serious), I decided to dust off the heartbreak and embrace dating while I still had the stamina and—let’s be honest—a relatively flat stomach.

When it came time to make my profile, I figured a complete stranger didn’t have the right to know every detail of my personal life. After all, I hadn’t even told the majority of my friends and family during the early stage of my pregnancy. Should I actually hit it off with someone well enough that they asked me out for a second date, I’d go, and if we hit the trifecta, I’d reveal the truth behind my hearty appetite and frequent trips to the restroom. Otherwise, it was probably none of their business.

Date four came in under the wire, just as my bedtime was edging toward sundown the further into my pregnancy I moved ... Nothing came of it, except for a “Say WHAT?!” comment he left on a social media post where I showed off my bump six weeks after our date. I was so curious to know what he actually thought. Was he annoyed? Confused? I’d never know, and I was kind of pleased with myself for remaining mysterious.

The curious thing is, when I was in the third trimester and looking/feeling like a hot-air balloon, I was asked out not once but twice in the street. OK, so it was winter and I was wearing a coat and clearly the guys didn’t realize straightaway. In fact, the second guy, who had the confidence to approach me on a busy sidewalk, was clearly mortified and swiftly turned and ran in the other direction when I pointed at my belly.

my opinion:

 

[EyeBRollin]

What the **** is wrong with these simps?

 

[rjc149]

Just proves -- there is no such thing as "The Wall" for women. Male thirst ensures saggy, C-sectioned women will have dating options well past their prime. Everyone here needs to stop kidding themselves that you're going to have the last laugh just because you're male.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Just proves -- there is no such thing as "The Wall" for women. Male thirst ensures saggy, C-sectioned women will have dating options well past their prime. Everyone here needs to stop kidding themselves that you're going to have the last laugh just because you're male.

Hitting the wall doesnt mean being unable to find sex, hitting the wall means being unable to get attention from decent men and commitment from average ones.

 

[JayAce]

“Otherwise, it was probably none of their business”.

Hiding the fact that you’re pregnant before meeting someone and still after a few dates.... no biggie smh

 

[rjc149]

Hitting the wall doesnt mean being unable to find sex, hitting the wall means being unable to get attention from decent men and commitment from average ones.

The truth of this statement depends entirely on one's definition of "decent" and "average" men.

There is also no universal cut-off for "the wall" that is so commonly asserted on this forum, ie. "women after 30 are all used goods and worthless" etc.

My point is that because all of these components are fluid, subjective, and case-by-case, men finding some sort of validating redemption in women "hitting the wall" is silly escapism. Even though a man's sex appeal can last later into his life (provided some pretty major conditions are met -- he's already handsome, he's taken care of himself and he's independently wealthy), a mediocre 45-year old man still has less dating options than a mediocre 45-year old woman.

There are too many opinions in the red pill manosphere that go "when she's 45 she'll be alone and unwanted, while when I'm 45 I'll be raking in the pvssy because men don't hit the wall as hard" which is just a fantasy. Decently attractive middle-aged women have plenty of good options. Only very attractive middle-aged men have the same abundance.

 

[Bigpapa]

Just proves -- there is no such thing as "The Wall" for women. Male thirst ensures saggy, C-sectioned women will have dating options well past their prime. Everyone here needs to stop kidding themselves that you're going to have the last laugh just because you're male.

spot on

a woman will always have more value to society than a guy

from a society point of view ,the only role a guy has is to either work , either to create

the more things you gain because working or creating , the higher position in society you have

the higher position in society you have , the more access to top tier women you will have

Sure , you can still bang occasionally good looking women , but they will never really see you as a potential long term thing , and it will not happen as often as you think it could

 

[rjc149]

spot on

a woman will always have more value to society than a guy

from a society point of view ,the only role a guy has is to either work , either to create

the more things you gain because working or creating , the higher position in society you have

the higher position in society you have , the more access to top tier women you will have

Sure , you can still bang occasionally good looking women , but they will never really see you as a potential long term thing , and it will not happen as often as you think it could

Yes. A man must create his value. A woman’s value is inherently between her legs.

 

[Bigpapa]

Yes. A man must create his value. A woman’s value is inherently between her legs.

an old woman can still have value by being a nanny as an example

and men will still want to date her , sure older ones ... but they still will want to date her

the truth is that the older you get , if you do not have a lot of resources , you will not Have access to the young women

and also ,the older you get , the more you give the provider vibe than the lover one

 

[bat soup]

I Kept Dating Through My Pregnancy—And It Was Surprisingly Good

While it used to be a taboo, going on Tinder and dating while pregnant was just the confidence boost one writer needed.

www.glamour.com

my opinion:

What stands out to me here is the passive language she uses:

"I found myself on Tinder"
"Nothing came of it" (or inside it)
"I got asked out twice"

Things happen to her in life, or at least that's how she sees it.

 

[derby1]

Just proves -- there is no such thing as "The Wall" for women. Male thirst ensures saggy, C-sectioned women will have dating options well past their prime.

dont confuse activity with sales, no male of value is committing. western ,women 30+ are destroyed, I only have to look around me,

 

[deadmasterx]

"Women and children are loved by simply existing, while men has to prove their worth to society, their equals and world. That's why the turn from childhood to adolescence and adulthood is particularly hard for boys."

Honestly, why is still surprising that a woman could get bald, be pregnant, blind, ugly, obese and still get a man to love and please her?

 

[derby1]

Honestly, why is still surprising that a woman could get bald, be pregnant, blind, ugly, obese and still get a man to love and please her?

there used to be treatment only dimes got, Now with social media, every woman gets pretty girl treatment

the woman in my apartment bloke is obese and masculine as hell, and without even selling her coochy, she could still get more resources a week from men, than a mildly accomplished male could earn himself

 

[Bigpapa]

dont confuse activity with sales, no male of value is committing. western ,women 30+ are destroyed, I only have to look around me,

there is always someone out there that will commit . For women , as it is for men , is a numbers game . If she is willing to go through 100 guys , for sure she will find at least a quality guy that will commit to her

so guys , rather than waiting for the women to hit the wall , just go and do stuff and improve your quality

I always was sympathetic towards guys who had no idea with whom they have married , and this happens because the average guy is clueless when it comes to women . They focus too much on the making money game

 

[derby1]

and this happens because the average guy is clueless when it comes to women .

Its not that hes clueless its because of his "investment" lets take a look at this...

1)(we remove the fact I am red pill as they come), I would like to think i'm a pretty handsome guy, and i earn okay money.

2) the last 10 women i have managed to even get out, havent been all that, behaviour wise. (lets call this the investment)

3) women only need to swipe up to get laid/date, men not so much. this is why they can mess you around in 2021 and it means nothing to them.

4) 5 weeks later after my atrocious dating prospects of 10 western women, Lady 11 turns up, shes miles better than the other low hanging fruit. so my mind goes into scarcity behaviour to keep her I sub consciously give her pass cards for all her below par behaviour, due to my investment.

 

[Bigpapa]

Its not that hes clueless its because of his "investment" lets take a look at this...

1)(we remove the fact I am red pill as they come), I would like to think i'm a pretty handsome guy, and i earn okay money.

2) the last 10 women i have managed to even get out, havent been all that, behaviour wise. (lets call this the investment)

3) women only need to swipe up to get laid/date, men not so much. this is why they can mess you around in 2021 and it means nothing to them.

4) 5 weeks later after my atrocious dating prospects of 10 western women, Lady 11 turns up, shes miles better than the other low hanging fruit. so my mind goes into scarcity behaviour to keep her I sub consciously give her pass cards for all her below par behaviour, due to my investment.

it Does not matter why this happens , what matters is the result ...

Sure , it is not fair , and it sucks ... but things are how they are

being red pilled is not about competing With women in the mating market , nor is to hate them because they have it way easier and that they are spoiled

Being red pilled is about knowing where you sit in the food chain , and knowing what you have to do to go up , but also accepting things for how they are

The truth is that guys will not have the last laugh , and guys should accept this , and be ok with it .

In the moment you let go of all this bullsh1t , you will be free , and you would be amazed on how things will develop from that point on

 

[nismo-4]

Just proves -- there is no such thing as "The Wall" for women. Male thirst ensures saggy, C-sectioned women will have dating options well past their prime. Everyone here needs to stop kidding themselves that you're going to have the last laugh just because you're male.

Most guys would rather hold a 65 year old woman with 6 kids than hold a Xbox unless they're making games for it. A woman that age has a pu$$y, a game console does not. And every guy wants more sexual experience, playing Call Of Duty and Madden does note give that. Well, it warms your hands up to whack off with!

Sure a woman's looks fade, but the wall just means they can't keep Chad, Tyrone, Enrique, Vishnu, and Hiroshi. They'll all pump and dump. But they'll still expect you to be beta Bob, John, Pedro, Faraj, and Koji. They can't attract a Dwayne Johnson or Lebron James.

Dating apps and social media has a bunch of chicks touting that "I am the table!" Make them get on all fours and whip out your penis!

A lot of flakes come from offering these low-investment dates i.e. coffee shop or walk in the park. Good for the guy, he won't get used and he'll delete the number, and he weeded out someone who wanted dinner before Tyrone blows her back out.

Women past 70 play these little ho games too.

 

[Barrister]

The truth of this statement depends entirely on one's definition of "decent" and "average" men.

There is also no universal cut-off for "the wall" that is so commonly asserted on this forum, ie. "women after 30 are all used goods and worthless" etc.

My point is that because all of these components are fluid, subjective, and case-by-case, men finding some sort of validating redemption in women "hitting the wall" is silly escapism. Even though a man's sex appeal can last later into his life (provided some pretty major conditions are met -- he's already handsome, he's taken care of himself and he's independently wealthy), a mediocre 45-year old man still has less dating options than a mediocre 45-year old woman.

There are too many opinions in the red pill manosphere that go "when she's 45 she'll be alone and unwanted, while when I'm 45 I'll be raking in the pvssy because men don't hit the wall as hard" which is just a fantasy. Decently attractive middle-aged women have plenty of good options. Only very attractive middle-aged men have the same abundance.

It isn’t so much that 45 year old women won’t have options. They will. But women who were considered beautiful in their 20s and early 30s at 45 are likely going to have massive mental baggage just due to the fact that so much of who they are is invested in how they look and that is clearly leaving them at age 45. By contrast - a man at 45 can have other things going for him that keeps his SMV high (relatively speaking) besides just being good looking. He generally will not have so much of his psyche based upon the image staring back at him in the mirror as the woman.

 

[Bigpapa]

It isn’t so much that 45 year old women won’t have options. They will. But women who were considered beautiful in their 20s and early 30s at 45 are likely going to have massive mental baggage just due to the fact that so much of who they are is invested in how they look and that is clearly leaving them at age 45. By contrast - a man at 45 can have other things going for him that keeps his SMV high (relatively speaking) besides just being good looking. He generally will not have so much of his psyche based upon the image staring back at him in the mirror as the woman.

dunno mate , but most men after 25 look like sh1t , and it only gets worse as they grow older

But I agree that on average , a top tier guy at 45 can have more top tier options than a woman at the same age

but there are a lot of buts ... and we all know how this usually ends up

 

[Barrister]

dunno mate , but most men after 25 look like sh1t , and it only gets worse as they grow older

But I agree that on average , a top tier guy at 45 can have more top tier options than a woman at the same age

but there are a lot of buts ... and we all know how this usually ends up

I have to defer to the 121 year old on this!